Mafe Anzures script library

Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Long form
Published: 2026-02-09
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Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=woiEK0kh09o
Runtime: 32 min 13 sec (6,469 words)

The script, as delivered on camera

to whoever this may impact. Sometimes our lives have to be completely shaken up, changed, and rearranged to relocate us where we're really meant to be. Sometimes change feels like loss. Transformation is scary. And sometimes to discover the best versions of ourselves, we must let go of absolutely everything that's holding us down.

Welcome to I Missed Me, your new safe space. I'm excited to form a part of your healing journey. Hey besties, welcome back to another episode of I Missed Me. If you're new here, welcome. We are a healing self-growth community, all looking to become the best versions of ourselves.

And if you're not new here, bestie, welcome back to another episode. Happy Monday if you're listening to this on a Monday. And if you're not, I hope that you're having the most amazing week. Bestie, today we have an exciting episode because I told you guys on the intro episode that this season specifically, we're going to talk a lot about friendships.

I feel like all throughout the podcast and the four years that I've been podcasting and having I Miss Me, I've talked about heartbreak a lot. I've talked about relationships a lot, talked about breakups and how to move on from men, how to get over breakups, which is something that I connected a lot and still connect to a lot. But lately, and mainly because I've been in a relationship for the past 2 years, I've learned a lot about relationships on the friendship side, more than I've ever in my whole entire life.

To give you guys a little background of me and friendships, I've been a really good friend. I've been a really bad friend. I have had really good friend groups and I've had really terrible friend groups. I've had amazing friends and I've had really bad friends.

So, I think I do have a lot of experience when it comes to friendships. I've had all types of friends, all types of friend groups. And I've also learned and have grown a lot as a friend myself. I now today consider myself an amazing friend.

I'm the type of friend that will be there for you no matter what. If you literally call me at 1:00 a.m. and need me to pick you up, I will be there wherever you are. Like, I'll literally drive two hours for my best friend if she needs me there.

I'm the type of friend that does favors for you. I'm the type of friend that picks you up, drops you off, and I never expect anything back because I genuinely, if I consider you my friend, I genuinely feel love for you and I genuinely care for you and I genuinely want you to do good and I genuinely want what's best for you. I haven't always been like that.

I've been the jealous friend. I've been the possessive friend. I've been the friend that only wants you for myself. And I've been the friend that's been scared of losing my friends. And so I, you know, try to accommodate myself and be the type of person that everyone likes and everyone enjoys being around.

So I don't think anyone is for everyone. And I think that the more, and I said this on episode number one, but I think that the more that you try to be for everyone, the less that you are for anyone. Someone that tries to be liked by everyone ends up not being liked by anyone because they can never be fully themselves and they can never show their personality 100% accommodating themselves and their personality depending on who they are with which ultimately has to do a lot with like insecurity and I don't even think that those type of people know who they are but that's literally besides the point of the episode.

I'm like drifting away. But I feel that introduction was kind of like a little background as to how much I've learned about friendships especially these past two years where you know I've left college so I didn't really have a regular college experience where you know college is normally the place where you make your lifelong friendships and get to hang out with go out with. I've kind of had like a different lifestyle simply because social media really isolates you a lot and it's like a great job.

I love what I do, but it really does isolate you a lot. I spend a lot of time at home. It is not easy to make friends, especially in this space that's full of like comparison and jealousy, and not a lot of people want what's best for you genuinely all the time.

But with all that being said and with that introduction being said, I was about to come on here and start this episode giving you guys friendship red flags and four things that you should look out to when making friends like red flags and be aware of this and be aware of that and don't be friends with this type of person. But then I thought to myself, okay, it is obviously very valid and okay to be aware of the people that you surround yourself with and the people that you choose to be friends with, but how about I look internally? And how about instead of making this episode about the external and about everyone else around me, I turn this episode into a self-reflection episode instead.

What can you do now and today to become a better friend? I am a firm believer and I've said it always and I will continue to say it that you attract who you are. Which also means that if you want to attract good friends and if you've ever been someone that struggles with friendships and is now scared to open up and be vulnerable with people because your friendships always end up badly.

Sometimes you need to look within and sometimes you need to ask yourself, am I being a good friend or am I being the friend that I'm trying to attract? And if not, this is the episode for you. How can you become a better friend?

Or how can you continue to be a good friend? Or how can you be an even better friend if you have a lot of friends, but sometimes you might disappear or ghost them and think that it's okay because they're your friends and they're going to be there for you forever. Or if you think that you don't have to keep up with them because they're not a real relationship or they're not a romantic relationship.

I've learned lately that friendships are just as important or even more important to take care of than romantic relationships because I feel like it's already a default to take care of romantic relationships because it's what you know you're supposed to do when you're with a person, you talk to them 24/7 and you're with them all the time, whatever. But friendships are just as important and they are the ones that will be there for you in case that person breaks your heart or that relationship ends. Friendships will save you from heartbreak.

Friendships will take you out of a deep hole. We are supposed to have people around us. I'm going to talk about that a lot throughout this season because I've also talked about loneliness and how to be okay with being alone and how to enjoy your own company.

And as important as that still is, it is just as important to find a group of friends or to find one good friend that you can spend time with, that you can talk to, like you can have conversations with. And again, you will only find that and you will only find healthy friends when you yourself become a healthy friend. So besties, with that long introduction, welcome to today's episode.

How to be a better friend without losing yourself, which is also extremely important. Now, we're going to talk about how to be an actual friend, not just the type of friend that we follow each other on Instagram, we comment on each other's posts, we react to each other's stories. not an online friend, not the online version, not the aesthetic type of friend that you see online and you're supposed to be and if I comment hard eyes on your picture, we're immediately best friends or I'm supporting you just because I'm commenting on all of your posts.

But how to be a real friend, someone that people can't count on. Because the truth is that most of us were never taught how to be good friends. We were taught how to be liked, how to be easy, and how to not take up as much space.

Now besties, being a good friend is not about being perfect. It is about being aware. This episode is not about blaming anyone, but it is about self-awareness and looking inward. Because the truth is that every single friendship has two sides.

And for a relationship to be healthy and for a relationship to maintain itself, it needs two people. And one of them is you. And growth starts when you are willing to become aware of your side of your part and how much weight you have on the friendship.

Step number one to become a better friend. Besties, a better friend is a self-aware friend. Most friendship issues don't come from bad intentions. They come from misunderstandings. They come from blind spots and they come from conversations that we never have because our ego doesn't allow us to.

Self-awareness in friendships means knowing how to react when you feel triggered. Knowing what to do when you feel left out, knowing when and if you shut down, you get defensive, you get aggressive, you become passive, and knowing how you handle conflict. Psychological research literally shows that people who lack self-awareness often overestimate how good of friends they are.

Not because they're bad people, but because they've never slowed down to observe and recognize their patterns. So, if you want to look inward and you want to become self-aware, ask yourself these questions. Number one, do I listen to respond or to understand?

This is extremely important not only for romantic relationships. It is important to listen to your friends and it is important to create a safe space so that your friends are able to communicate when they're triggered by you or when something that you did was uncomfortable for them. It is so easy to call out friends when they make us uncomfortable.

You did this and you did that and you were a bad friend to me in this aspect and you didn't do this or I wish you would have done that. But do you listen to your friends? Or do you create a safe space for your friends to open up to you, to let you know what you did, and to let you know that you made a mistake?

Because sometimes we lack so much self-awareness that we don't even know that our friends are scared of us. I've been that friend. I've been the friend that people are scared of to open up to. I've been the passive aggressive friend.

I've been the friend that likes to call everyone out but doesn't really look inward or is open enough to accept criticism. And I lost a lot of friends because of it. And there was a period of time back in 2022 where I literally had no friends because I did not accept any single comment that was impositive towards me.

It is very important to understand and realize that if someone wants to open up to you about something that you did to them instead of just walking away, it means that they care about the relationship. Because if you really think about it, if someone didn't care about you and you made them mad and you made them uncomfortable, they would just simply ghost you and walk away. If someone is brave enough to be triggered by you and on top of that want to have a conversation with you to let you know that you have hurt them to fix things and for you to apologize instead of seeing it as, oh, they're just attacking me and they're not seeing my side of the story or they're just being dramatic and they take everything personal and get offended by everything.

think to yourself and realize, wow, this person is brave enough to number one, tell me that I hurt them because it is not easy at all. And number two, they care about me and the relationship enough to instead of just walking away and ghosting me, wanting to have a conversation and literally just looking for an apology from me to be okay again. switch your perspective and understand that if someone wants to fix things with you or if someone is opening up to you, it means that they care about their relationship enough and they care about you enough to stay.

Question number two that you have to ask yourself, do I make conversations about me without realizing it? And this is something that a lot of people do again without realizing it. And it is very normal, but it's so so something that you have to become aware about because if you do it, even if it's unconsciously so much, people will want to stop having conversations with you.

If every single time that someone brings something up to you that they want to talk to you about and that literally they just want you to listen and you flip the conversation to now talk about you yourself and your personal struggles or your personal experiences, that person will never feel heard because you never really gave them a solution or you never really helped them or maybe they weren't even looking for a solution. They were looking for someone to listen to them and instead you made them listen to you. It is not a safe space for them anymore, but you have turned it into a safe space for you.

And again, it can happen unconsciously. Sometimes we do it, and I include myself as a way to relate to them, not as in I just want you to listen to me, but oh my gosh, yeah, I've been through that too, and this is how I handled it. Sometimes it can come off as what you're telling me is not that important because I've also been through it and it's normal to go through it when for that person, it might be very important.

Maybe they just want to share it with you. Number three, do I communicate my feelings or do I just expect others to guess them because I assume that they would know that what they did is wrong or what they did would hurt me. And assuming is literally one of the biggest mistakes that you can ever make in any type of relationship.

And it's in the four agreements, the book. I really recommend it. Do not assume. Ask. Have conversations. Be brave enough to be like, "Is this what you meant?" or is this what you meant to do or how you meant to make me feel? Because most of the times and if that person really cares about you, the answer is that they didn't.

Sometimes people don't know how they hurt you or what they did to hurt you. And that doesn't make your feelings not valid. It just means that you have to communicate them for them to validate them and for them to understand them.

Because again, we're all different. Just like it's your first time being their friend, it is also their first time being your friend. I actually went through a friendship breakup recently over this because a situation happened where that person assumed that I was supposed to think in the way that she thought and because we were very different.

I didn't and she took it personal, never brought it up to me, was mad at me without even me knowing that she was mad. And because I didn't apologize over something that I didn't even know I did, we cut each other off and I was extremely confused. And she was like, "Yeah, because you did this, this, and that." And I was like, well, you have to separate your the feelings from the facts.

And the facts is that I did this and I didn't know that it was going to make you feel like this. And I would have probably apologized if you communicated with me that you felt like this, but you never did. And the friendship just ended there.

And that is why it is so important to communicate your feelings because sometimes they are so far away from the facts and you will never know unless you communicate. And number four, very connected with number three. Do I disappear instead of addressing issues?

And if the answer is yes, you have to be better besties. Especially if you want to maintain relationships, especially if you want to maintain friendships for the rest of your life or if you want friendships to last for years. People are not mind readers.

And you will not always get an apology because like I said, some people will never know that they hurt you unless you communicate it instead of disappearing. you give up on the relationship as soon as things get hard or as soon as someone triggers something in you that they didn't even know was a trigger. If you care about the person, if you care about the relationship, if you've truly leaving the ego aside, think that this friendship is is worth fighting for, overstep your ego, become conscious, become self-aware, and instead of disappearing, address the issue.

Awareness is not blame. Awareness is clarity. One of the most common mistakes when it comes to friendships is thinking that you're listening while you're actually just waiting for your turn to talk. Real listening looks like not interrupting with your own story.

And again, not bringing something that happened to you while someone is being vulnerable, sharing something that happened to them. Not immediately offering it advice because sometimes people just need to be heard. And sometimes people are just looking for a space to communicate their feelings that they've been bottling up waiting to share them with you.

Not minimizing emotions. Just because it wouldn't have hurt you doesn't mean that it's not hurting them. Just because you can't understand it doesn't mean that they're not going through pain. And not redirecting the focus back to yourself.

Sometimes the focus will be on you. And whenever you need that person to listen to you, the focus has to be on you for it to be reciprocal. But sometimes the focus is going to be on them. And your ego has to become okay with that.

Studies literally show people feel closer to friends who ask thoughtful follow-up questions rather than just giving solutions because you make them feel like you're actually listening to them and not like you're just waiting for your turn to talk and share your experiences instead. Next time that you're having a conversation with someone and you catch yourself about to say, "The same happened to me." or whenever I went through this, this happened or I went through that same thing as well. Try to replace it with how did that make you feel?

How do you feel right now? What have you been doing to feel better? Do you want my advice or do you just want support? Do you want my genuine honest opinion and what I'm actually thinking and feeling? Or do you just want me to listen to you?

And both are fine. And you have to be okay with both. That's another thing. You have to be okay with your friends not wanting your advice because this is a situation that they are going through and they are going to learn how to navigate by their own life experiences and in the way that God wants them to navigate it and go through it.

Sometimes I feel like as friends we make the mistake to get frustrated with our friends because they're not navigating situations the way that we would. And the truth is that just because you would go through a certain situation in a certain way doesn't mean that your friend has to go through it in that same certain way. And that has nothing to do with the friendship.

Your homework as a friend is to be there for your friend regardless. And no matter how they choose to navigate that certain situation, ask what do you need from me right now? And whatever that is, you have to be okay with and you have to respect it.

Sometimes presence is more powerful than answers. Sometimes just being there for someone is way more powerful and more important to them than any piece of advice that you would want to give them. Consistency is better than intensity.

Most friendships don't really end over betrayal. Most people don't hurt each other intentionally, but they fade because of inconsistency. and they fade because of the excuse of I was way too busy or sorry I didn't see your text or sorry I wasn't on my phone or sorry life has just has been so chaotic that I haven't had the time to text back.

That is a lie. We are on our phones 24/7 and I can literally grab my phone right now and text my best friend back. It takes me 10 seconds and I can go about my day. It takes 10 seconds to text back. It takes 20 seconds to check out your phone and have a conversation with a friend.

It is a lie that you haven't been on your phone. It is a lie that you have been way too busy to answer when literally all you do is scroll on your phone 24/7. Relationships break because of inconsistency. And just like you're waiting for a text back from a guy that wants nothing to do for you, you should be just as focused.

And it should be just as important to you to text your friends back, to follow up with your friends. Hey, how are you? How was your day? How have you been doing? How are you feeling today? Even if it's twice, three times a week.

People have time for what they want to have time for. And the fact that you've been way too busy to text back is not enough of an excuse. You're just being a bad friend. Being a good friend doesn't mean constant availability.

And it doesn't mean that you have to be available 24/7. But it means reliable presence. Be there for your friends. And I could talk about my current friends and the friends that I have right now and the people that I get to call my best friends today for hours.

I love my people. Every single person that I have in my life right now, I love. I have nothing nothing nothing bad to say about anyone that I get to call and have the privilege to call my friends right now. Literally, it was the vision board party two weeks ago.

I told you guys that I had the first week of January or like the second week of January, I hosted a vision board party. And of course, me having 100 million things to do and leaving everything for last minute, I realized that I went to buy all the materials with two of my friends. And that was like literally a day before the vision board launch party.

That's a story for another day. I need to work on my time management. That's literally besides this point. We're not talking about me right now. But I bought all of the materials. I thought that I had everything ready. And then the next day when I got to the place literally at 4:00, the vision board party started at 6:30, I realized like, oh my gosh, I didn't print a poster.

Like literally the most important part of like the whole setup, which is what people were going to take a picture of and tag the podcast, which obviously the point of like the event was obviously to have fun and network, but it was awareness to the podcast and to the studio, which very kindly gave me the place. I didn't have a poster for people to take pictures of and with. And I didn't have the time either.

I was in Windwood and if you live in Miami, you know that Friday at 5:00 p.m. it's literally impossible to drive anywhere in Miami because of traffic. It is it is literally so insane. And so I had two of my best friends, Mari and Nikki coming to my event.

You guys have probably seen them like posted on my social media. I post them all the time. But Mari was driving an hour and 30 minutes from her house to Winwood. She was so far and she was driving all the way from her house to Winwood on a Friday night just to come to my event.

And when I realized that I don't have a poster, I call her and I'm like, "Dude, Marty, you're going to kill me. I know that you're probably super far away and you're rushing, but I really need you to go to FedEx right now because I really need to print a poster." Immediately, 5 minutes later, she was in FedEx asking to print my poster. For some reason, it didn't work out.

She couldn't print my poster. She drove all the way to Winwood. When she called me that she couldn't print a poster, my second immediate thought was called Nikki. Nikki, please. I need you to go to FedEx and print my poster. Five minutes after I call her, she was in FedEx printing my poster and she got there 30 minutes late because she was printing my poster.

Shows up with the poster and I was able to have a poster. But my point is that presence and friendships and being available for when your friends need you is probably the most incredible gift that you can have to then also receive. Because if you're there for your friends, your friends will be there for you.

The only reason as to why I feel comfortable enough to call them and ask them for a favor like that, which it could have been any other thing, but I've called Maddie for favors multiple hundred thousand times, and she's called me for favors multiple hundred thousand times. The only reason as to why I feel comfortable enough to call her and ask her for something without being scared to ask her is because she knows and I know that if she were the one to call me in 5 minutes I would have been in FedEx to do the exact same thing because we're both present in each other's life. We're both available in each other's lives.

And it is such an important quality to have as a friend. Be there for your friends. Be available. Be available genuinely without expecting anything back, without being like, "Oh, because I did you a favor, now you have to do me a favor the next time." No.

Be there for your friends. Be willing to do favors for them. Be willing to make their life easier because I promise you that whenever you need something, you really truly want friends that are available and willing to do things for you.

And that will only happen when you're willing and available to do things for them. Also, very important, be consistent. And consistency looks like checking in when nothing is dramatic. Checking in when nothing dramatic is happening.

Just checking in because you're checking in. Hi, how are you? How are you doing? How was your day? How are you feeling? Are you feeling okay? How have you been feeling lately? Is there anything that you want to talk about? How was your day?

And just talk about each other's day. Remembering important moments, prioritizing special dates, following through on plans. I feel like it's so romanticized on social media. And I see it all the time. me being happy when my friend cancels plans because now I get to stay in and chill at home.

Do not romanticize isolation and do not romanticize loneliness and do not confuse cancelling plans and not following up with your friends with protecting your peace and your mental health because your friends are supposed to add to your peace and to your mental health. And if they're not, then they're just simply not your friends. But do not confuse isolating from your friends or cancelling on your friends as protecting your energy because you're not protecting your energy or you're not protecting your mental health.

You're just being a bad friend. Emotional safety shows that predictability builds trust. People trust what they can rely on. If it's your friend's birthday and they invite you and you cancel simply because you didn't have the energy to go, they might invite you to something else.

And if you cancel that too, they might invite you to a third thing already assuming that you're going to cancel. But on the fourth time, they're not even going to invite you anymore. And then eventually, you're going to ask yourself, why is it so hard for me to make friends?

Why is it so hard for me to find people to hang out with? Cuz you're not a good friend cuz you're not there for your friends when they need you. Cuz you don't show up to important dates. And again, it doesn't make you a bad person.

It just makes you a bad friend. You don't have to be loud. You don't have to be texting someone 247 all the time, all day, every single day because obviously you also have your things to do. You have your routines. You have your plans.

But be consistent and be present. How to be a better friend. Do not make their heart moments about your discomfort. Many people pull away when their friends are struggling not because they don't care, but because their discomfort feels overwhelming to them.

And I've seen it so much. That person has issues. That person is going through it. their vibe or like their heavy energy is like translating into mine. And don't get me wrong, there is a very fine line in between sharing your issues with your friends and making your issues their issues, which that's not okay at all.

Your friends are not your therapists. But as a friend, when your friend is going through a hard time, that is when they need you the most. And you have to have enough grace to understand that their energy and their mood and their attitude and their emotions are not going to be 100% because they're going through a tough time.

And that doesn't mean that there are bad vibes or they're bad energy. You just have to have again grace and comprehension about the fact that they're going through it. And when you go through it, you would want them there. Don't pull away just because you don't know what to say or because you don't want to say the wrong thing.

And so instead of not wanting to say the wrong thing or not knowing what to say, you don't say anything at all and you just simply completely disappear and ghost. Being a better friend means choosing presence over perfection. And it means I don't entirely know how to be there for you right now, but I'm going to choose to be there for you anyways because you need me and I know that.

That can literally look like sitting in silence saying or even communicating it. I don't know what to tell you right now, but I'm here for you. If you want to share or overshare anything with me, I'm here. Allowing someone to feel without rushing them to heal just because you want your friend back.

But avoiding someone during their hardest moments of their life is very selfish and it only teaches them or it lets them know that they're only lovable or worthy to be friends with when they're doing good and when they're feeling 100%. Again, besties, presence matters more than perfect words. Honesty without kindness is just criticism.

And listen to me on this one. Please listen to me carefully on this one. There is a way to be honest and not aggressive. There is a way to be honest and not attack the other person and make them feel horrible about themselves.

There is a way to be honest with grace and with love. And if honesty doesn't have love behind it, it is just hate and it is criticism. Honesty in a friendship is extremely important. But delivery is just ass or even more important.

Being real doesn't mean being careless. And it's not only about what you want to say, but it is also about how you say it that will make the person grow and be better. Healthy honesty is specific. It is grounded and centered in care and love.

It is shared at the right time and it is free of humiliation. There is a way to be honest with a person without absolutely destroying them their confidence. And there is a way to be honest without completely humiliating them.

Before giving any feedback and before being honest with a friend, ask yourself, what intention am I doing it with? Do I want to share this honest thought with them because I want them to feel bad about themselves or do I want to share this honest thought with them because I genuinely want them to be better? Am I saying this to help them or am I sharing this to help me release my own frustration?

Is this the right moment? And are they in the right headsp space to listen to me? And is this something they can actually change? I'm gonna give a really stupid example, but let's say that you don't like that shirt that your friend is wearing.

And you go up to them and you're like, "Hey, I if I'm being completely honest, I don't necessarily think that that shirt is fitting for, I don't know, the place that we're going to." and it is that person's favorite shirt and it is that person's style and it is how they choose to dress and it is how they like to dress every single day. Who are you to tell them what they're supposed to wear? And who are you to tell them how their style is supposed to look like unless it is something they can actually change or would want to change?

Some opinions and some comments and some thoughts are meant to be kept to yourself. Truth should be supportive and honesty should be from a place of love, not shame. respect their boundaries and your own. Good friendships and the best type of friendships are not built on unlimited access.

They are built on mutual respect. And healthy friendships include emotional boundaries, time boundaries, energy boundaries. And a better friend doesn't guilt someone for needing space. A better friend doesn't take boundaries personal.

Communicate your boundaries, but also respect and accept their boundaries without building resentment. Unspoken expectations are one of the fastest and easiest ways to damaging a friendship. And how to be a friend. Step number seven, last but definitely not least, one of the most important ones is to celebrate your friends without comparing your success or your achievements to them.

Comparison quietly or very loudly damages friendships. A better friend celebrates without competing. A better friend doesn't downplay your wins. A better friend doesn't make you feel uncomfortable about your success. And a better friend doesn't bring up their achievements just because you feel comfortable enough to share yours.

A better friend doesn't disappear as soon as their friend grows. Celebrate loudly. Make your friends feel celebrated. Make your friends feel important or like what's important to them is also important to you. And besties, that is our list.

And that is it for today's episode. No one is a perfect friend. We all miss texts. We have all canceled plans. We have all been or given the excuse of being too busy. We all misunderstand. We all make mistakes. Being a better friend is not about never messing up.

And being a better friend is not about being the perfect friend. It is just about reflection, having more self-awareness, and truly caring as much as you would want people to care for you. It is about repairing. It is about growing.

And it is about understanding that friendships are important. And because they're important, they should be taken care of with love, respect, and putting in the work. Ask yourself, where can I show up with more intention? How can I be a better friend?

Or where am I lacking in the friendship aspect that I'm not giving, that I'm expecting, and that I could give so that I start receiving? That's it for today's episode, besties. I hope that you guys enjoyed it. I hope that it was helpful.

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Long form
Published: 2025-10-18
Views: 2,877
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KqrD1EKnvrI
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The script, as delivered on camera

to whoever this may impact. Sometimes our lives have to be completely shaken up, changed, and rearranged to relocate us where we're really meant to be. Sometimes change feels like loss. Transformation is scary. And sometimes to discover the best versions of ourselves, we must let go of absolutely everything that's holding us down.

Welcome to I Missed Me, your new safe space. I'm excited to form a part of your healing journey. Sometimes growth means leaving people behind. That doesn't just mean relationships that end in betrayal or conflict, but rather people who simply no longer fit into the version of yourself that you're becoming.

It can be painful, but it's often necessary. At some point, we all reach a stage in our life where we realize that our circle of friends or the people we surround ourselves with no longer align with who we are or who we really want to become. Maybe you've had friendships that once felt effortless.

But as time passes, you notice a gap between your values, your goals, or even your energy levels. This doesn't mean that these people are bad for you, or that you've outgrown them in a condescending way. It's more about how your individual growth journeys can diverge.

Imagine a plant growing in a garden. At one point, it needed the same amount of water and sunlight as the other plants around it. But eventually, it starts reaching for something different. It might still appreciate the sunlight, but it has different needs now.

It needs more space, different care, and perhaps even a different environment. The same thing happens with our relationships. We might still care about these people, but as we evolve, our paths may naturally start to drift apart.

And that's okay. Leaving people behind, especially people one shared our lives with, is hard. The emotional pain of this is real. You might feel guilt, anxiety, and even fear about what life will be like without those people.

You might question, am I being selfish? Am I abandoning them? Growth often requires discomfort, and this discomfort is part of the process. We hold on to relationships for various reasons. Nostalgia, familiarity, a sense of duty.

But growth asks us to prioritize our own journey. It's natural to feel conflicted. But think about it this way. When you evolve, you create space for new people, new experiences, and even new versions of the people that you already know.

Sometimes people are meant to stay for a season and not for an entire journey. Growing isn't just about what you're leaving behind. It's about what you're moving forward. We often talk about the people we leave behind as though we're losing something.

But in reality, we're creating room for a new relationships, new opportunities, and perspectives. When you let go of a friendship that's no longer serving you, you make space for people who understand and support the version of yourself that you're becoming. This might not happen overnight.

Sometimes it's a slow, gradual process, but by making conscious choices about the people that you let into your life, you invite those who resonate with your growth and who will encourage you to reach higher. It's not just about shedding old skins. It's about surrounding yourself with those who will inspire you to continue to evolve.

Navigating those awkward conversations is one of the hardest and scariest parts. If you've decided that a relationship no longer serves you, it's time to face the reality of potentially confronting the person involved. Maybe it's a friend who doesn't understand your new priorities or a partner who can't support your changes.

These conversations can feel incredibly awkward or even heartbreaking. But remember, these conversations don't have to be about blame or anger. They can be about honesty, mutual respect, and understanding. You can acknowledge the good times you've shared, express your gratitude, and be clear about the changes that you're experiencing.

You don't have to justify your growth, but you can gently communicate the distance that has grown between you and them. Sometimes the most respectful thing that you can do is to allow both of you the space to grow in your own directions. When we allow ourselves to grow, when we embrace the discomfort of letting go, something beautiful happens.

We create space for freedom. The freedom to be our truest selves without the weight of expectation. Without the weight of limitations of old patterns or people who no longer align with who we are. Freedom means the ability to take risks, explore new possibilities, and redefine what happiness looks like to you.

Sometimes that freedom can only come when we give ourselves permission to outgrow relationships that have run their course. Start by setting boundaries not as way to shut people out but as a way to make sure that the people in your life are contributing to your growth. Surround yourself with those who challenge you in healthy ways, who push you to think bigger, dream bolder and take actions that lead you to the life that you truly want.

At the end of the day, growth is a journey that's unique to each of us. It requires making tough decisions and sometimes that means letting go of people who were once close to you. But it also means opening ourselves up to a new experiences, new relationships, and new opportunities that will help us become the best versions of ourselves.

If you're finding it hard to let go, remember grow doesn't always have to be dramatic. Final break. Sometimes it's simply a gentle distancing. And in the process, you may find that the people you leave behind are also able to grow in their own way and in their own time.

You're not abandoning them. You're both on different journeys and sometimes that's how it's meant to be. Growing as a person, pursuing your goals and stepping into the faces of your life often means leaving people behind that you care about.

It doesn't mean that you stop loving them or that they are inherently bad people. But it does mean that your paths are no longer aligned. And that can create some really difficult emotional moments. It's perfectly normal to outgrow people.

In fact, it is a sign of your own growth. As we age, evolve, and experience life, our perspective shifts and our goals change. The things that once felt so important, whether it's staying in a particular social circle or participating in old habits start to lose their meaning.

This doesn't mean that the people who were once part of your life and your journey have suddenly become bad or irrelevant, but it is more about how we change as individuals. At first, this can be jarring. It feels like you're losing something and that's okay to feel.

The truth is we all go through phases where certain people serve a specific purpose in our lives. Whether it's a time of comfort, companionship, or shared interests, but eventually those purposes evolve and so do we. One of the hardest parts about growth is the pain that comes with it.

Letting go of relationships, even ones that were extremely close, can be emotionally draining. And often it is not as simple as just walking away. It might involve complicated feelings of guilt, sadness, and even fear of being alone.

When we outgrow people, there's often a feeling of leaving them behind, like we're abandoning them. We wonder if they'll be okay without us, or if they'll resent us for changing. And there's a part of us that might feel like we're not allowed to grow, to change, if it means losing those relationships.

Growth doesn't happen in a vacuum. To grow, you often need space, mental energy, and emotional bandwidth. That certain relationships might drain. Holding on to relationships out of guilt can keep you from stepping into the next version of yourself.

It can keep you stuck in old patterns and ways of thinking that no longer serve you. It's important to acknowledge the pain of this process. It's not easy, but as difficult as it may be, this is where we find the courage to honor our own evolution.

And in the end, letting go is often a form of self-respect. Embracing the idea that growth sometimes means leaving people behind opens up a whole new world of possibility. While it's natural to grieve the relationships you've grown, there's a beauty in accepting that not everyone is meant to be with you through every chapter of your life.

Once you've cleared out the space that certain relationships occupied, you allow new, more aligned people to enter your life. These are the people who will meet you where you are now, not where you were a few years ago. These are the individuals who will challenge you to grow further, push you beyond your comfort zones and support you as you chase your dreams.

It's important to remember that you're not necessarily closing the door to an old relationship forever. Sometimes people might come back into your life when the time is right, but at any given moment, it is okay to let go if you need to. You can honor the past while still moving forward with your life.

When you let go, you also create room for new experiences that will push you further. You might find yourself joining a new community, picking up a new hobby or traveling somewhere you never thought possible. It's not just the people you leave behind, but the version of yourself that's tethered to those past identities.

As you grow, you see that there's a world full of opportunity out there. And letting go is the first step towards that adventure. Whether it's a friendship that's failing, or a relationship that no longer feels right. Having that breakup talk can be awkward, uncomfortable, and honestly a little bit heartbreaking, it is important to approach these conversations with care.

Sometimes it's just a matter of distance. You might not need a formal conversation. It could just be a matter of not spending as much time together, not initiating plans, and allowing the relationship to naturally fade out.

But other times, you might need to have a direct conversation, especially if there are expectations involved or if the person involved has noticed the change in dynamics. Be clear about your needs, but also give the other person the space to feel their feelings. These conversations don't need to be filled with blame or judgment.

They're simply a part of the natural process of moving on and creating space for what's next. When you let go of what no longer serves you, it's not just about cutting people off. It's about embracing the freedom to become who you were always meant to be.

This freedom is a gift. It might make you feel like you're walking into the unknown. It can be a little scary and at times you might even feel a little lost. But the freedom that comes with stepping away from relationships that no longer align with your growth gives you the opportunity to create a life that is truly yours.

You no longer have to conform to expectations of others. You can focus on your personal dreams, your ambitions, and your happiness without the weight of keeping people in your life who are no longer a fit. This is a point where growth starts to feel liberating.

You'll be able to take more risks, explore new aspects of yourself, and form relationships that feel like an authentic extension of who you are. This new space mentally, emotionally, and physically, will help you embrace your fullest potential. Growing is uncomfortable, but it's also deeply rewarding.

It means embracing change, letting go of the past, and sometimes leaving people behind. It's not about being selfish. It is about being true to yourself. It's important to honor your own journey, even if it means you'll no longer be walking side by side with some of the people that you were once closest to.

Growth is about stepping into your highest potential. And you can't do that if you're holding on to relationships that are holding you back. You're not alone. And every step you take forward is a step closer to the person that you're meant to be.

Keep growing, keep evolving, and keep creating the life that is uniquely yours. With love, mafies, if you enjoyed today's episode, make sure to share with anyone that might need to listen. Don't forget that we have a membership where as soon as you sign up, you will receive an I missed me hoodie.

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Long form
Published: 2026-03-02
Views: 2,374
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VZnkHzsngjY
Runtime: 19 min 2 sec (3,577 words)

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to whoever this may impact. Sometimes our lives have to be completely shaken up, changed, and rearranged to relocate us where we're really meant to be. Sometimes change feels like loss. Transformation [music] is scary. And sometimes to discover the best versions of ourselves, we must let [music] go of absolutely everything that's holding us down.

Welcome to I Missed Me, your new safe space. I'm excited to form a part of your healing journey. [music] Welcome back to another episode of I Missed Me. If you're new here, bestie, welcome. I am so happy that you found me. I am so happy that you found this space.

We are a healing, self-growth, self-development community. And my purpose with this podcast has been since 2022 to help you come back home to yourself. So, I am so happy, so glad that you found this space. If you're healing, if you're going through heartbreak, if you're going through a friendship heartbreak, or if you're just going to grow, you are definitely in the right place.

And if you're not new here, bestie, welcome back to another week. Welcome back to another episode. Today we have a really good topic. Today we have a really good episode. Today we have something that I might even need to hear too.

How to stop comparing yourself to someone else's timeline. How to stop feeling behind. How to stop feeling like time is running out because someone else is doing more or achieving more than you. How to truly trust that you're not behind.

And how to learn and have faith and trust that your timeline is perfect and should not be compared to anyone else's. Let's get into it. It's going to be a long really good episode and I want to start talking about the lie that we believe and the lie that we keep believing and the loop that we fall into and literally the reason as to why it takes us to compare ourselves and feel jealous and eventually procrastinate because we feel like we're so behind and we feel like we have so many things to do and then eventually we don't even end up doing any which takes us to even more comparison and even more procrastination.

I'm talking to myself right now and if you relate again this episode is for you. But I really need you to sit down and listen to this because I learned this last year and has allowed me to start this year way slower following my gut and trusting my intuition and allowing me to rest because last year I fell into such comparison loop and I felt like I wanted to do everything all at once and didn't even allow myself to eat or to sleep or to rest. This year I'm taking it a little bit slower, but I really want you to sit down and listen to this.

You are not behind because you're literally not competing with anyone. And if you feel like you're competing with someone, your brain has lied to you. Who told you that you had to be in the same place that that other 20-year-old or that other 21-year-old or because that person is achieving this, you should be there as well.

Who told you that life is a competition? There is no way that you feel behind unless you're competing with someone. And if you are competing with someone, your brain is lying to you. Now, I know it feels like you are. I know what it feels like to scroll and see everyone achieving their dreams while you're in bed wishing you were experiencing the same thing they're experiencing.

I feel what it is to feel that anxiety and to feel like everyone got a manual and everyone got instructions of how to get to where they are and you for some reason didn't. like everyone is hitting milestones, like everyone is achieving their dreams, their goals, their aspirations, and you're still trying to figure yourself out. I know what that feels like.

I've been there. But the feeling of being behind is not proof. It is literally just comparison. And comparison is distortion. That is what I'm here for today, besties. Today, we're breaking down why your brain does this, how culture and society amplifies it, and ultimately how to heal it, and finally learn how to trust your own timeline.

Now, let's talk about social media and how social media warps your timeline. Because we consume content and we consume highlight reels and we consume other people's life in a way that our brain was never designed to process it. Social media was created by humans without knowing that the human brain was not ready for social media and the human brain was not designed to consume social media.

Your brain naturally compares to understand status and to understand safety. That's literally just evolutionary psychology. The problem is that you are comparing your everyday life to someone's curated peak moments. Nobody posts themselves in bed and nobody posts themselves procrastinating.

Nobody posts themselves crying that they are comparing themselves. Everyone curates their feed to show the best moments of their life. Sometimes for people to see it, sometimes just to keep it to themselves. You're comparing your chapter 3 to someone else's chapter 15 without realizing and keeping in mind that their chapter 3 probably looked like yours or even messier or even more painful.

Every single person goes through their journey and every single person goes through their process and every single person also has selective exposure and every single person also curates their feed and when you consume enough selective exposure it becomes your perceived truth. So, if I spend months working on a project and I spend hours editing pictures and I spend hours curating my carousel and choosing a caption that portrays it as if my life is perfect and has always been amazing, it's going to take you 3 seconds to see it and decide that you're behind because of the post that you just saw. not knowing that it took me hours to edit, hours to curate it, and months to even accomplish getting that post.

But your only truth and the only thing that you kept is the fact that you're behind. Now, this is normal. We all do it. Social media is there for everyone to see. But comparison activates the brain's threat system, which is super interesting.

I'm very passionate about neuroscience and how things actually work in our brain. But when you see someone succeeding, your brain interprets this as a competition for limited resources, which then triggers stress and it creates urgency. Like only one person in this world is allowed to achieve their dreams.

And because you're the one that has to get there, you have to hurry up. And that urgency and those triggers in your brain are processed and feel like it's too late. I'm not going to get there anymore. That person already got what they wanted, so I'm not going to get what I want anymore.

But the truth is besties that succeeding and success and achieving your dreams and experiencing a happy life is not a limited resource. Someone else moving forward and someone else being happy is not a reason for you to feel behind and for you to feel sad. That is very selfish and that is a feeling that comes from your ego.

Someone else moving forward and someone else succeeding does not mean that you're failing. Different timelines are not an evidence of failure. their evidence of individuality and their evidence that every single person does in fact have their own timeline and it is in fact meant for different things.

Milestones are social constructs besties. The pressure that you feel it's cultural programming. We were taught to believe that things have to happen at a certain age or we were supposed to follow a certain timeline for us to be on track and for us to be on time.

And that literally looks like you have to graduate by this age. You have to marry by this age. You have to have this amount of money by this age. You have to have kids by this age. Because that's where our parents taught us. But that's what their parents taught them.

And that's what their parents taught your grandparents that then were taught to your parents and then they were taught to you. And this is where you have to sit down with yourself and understand the depression and the stress and the heaviness that you feel is not because of you. And that you finally have to make decisions for yourself.

Decided that things had to happen by a certain age. It wasn't you. It was society. It wasn't your nervous system. It wasn't your gut. It wasn't your calling. It wasn't your growth path. And this is where you realize that you are literally measuring your life by a timeline that might not even be aligned with who you actually are.

Your timeline is costume. And this is where you have to realize that there is only one you in this world. Because there is only one you in this world and only one you in this world has the life and has God's plan designed and curated for you yourself and no one else.

then it means that no one else gets to decide your life because your life is only yours. If that makes sense. I try to word it in a way that makes sense. But I hope that you and I understand each other and it makes sense. There is only one mafian sudas in this world.

And because there's only one mafian student in this world, God designed one mafian timeline in the history of this world. Like there's not one life in this entire planet that is exactly the same as mine because there is only one me. Which means that there is no way that no one else, not my parents, not my grandparents, not my teachers, not my coaches know what is meant for me and what will be good for me because there is only one me.

The advice that I receive comes from them and their own customdesigned timelines. Your timeline is custom. You cannot rush becoming who you are meant to be because development is not linear. Some seasons are for building, some seasons are for healing.

Some seasons are for experimenting and then some seasons are for failing. And that will be for the rest of your life. Your life will be divided by seasons and your life will be full of pain and joy and heartbreak and growth.

But just because you are in a slower season doesn't mean you're stagnant and doesn't mean you're behind and doesn't mean that you should rush through your seasons because you want to get to what you think your seasons are supposed to be. You will literally figure out your life as you experience and live your life. And that is only something you can do because no one else has your life.

Roots grow under the soil and under the ground before they bloom and before they show beauty. No one claps for roots. No one roots for roots. But roots literally determine how strong the bloom will be. And if the roots are not taken care of, the plant is not even going to bloom in the first place.

Which means that you might feel like it's taking you a little bit longer or your process is a little bit slower or your journey looks different than someone else's. Someone else got there faster, someone's journey was a little bit more productive. But the truth is that the more time that you spend focused on your own journey and on your own process and on your own growth, the stronger that you're blooming and the stronger that your success will look like and be.

Because again, the roots determine how strong the bloom will be. Now, believing that you're behind not only hurts, not only puts you through stress and through anxiety and through comparison, and it makes you rush, but it literally has consequences. And there is a cost to believing that you're behind.

When you believe that you're behind, you make decisions from panic. And you make decisions from wanting to rush everything and having everything fast and done instead of alignment. You say yes to opportunities that don't align with you.

You say yes to opportunities that don't align with your values and who you want to be as a person. You rush relationships. You get into the wrong relationships. You're with people that you know that you're not supposed to be with.

You put yourself through toxic patterns. You have toxic friends. You're in toxic friend groups, in toxic environments, and in toxic places. You chase validation instead of chasing your own growth and your own success. And you burn out trying to catch up to a race that you created and that you were never even meant to run.

You live from urgency and completely disconnect instead of living from intention. Then you look back at your life and you're like, I have been spending my whole entire life working because I want to get to the certain place where that person is instead of just experiencing and living my life instead. And if this is scaring you because you look back at your life and you're like, I've been rushing and I've been going through my life without even like realizing that I'm living my life and experiencing happiness and joy and I've been just experiencing anxiety and rush and urgency.

That is a good thing because now you can wake up and change and reframe the season that you're in. Instead of asking yourself, why am I behind? Start asking yourself what is this season building in me? Instead of asking yourself, why don't I have that yet?

Ask yourself, am I emotionally and mentally and spiritually ready to sustain everything that I'm asking for? If I were to get that tomorrow, would I be ready? Delay is not denial. And the fact that you don't have it yet doesn't mean you're never going to receive it.

But the fact that you don't have it yet just means that God is giving you time to prepare yourself so that when it gives it to you, you're ready to hold it. Because if it gives it to you before you're ready to receive it, you're going to lose it. And then you're going to build even more resentment against God for taking it away from you, but it wasn't God taking it away from you.

It was you pushing it away because of your immaturity and because of your urgency of wanting to have it. Sometimes delay is development. And sometimes the pace, even if it's slow, is protecting you. Now, if you think you're behind and if you think that your life is low and if you think that you never achieve anything in poor me, I never get what I want, I want you to look at yourself 3 years ago and see where you were and see where you are.

And if you say that you haven't achieved absolutely anything, at least 1% of what you want in your life, it is a lie. Look at the mindset you had 3 years ago. Look at the person you were 3 years ago and look at what you had 3 years ago.

the fears that you carried, the things that you thought that you would never get over and never survive, and yet you did. And you have gone through every single thing that you back then thought you would have never been able to overcome or to heal or to get over. Progress feels invisible while it's happening.

But growth compounds and you are way further than you give yourself credit for. The reason as to why you feel so behind is because you're constantly putting yourself new goals and because you constantly want more for yourself. But that doesn't mean that because you constantly want more for yourself, you haven't achieved anything at all.

Stop taking away credit from yourself and stop making yourself believe that you haven't achieved anything. Because if that's the case, you're never going to feel successful and you're never going to feel fulfilled in your life at all. Trusting your timeline means respecting your nervous systems capacity.

It means understanding that sustainable growth takes time. It means that things that are worth experiencing and keeping take time developing and growing. And it means that choosing long-term alignment will always be better than short-term comparison.

You are not raising anyone. You are becoming someone. You are not competing with anyone that you see online that you see on your feed. You're not competing against an influencer that you follow. You are competing against this current version of yourself and how you can be better and how you can be a better, most successful, emotionally intelligent, and spiritually more aware version of yourself than who you are today.

That's literally the only thing that you have control over. And that is literally the only person that you're ever going to be able to beat is yourself. Besties, this is just your episode. as a reminder that you are exactly where you need to be.

You are not behind. You're not missing anything. There's no way of missing out on something that is for you because if it's for you, it's going to be there for you. Unless it is that you're comparing it to the fact that someone else has it and that again is just comparison.

But your life is not late. It is just unfolding. And it is unfolding exactly the way that God has it planned for it to unfold for you. You are not delayed. You are not behind. You are not late. You cannot be late to your own life unless again you're comparing it to someone else's.

You are developing. You are growing. The version of you that already has everything that you want is not ahead of you on a clock. She is in the present moment. And she is built through daily choices, through selfrust, and through patience.

You are not behind. You are exactly where you need to be, learning the exact lessons that you're meant to be learning right now to eventually become and receive everything that it is that you want. And this is just your reminder, besties.

Sometimes we fall into comparison into that competition against our own age of I'm getting older and I should be here or I should have this or this person did it 3 years ago and I am 3 years older and I still don't have it or how is this person making this amount of money while they're so young or how is this person achieving these amount of things and I am 5 years older and I still don't know where I am or what I'm doing. That's literally torture for yourself. That's literally torture for yourself.

You're never going to be able to beat them. While you continue to achieve and grow, they will also continue to achieve and grow because they're focused on themselves while you're also focused on them. Stop comparing yourself to someone by thinking they have it figured out when they are figuring it out just as much as you are.

They're just not showing it to you. Instead, focus on yourself, on your own timeline, on your own journey, and see how your life starts changing by focusing your energy more in yourself than on someone else. And that is it for today's episode, besties.

I hope you liked it. I hope that this reminder was helpful for you. It was very helpful for me. I hope that it awakes something in you that inspires you to start choosing yourself and focusing on yourself and on your timeline instead of someone else's.

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Long form
Published: 2025-11-21
Views: 850
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M1Qz26tN1TU
Runtime: 13 min 25 sec (2,410 words)

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to whoever this may impact. Sometimes our lives have to be completely shaken up, changed, and rearranged to relocate us where we're really meant to be. Sometimes change feels like loss. Transformation [music] is scary. And sometimes to discover the best versions of ourselves, we must let [music] go of absolutely everything that's holding us down.

Welcome to I Missed Me, your new safe space. I'm [music] excited to form a part of your healing journey. Today, we're talking about something that completely shifted the way that I see my life. appreciation and not in a cheesy just be grateful kind of way, but I mean appreciation as an actual frequency and as something that changes what and who you attract into your life.

Because here's the truth. What you appreciate appreciates. And the moment that you start seeing your life through that lens, everything begins to shift. Appreciation is awareness. So many of us are constantly chasing something.

A new relationship, a better job, more followers, more recognition, more everything that we forget to actually see what's already here. You wake up thinking about what's missing instead of what's present. We talk more about what we lack than what we love.

And we wonder why feels heavy or why nothing ever feels enough. The thing is, appreciation is presence. It's awareness. It's choosing to notice. And I know it sounds simple, but it's actually radical. Because most of us live on autopilot, running from one goal to another, one validation to the next, never stopping long enough to realize that half of the things that we have now were once things we used to pray for.

Appreciation says, "I see it. I see the small things. I see how far I've come. I see the way I'm growing, even when it's slow." And the more you notice, the more you attract things that match that energy. Appreciation shifts your frequency.

Think about the last time that you felt genuinely grateful. Like not just saying thank you, but actually feeling it deep in your chest. You probably felt peaceful, content, calm, and in that moment where you just open. That's the thing about appreciation.

It opens you. When you live in a state of lack, you close off. You tense up. You compare, you overthink, you force. But when you're in appreciation, you soften. You stop chasing and start attracting. You start matching the energy of abundance.

Not because you're faking positivity, but because you're finally aligned with what's real. Gratitude isn't delusion. It's awareness. It's saying, "I have enough right now." And when the universe sees that you treat what you already have with love, it gives you more.

It gives you more to love. Relationships mirror appreciation. This one's big because appreciation doesn't just change your life. It changes your relationships. Think about it. When was the last time you felt deeply appreciated?

Like someone genuinely saw your effort, your softness, your presence and said, "Thank you." It feels magnetic, right? It feels like you want to give even more. And that's what appreciation does. It fuels. It fuels connection.

And that's why I say appreciation equals attraction. Because we're all drawn to the energy that sees us, values us, and celebrates us. The same way you crave that feeling, so does everyone else. So when you start living in appreciation, when you start noticing people, complimenting them, saying thank you, expressing love without fear, you become magnetic.

You attract softness because you are softness. You attract love because you radiate it. And that doesn't mean you have to be overly positive all the time. It just means you're intentional about seeing the good even when life is hard.

The way that appreciation rewires your mind is that the brain is wired for survival, not happiness. Which means it's constantly scanning for danger, for problems, and for what's missing. If you don't train it to notice beauty, it never will.

Appreciation is that training. It's like teaching your brain to look for reasons to smile instead of reasons to stress. And over time it changes the way that you think. You start catching yourself before complaining. You start saying this moment is enough.

You start feeling safe not because everything is perfect but because you trust yourself to see the light no matter what. And that's what draws better things towards you. Energy attracts energy. And appreciation is one of the highest frequencies you can operate in.

So what appreciation sounds like in real life? It's not just saying I'm grateful for my bed or I love my friends, but it's saying I love the way that sunlight hits my face in the morning. And I am so lucky to have a friend that text me good morning.

I love that I'm learning to love myself. It's specific. It's intentional. It's soft. It's texting your friend to say, "Thank you for being you." It's looking in the mirror and saying, "I am so proud of you." It's looking at your journey, even the messy parts, and saying, "This too is worthy of love." And when you start appreciating the tiny details, you start realizing that we're never tiny at all.

The truth is, appreciation changes what you attract. People often ask, "How do I attract better?" And the answer is by appreciating what's already here. You want love? Start appreciating the love that already surrounds you. your friends, your family, even strangers who hold the door for you.

You want abundance. Start appreciating what you already have. The meals that you eat, the home that you live in, the opportunities in front of you because you can't attract from lack. If your energy says, "I don't have enough," the universe believes you.

But when your energy says, "I am grateful for everything that I have," the universe mirrors that. It's not about pretending everything's perfect, but it is about realizing that even in the imperfection, there's still so much beauty. And that kind of energy is magnetic.

Appreciation brings you back to yourself. I think the most beautiful part about appreciation is that it grounds you, back and the present. So many of us are stuck in two places, the past or the future. We replay what went wrong or we stress about what's next.

But appreciation brings you home to the now. It says, "This moment matters. I am safe right here. I am grateful for the version of me that made it to today." And once you start living that way, once you start waking up and actually seeing your life, you stop comparing.

You stop needing validation. You stop chasing love that doesn't recognize you because suddenly you realize that you already have so much. [music] And that realization changes everything. Appreciation is self- loveve. You can't appreciate your life if you don't appreciate yourself.

So start there. Appreciate your resilience. Appreciate your heart, how it still believes in love after breaking. Appreciate your body, how it carries you even on the hard days. Appreciate your mind, how it's trying its best to keep you safe.

You can't attract love, peace, or abundance from a place of self-hate. You attract what you believe that you deserve. And when you genuinely start appreciating yourself, you stop settling for people or situations that don't.

[music] Self- appreciation is self-respect. And self-respect is attraction. So, here's a daily appreciation practice. If you don't know where to start, here's something simple. Every [music] morning, before you grab your phone, before you scroll, before you even invite the world into your head, take a second to check in with you.

Take a deep breath and say out loud or write [music] it down three things that you appreciate. They don't have to be big. You don't need to write down new car or promotion. But you can just start with I am grateful for the sun coming in through my window.

I am grateful for my bed. I am grateful that I woke up today. Gratitude doesn't start when life becomes extraordinary. But gratitude is what makes life extraordinary. And [music] then at night, do the same. Think the day. Thank yourself.

Think the moments that didn't make sense but taught you something anyways. And thank the little interactions that made you smile. Take the lessons you didn't know you needed. And if it was a hard day, thank yourself for surviving it.

Because some [music] days survival is enough. Some days gratitude sounds like, "I made it through." The more you practice this, the more your energy shifts. You'll notice how lighter you start to feel calmer, [music] more open, and more magnetic.

Not because everything in your life suddenly gets easier, but because you start seeing it differently. When your focus changes, your reality follows. You start realizing that the world hasn't changed, but you have. And that perspective changes everything.

Gratitude isn't about ignoring the bad, but it is about giving the good a chance to speak louder. Because the truth is, there's always both pain and beauty, [music] chaos and calm. But appreciation helps you remember that both can coexist, that even in the middle of chaos, you still have something to hold on to.

So try this tomorrow morning. When you wake up, don't reach for your phone, but instead [music] put your hand over your heart, take a deep breath, and just say, "Thank [music] you. Thank you for the chance to start again. Thank you for the body that keeps me alive.

Thank you for my heart that still loves. Thank you for the lessons that made me softer instead of bitter." And then carry that energy with you. When you drive, look outside the window and notice how the sky looks different.

Every day when you drink your coffee, notice how good it tastes when you're actually present. When you talk to someone you love, what a privilege it is to be understood. That's what appreciation looks like. It's not performative.

[music] It's awareness. You'll start realizing that your life is full of quiet miracles. They've always been there. You just hadn't been looking. You'll notice the way your friends laugh when you say something funny. The way your pet runs to you when you walk into the door.

The way your favorite song always finds you at the right time. The way the air smells after it rains. The way your younger self would be so proud of the life that you're living right now. And that's when appreciation becomes attraction.

Because once you start seeing the beauty in everything, everything starts to look beautiful. The universe mirrors your energy. And when your energy says, "I'm grateful." The universe says, "Here's more to be grateful for." [music] So if you want to attract better, love better, opportunities better, peace, better.

Start appreciating what's already in front of you. Because you can't attract from lack. You can't manifest from desperation. You attract from contentment. You manifest from faith. You call in abundance by recognizing that it's already here.

[music] When you live in appreciation, when you live in appreciation, you attract people who appreciate you. You attract opportunities that align with your peace. You attract experiences that feel like home. You stop begging for what's meant for you because it naturally finds you.

Because you become what you were chasing. And it all starts with noticing, with saying thank you, even for the smallest, most ordinary things. So, wherever you are right now, take a moment, [music] look around, and find one thing you can appreciate right now.

Maybe it's the way the light hits your room. Maybe it's the fact that you're breathing. Maybe it's that you're listening to this, which means you still care about growing. And it doesn't have to be deep. Just whisper, "Thank you.

Thank you for the breath in my lungs. Thank you for the chance to start over again. Thank you for the reminder that nothing is missing because I am already everything. Thank you for the people who stayed. Thank you for the ones who never left.

Thank you for the ones who left. They taught me something, too. Thank you for the version of me that didn't give up. Thank you for the peace that's slowly finding its way back. And here's the thing about appreciation. It builds.

It builds momentum. The more you practice it, the more natural it becomes. The more you say thank you, the more reasons you'll find to say it again. And one day, you'll realize that your entire energy has changed. You'll stop waking up with anxiety and start waking up with calm.

You'll stop focusing on what's missing and start seeing what's here. And that shift, that quiet internal shift, is what changes your entire life. Because when you start appreciating, you stop searching. And when you stop searching, everything you were searching for finally has room to come in.

Appreciation equals attraction. It's that simple and that powerful. And it's not just a practice. It's a way of being. A way of moving through the world with softness. A way of [music] saying, "I trust that what's mine won't miss me." Because when you live in appreciation, you're telling the universe, "I am ready." Ready to receive.

Ready to let love in. Ready to see beauty. Ready to see beauty everywhere. And you become magnetic. Not because you're trying, but because you're aligned. So today and every day after this, find something to think. Find something to love.

Find something to see differently. And I promise your life will start to feel lighter, slower, fuller, softer. And you'll start to realize that peace isn't something you find. It's something you notice. It's been here all along.

With love, Mafies, if you enjoyed today's episode, make sure to share with anyone that might need to listen. Don't forget that we have a membership where as soon as you sign up, you will receive an I miss hoodie, plus you have access to an exclusive episode every single month. printable activities, meditations, monthly challenges, PDF guides, and behindthe-scenes content.

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Long form
Published: 2025-09-01
Views: 557
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9vGgny7X5Mg
Runtime: 9 min 1 sec (1,505 words)

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to whoever this may impact. Sometimes our lives have to be completely shaken up, changed, and rearranged to relocate us where we're really meant to be. Sometimes change feels like loss. Transformation is scary. And sometimes to discover the best versions of ourselves, we must let go of absolutely everything that's holding us down.

Welcome to I Missed Me, your new safe space. I'm excited to form a part of your healing journey. What would life look like if you only invested your energy into the people, opportunities, and experiences that genuinely reciprocate your effort, your interest, and your love?

It's not about being passive or settling. It is about living with clarity and intention. When I say, "I only want what wants me," I'm not suggesting we live in a world of constant mutual agreement. Life isn't that neat. And sometimes we have to chase our dreams or work through difficulties and relationships.

But this mantra is about one thing, alignment. It is about recognizing when you're forcing something or holding on too tightly to something or someone that isn't aligned with you. How many times have you poured your heart into a relationship, a job, or even a hobby that didn't pour back into you?

It's exhausting, isn't it? You start to question your own worth. But here's the truth. Your worth doesn't diminish because someone else can't see it. Instead of chasing, we could channel our energy into what flows naturally towards us.

That's what today's episode is all about. A few years ago, a friend of mine was stuck in this on again, offagain relationship. She'd always be the one initiating texts, planning dates, and trying to fix things when they fell apart.

And let me tell you, it drained her. One day, she heard this phrase, "I only want what wants me." It hurt her like a ton of bricks. She realized she was chasing someone who didn't match her energy, who didn't want her in the way that she deserved to be wanted.

And now she is in a relationship where both partners are equally invested. They meet each other halfway. Every day she stopped chasing. And in doing so, she made space for what was meant for her. And it's not just a relationship.

I want you to think about the job that brings you out but doesn't pay you as fairly or the friend that only calls you when they need something or the goals you're holding on to because of other people's expectations. Sometimes the best thing we can do is to let go of what doesn't want this back. Here are three steps to help you embody this idea.

Pay attention to energy exchange. Ask yourself, does this person, opportunity, or experience bring energy into my life, or does it just take? Healthy relationships and fulfilling pursuits. Give us as much as they take. Stop forcing it.

If you're constantly pushing for something, whether it's a job, a friendship, or a romantic relationship, pause. Forcing doesn't create alignment. It creates resistance. Trust the flow. This is the hardest part. Trust that what is truly meant for you will show up when you create space for it.

It's not about being passive. It's about being selective. Wanting only what wants you isn't about giving up. It is about stepping up for yourself. It's about saying, "I am worthy of love, respect, and reciprocity. It's about being intentional with your time, your energy, and your heart." Reflect on one area of your life where you're holding on to something that doesn't want you back.

What would happen if you let go? What would happen if you trusted that what's meant for you will find you? And remember, you're not chasing, you're attracting. You're not settling, you're aligning. Because at the end of the day, you only want what wants you.

And that's more than enough. This isn't just a catchy phrase. It's a mindset, a practice, and honestly, a game changer. When we stop forcing things and start aligning with what generally reciprocates our energy, life begins to feel less like a struggle and more like a flow.

To want something suggest desire, pursuit, longing. But the kind of wanting we're talking about today isn't rooted in desperation or lack. It's about invitation. It's about giving yourself permission to want only what comes naturally, easily, and authentically into your life.

Society tells us to hustle, chase, and grind. If something doesn't work, the narrative says we just need to try harder. But here's the thing. What if trying harder isn't the solution? What if the solution is stepping back and asking, "Does this even align with me?" Success and fulfillment are not about forcing doors to open.

It is about recognizing the doors that are already open and walking through them with confidence. The cost of chasing what doesn't want you is steep, both emotionally and mentally. It's like trying to swim upstream. Exhausting, frustrating, and ultimately unsustainable.

Have you ever noticed how draining it feels to constantly convince someone or something of your worth? Whether it's a relationship, a job, or even a personal goal, that uphill battle can wear you down. And here's the kicker.

The more that you chase, the less likely you are to achieve what you're chasing. The pursuit deterrence effect. The harder that you're trying to win someone over, the more they tend to pull away. It's human nature. Nobody likes to feel pressured.

When you stop chasing and start aligning, you radiate a quiet confidence that naturally attracts what's meant for you. It's like flipping a magnet. Suddenly, instead of repelling, you're drawing in selfworth. Often the reason we chase what doesn't want us because we don't fully believe we're worthy of what does.

If you've ever thought, "I'll take what I can't get or I don't deserve better," you're not alone. These beliefs are deeply ingrained, often rooted in past experiences or societal messaging. But the truth is, the way others treat you or the way opportunities respond to you isn't a reflection of your own worth.

It's a reflection of their alignment with you. Living by the mantra, I only want what wants me, requires you to stand firmly in your own value. It's saying, I am enough as I am. I deserve connections and opportunities that see and celebrate that.

This doesn't mean you won't face rejection or challenges. But it does mean you'll stop internalizing those moments as proof that you're not good enough. Instead, you'll see them as signs that something better is on its way.

So, how do you know what genuinely wants you? Effort feels balanced. Whether it's a friendship, a job, or a creative project, there's a natural give and take. You don't feel like you're always the one initiating, planning, or problem solving.

It feels light, not heavy. What wants you doesn't make you question your worth or drain your energy. It feels easy, not in the sense of no effort, but in the sense of flow. It's consistent. What once you shows up again and again.

It doesn't ghost you, flake on you, or leave you second guessing. Think about these qualities in the context of your current life. Are there people or opportunities that fit this description? And if so, those are the areas where your energy will be the most rewarded.

When you let go of what doesn't want you, you create a vacuum. And nature absorbs a vacuum. Letting go isn't just about saying no to one thing. It's about saying yes to everything else that's waiting to fill that space. I've seen this happen in my own life and in the lives of so many people I've spoken to.

When you stop clinging to what's not working, better things begin to appear almost as if it was magic. But it's not magic. It's clarity. You're no longer scattering your energy in 10 different directions. You're focusing it. And that focus is incredibly powerful.

You deserve ease, alignment, and joy. Life is too short to spend it, chasing what's running away from you. When you choose what only wants you, you're choosing yourself. You're saying, "I am enough, and I will invest my energy where it's truly valued." Trust the process.

Trust yourself, and trust that what's meant for you won't require you to lose yourself to get it. With love, mafies, if you enjoyed today's episode, make sure to share with anyone that might need to listen. Don't forget that we have a membership where as soon as you sign up, you will receive an I missed me hoodie.

Plus, you have access to an exclusive episode every single month, printable activities, meditations, monthly challenges, PDF guides, and behindthe-scenes content. Don't forget to follow Miss Me on social media. I miss podcast on Instagram and Tik Tok, and subscribe to I Miss's YouTube channel, I MissMe Podcast.

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Long form
Published: 2026-02-02
Views: 519
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dkSzCVefbG0
Runtime: 17 min 28 sec (3,379 words)

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to whoever this may impact. Sometimes our lives have to be completely shaken up, changed, and rearranged to relocate us where we're really meant to be. Sometimes change feels like loss. Transformation [music] is scary. And sometimes to discover the best versions of ourselves, we must let [music] go of absolutely everything that's holding us down.

Welcome to I Miss Me, your new safe space. I'm excited to form a part of your healing journey. [music] Hey besties, welcome back to another episode of I Miss Me. If you're new here, welcome. And if you're not new here, welcome back, bestie.

I miss you. Happy Monday. I hope that you guys have been loving the rebranding. I hope that you guys have been loving the content, loving the episodes as much as I've been loving recording and re-recording. I missed podcasting so much.

I really do feel it as my safe space and like my sacred time to like sit down, disconnect, and just talk about what I've learned, what I'm feeling, and what I want you guys to learn and carry with you. And with that being said, today we're going to talk about something extremely extremely extremely important that no matter what you do, no matter who you are, it matters. Like no matter what you're going through today, we're not going to talk about heartbreak.

We're not going to talk about friendships. We're not going to talk about like relationships, but we're going to talk about something that has to do with ourselves. And as self-work, really really, really do have to do if we want to succeed in anything that it is that we want to do.

Whether you want to start posting on social media, which is something that I talk a lot about, whether you want to start a new project, a new career, share your talents with the world, whatever it is that you want to start or do, you need to stop caring about other people's opinions. You need to stop letting what other people think affect what you do. You need to get over that fear of being seen.

You need to get over that fear of being quote unquote cringey, quote unquote embarrassing. You need to get over that fear of any type of judgment that might come behind what you're going to do or what you're about to start because that is the only way that number one you're going to truly enjoy and be at peace with whatever it is that you're about to start or do and number two keep going and being consistent. I do see it a lot is again I talk a lot about doing social media and like started posting on social media.

The most common thing that I see or hear is, "I'm finally going to start." And then they post one video and it didn't perform the way that they expected it or wanted it to perform and then because it didn't perform well, they get embarrassed that other people saw that it didn't perform well and then they stop posting. And this happens with absolutely everything. The reason as to why it's so important to not care is to be consistent and stay consistent regardless of of opinions or any judgments.

So, welcome besties. Welcome back to another episode. We started off strong. and we started off honest. If you're someone who's afraid of what other people think of you, this episode is for you. The first thing that I want to let you know is that if you are scared of what other people think about you, it doesn't mean you're insecure.

It just means that you're human. We've all cared at some point. We've all been affected. We've all over thought [laughter] what's the past tense of overthink. We've all been through overthinking stages of what are they going to think about us?

What is this person going to say about me? what is this group of people going to talk about me when I do this or when I post this? And the truth is that most of us were taught how to be liked or how to be accepted before we were taught how to trust ourselves.

And that is just a fact. Like if you look back, that's what we were taught in school. Have a lot of friends, be nice to everyone, behave, be respectful, and be liked. But we were never taught in school. how to trust ourselves, how to get over fear, how to stop caring, how to be afraid and do it anyways.

I didn't learn that in school and I know that most people didn't learn that in school. So, what we did learn is how to edit ourselves to what other people expect us to be or to what's right or to what's normal. We learned how to adjust our tone, our opinions, and our honesty or what we really feel to feel accepted.

And I just want to start off and clarify this episode by saying that this episode isn't about becoming someone who doesn't care at all. It is about learning how to care less in the places where caring is costing you your peace, your confidence, and your sense of self. Today we're going to talk about why caring what people think happens, how it affects us emotionally and mentally and how to heal and unlearn it and how your life will actually change and what actually changes when you stop living for approval and validation.

And I really want you guys to let this episode be a conversation with yourself and a self-reflection of understanding the opinion that you have of yourself. Let's start off from the beginning. Now to heal something and I've always said it, we need to understand it.

So let's start from the beginning. Why does this happen? Why do we care so much? Why do we care at all? And why do opinions have such an impact on us to the point where they hold us back and stop us from doing things that we really want to start and do?

Caring what people think is a learned behavior. It comes from survival and it comes from belonging. Our mind is wired for survival. So caring literally comes from a survival instinct, from belonging, from feeling safe. And at some point in your life, you learned that approval and being liked and being loved by everyone around you felt safer than authenticity.

And so you felt the need to put yourself inside a box to be more liked or to be more loved or to be more accepted. Maybe agreeing with everything kept the peace. And when you disagreed or when you gave your honest point of view, people would fight with you or people would judge you or they would talk behind your back.

So you just learned how to agree with everything that everyone said to keep the peace and not fight with anyone. Maybe being quiet or not speaking up or being easy was rewarded for you and people pleasing was what you taught was right because it is what made you be loved and feel safe. But your brain remembers these patterns.

It associates approval with protection. And so even now that you're more mature and you're more grown and you're more self-aware, judgment can feel very threatening. It can feel very scary and again it can set you back. Not logically or maybe not consciously but very subconsciously and very emotionally.

Going back to social media, social media really does intensify this because we read comments and comment sections are full of hate and because we don't want to receive those hate comments ourselves, we just decide to not be out there or speak our mind at all. Opinions are constant. Validation is public.

Feedback is quantified. And slowly we begin outsourcing our self-rust. We look outside ourselves for confirmation that we're okay. And we start comparing ourselves to what a good life or a happy life is supposed to look like.

And if you're relating and if this is making you feel like it's you going through this or you went through this, you can now remove the shame and you can now remove the guilt and you can now remove that weight that you've been putting on yourself of why can't I get over my fear? Why can't I get over this weight of caring what other people think about me? Because you didn't choose this.

You didn't choose to care and you didn't choose to be affected. You just adopted. Now the good news is besties. What is learned can also be unlearned. And the same brain that learned patterns is the brain that can break them.

Now that we understand how it happens, where does it stem from? Why do we care so much? Let's talk about how it truly affects us so that you can put into perspective how much it's actually hurting you. And when you realize how much it's actually holding you back, you can now heal it.

When you care too much about other people's opinions and when you care too much about what other people think, it doesn't just affect your confidence, it affects your identity. And that besties, I hope that it sounds very scary because number one it is and number two because it is so scary and because it is very dangerous to your success and to your potential you should want to break it ASAP and immediately. You hesitate before making decisions.

You overexlain yourself. You second guess things that once felt simple and you delay starting because you are afraid of being misunderstood. Overthinking replaces intuition and burnout replaces joy. And eventually, because of how overwhelmed you are and lost in other people's opinions and don't know who you are anymore, you feel disconnected.

Disconnected from your wants, disconnected from your dreams, disconnected from your instincts, disconnected from your inner voice. And the more that you seek approval, the less fulfilling life becomes. And this is because external validation was never meant to replace internal trust.

Besties, the reason as to why it is so important for you to finally wake up and decide that you're going to stop caring is because you are missing out on opportunities that might be meant for you and that might make you the happiest version of yourself that unfortunately you're never going to get to experience if you keep postponing and if you keep delaying what you know you're meant to start but aren't because of what someone else thinks. I hope that scared you and I hope that it really intimidated you because only when you're scared of being stuck and only when you're scared of staying comfortable and fitting inside a box is the moment that you're going to want to get out of that box. Now that we're scared and now that we're terrified of staying inside that box our whole entire life, how do we heal it?

And how do we get over caring about what people think? And the first thing that I want to say is that healing doesn't start with focusing on not caring at all. You don't wake up one day and you're like, "Fuck everyone. I don't care about anyone anymore.

I'm gonna do whatever it is that I want. I don't care about you, you, and you. And I am shutting down the world and I am cutting everyone off." That's not how it works. It's not magic. And if you've been a people pleaser your whole entire life, you know that it is not that easy.

But it starts with awareness. You start noticing when you're shrinking. You start noticing when you're letting yourself be affected. You start noticing when you are changing your plans around opinions. And you start noticing when you're editing yourself, when you're choosing comfort over alignment, and when you ask yourself whose approval are you actually seeking, and why?

One of the most important shifts and changes that you have to start making is separating your identity and who you are from opinions. Because if you don't, you are going to get to know yourself through what someone else thinks about you. Someone misunderstanding you doesn't mean that you're wrong.

And internal validation is built through small acts of self-rust. Keeping promises with yourself, saying what you mean, choosing alignment even when it feels uncomfortable and even when it requires to cut people off because they don't agree with what you're doing. And as you do this, your nervous system starts to adapt and it starts to learn something new.

It starts to learn that it is safe to be yourself, to choose yourself, and to choose what you want before anything or before anyone. When you stop caring so much about what another person thinks about you, what a group of people is saying about you, life becomes lighter. The way that I like to see it is like a backpack.

And you start life with the backpack empty. It's not heavy at all. You can carry it without even noticing that it's there. But every opinion starts being a rock. One rock you can carry, no problem. Two, maybe. Three, you kind of start feeling it.

Four, five, six, it starts getting heavy. And by the seventh, you notice 8, 9, and 10, you might even have to stop to let the backpack down because of how heavy the backpack is becoming to carry. That is exactly opinions. The more opinions that you let in your mind, the heavier life gets to walk and carry.

the heavier it gets to wake up and choose to do what you want to do because of how affected you are. Life becomes so much lighter when you decide you are going to care more about you than about them. You move faster. You decide with clarity.

You stop asking for permission to exist, to start, to move, to restart. And again, what I said at the beginning, it does not mean that you become careless. I do not believe in not caring at all. I do not believe in not taking opinions and keep this in mind not taking opinions into consideration because sometimes when we don't take opinions into consideration we can make very stupid decisions and choices but above everything and above everyone what is going to make you happy and feel the most at peace.

You learn whose opinions matter. You learn whose opinions are there to make you better and grow. And you learn whose don't. Freedom doesn't come from being liked by everyone. It comes from liking who you are when no one's watching.

Besties, not caring about what someone else thought of me when I knew that I was doing what truly made me happy. For example, creating content and start posting what I wanted, what I liked, documenting my life, regardless of who thought it was going to be cringy or embarrassing or I wasn't going to get anywhere or it was a waste of time. Getting over that changed my life.

I do not doubt that when I first started posting 6 years ago, people that I went to high school with would share my Tik Toks and would share my videos and would comment between them. What she posted was very embarrassing. What she used to post was very cringey.

I wouldn't have done that or I wouldn't have posted that or how does she bring herself to do that. And I hear it every single day. Like now that social media is my full-time job and those people now that used to say things about me, see me traveling the world with my favorite brands and receive packages every single week.

And the the fact that I was actually able to turn social media into my full-time job and now I have a podcast and now I have a clothing brand and I do this for a living and I literally pay my rent posting videos. I'm literally living my dream life, doing my dream job and something that truly makes me happy and makes me wake up excited every single day. So, why would I care?

But people come up to me, same people that I went to high school with. Wow, congratulations. I am so proud of you. It is crazy to see how much you've grown. It is crazy to see how far you've come. And the only reason as to why they're able to change their mind.

And the only reason as to why they're able to approach me differently is because I decided that their opinion wasn't going to affect the way that I saw myself and my potential, the way that I did things, and how much I truly believed in myself, and the fact that one day I was actually going to be able to turn this into my full-time job. And I've always said that you experiencing your dreams and that your success is worth more than anyone else's opinions. And I want you to adapt that mindset as well.

Going back to what we talked about earlier, it doesn't mean that you're careless because that doesn't happen. It just means that you care about yourself more. Yes, they might think this is embarrassing and yes, who knows? It might be cringey for some people.

Everyone has a different perspective of what's cringey and what's embarrassing and what's not. Someone might think that I'm really cool and someone might think that I'm very embarrassing and cringey. You are never going to be liked by everyone.

You are never going to be accepted by everyone. And what I said on episode number one, everyone has different traumas. Everyone has different backgrounds. Everyone was raised differently because everyone was raised differently and everyone sees life in a different way.

Everyone has a different opinion. And the more that you try to shrink yourself and fit inside a box so that no one and nothing and no person in this world thinks you're cringy or embarrassing, you're literally not going to have any personality. You're never going to have any plans.

You're never going to have any dreams. You're going to be comfortable your whole entire life. And that for me sounds more scary than trying really hard to achieve your dreams. Trying really hard to experience what you deep down know is going to make you happy and get some negative opinions.

Staying inside a box is scarier than being judged after trying and going after something that is going to make you the happiest version of yourself. And that is the message of today's episode. That is a mindset that I want you guys to adopt that has completely changed my life and that I promise you guys will change yours as well.

I hope you guys liked it. I hope it was helpful. I hope that it truly changes your life and the way of seeing it because life is so much fun when you go after what you know is going to make your life so much fun. Don't forget to follow me mafian everywhere on Tik Tok, Instagram, YouTube.

Don't forget to follow the podcast at I MissMe podcast on Tik Tok, Instagram. Subscribe to our YouTube. If you're watching this video on YouTube, don't forget that you can relisten to this episode on any streaming platform.

And if you're listening on Apple or Spotify, don't forget that you can watch this video on YouTube. I hope that you guys have an amazing week. I hope that you guys have an amazing day. And I'll see you guys next Monday. With love, maf besties, if you enjoyed today's episode, make sure to share with anyone that might need to listen.

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Long form
Published: 2025-07-26
Views: 504
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yIGAHIIe1Kw
Runtime: 9 min 9 sec (1,521 words)

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to whoever this may impact. Sometimes our lives have to be completely shaken up, changed, and rearranged to relocate us where we're really meant to be. Sometimes change feels like loss. Transformation is scary. And sometimes to discover the best versions of ourselves, we must let go of absolutely everything that's holding us down.

Welcome to I Missed Me, your new safe space. I'm excited to form a part of your healing journey. From the perfect bodies, curated diets to the huge housesers and designer closets. What we see on our screens is highly filtered version of reality.

Social media is not reality. Think about your favorite platform. Instagram, Tik Tok, whichever one it is. Everything on social media is created. That influencer who just posted her casual morning routine probably took 30 photos to get that perfect picture.

The couple posting relationship goals, they might have just had a fight before that picture. Social media creates an illusion of perfection because that gets engagement. People are drawn to visually appealing content and social media platforms capitalize on this.

Every like, comment, or share tells the algorithm, "Give me more of this." But the truth is that what you're seeing is often staged, edited, and filtered. Sometimes to extremes. Even though we know social media is fake, our brains don't always process it that way.

This is called the social comparison theory and it is the idea that we evaluate ourselves based on comparison with others. Social media supercharges this because we're not just comparing ourselves to a small circle of friends. We're comparing ourselves to influencers, celebrities, and strangers who are showing us the absolute best moments.

When you see someone living what looks like a better life, your brain's reward system activates. The dopamine hit makes you want to keep scrolling. And even though it's making you feel worse, your brain's prefrontal cortex, which handles rational thought, struggles to keep up with the flood of content.

It doesn't have time to remind you this isn't real life. Over time, this creates a vicious cycle. You feel inadequate. You keep scrolling to escape that feeling and the cycle repeats. One of the most toxic aspect of social media is the obsession with appearance.

Fake bodies and unrealistic diets dominate our feeds. It's not just influencers. It's fitness trainers, celebrities, and even regular people chasing the aesthetic trends of the moment. Many of these body goals are unattainable without extreme measures.

A lot of influencers promote unsafe diets, over-the-top workout routines, or even cosmetic procedures as they're just self-care. Constant exposure to perfect bodies activates the brain's wishial reward system reinforcing the idea of what we need to look like to feel good about ourselves. From private jets and designer wardrobes to mansions with ocean views, social media bombards us with images of wealth and success, much of it is fake.

Some influencers rent luxury items for photo shoots or stage extravagant vacations to create the illusion of wealth. And even when it's real, what we don't see are the sacrifices, depths, or pressures that might lurking behind the scenes. We're wired to compare our social standing with others.

And when we see someone living the life we want, it can trigger feeling inadequate or even resentment. Social media amplifies this by giving us constant access to these images, making us feel like we're falling behind 24/7. It's not just the content that's harming us, but it is the endless scrolling itself.

Spending hours a day on social media rewires your brain in ways that aren't healthy. Every notification, like or share, triggers a small dopamine release. And over time, your brain becomes addicted to these micro rewards, making it harder to step away from the screen.

Every post you scroll past is a decision. Do I engage? Do I compare? Do I keep scrolling? This constant mental effort wears down our ability to focus and to make clear choices. The rapid fire nature of social media, shortens your attention span.

Your brain gets used to quick hits of information and struggles with deeper sustained focus. All of this adds up to a major mental health crisis. Heavy social media use increases rates of anxiety, depression, and loneliness.

Because when we're constantly comparing our lives to created content, we start to feel like we're not enough. The irony is that the more time we spend on social media trying to connect, the more disconnected we feel from real life, unfollow accounts that make you feel bad about yourself. Follow creators who inspire, educate, and genuinely make you happy.

Set boundaries. Limit your screen time. Try apps that track your usage or set phone free times during your day. Practice gratitude. Focus on what's real in your life. Keep a gratitude journal to remind yourself of your own blessings instead of someone else's highlights.

Seek real connections. Spend more time with people that love you and offline. Real life interactions are scientifically proven to boost mood and reduce stress. Social media is a tool. It is not reality. And it can connect us, educate us, and entertain us.

But it can also harm us. And if we don't use it mindfully, it can control us. Remember, the next time you're scrolling through your feed and feeling like comparison is taking over, remind yourself this isn't real. Behind every perfect picture is a story you don't see.

And most of the time, that story is a lot messier than you think. Social media algorithms are designed to keep you on the platform for as long as possible because your attention equals profit. The more you scroll, the more ads you see and the more money these platforms make.

To achieve this, the algorithms prioritize content that grabs your attention. Often, the most extreme, polished, or sensationalized posts. This is why fake over-the-top content thrives. It is not a coincidence that you see posts of influencers flaunting their perfect lives right after a stressful day.

That platforms know this will hook you. Envir insecurity drive higher engagement than positive ones. When you feel like you're missing out or falling behind, you're more likely to keep scrolling, searching for something to make yourself feel better.

Many people feel pressured to keep up with the aesthetics and luxuries they see online, leading to overspending and even that. A survey found that millennials and Gen C are more likely to make impulsive purchases based on what they see online. Whether it's a trendy outfit or a new gadget or a new expensive vacation, people often spend money changing a lifestyle they believe they should have.

Some influencers make it look easy because they're being paid to promote these things. What you see as their effortless lifestyle is often a calculated marketing strategy. The more fake something is, the better it tends to perform on social media.

Think about viral posts, dramatic before and after transformations, seemingly effortless success stories where spontaneous moments are actually meticulously planned. This happens because social media platforms reward engagement. If a post gets likes, shares, and comments, the algorithm boosts it, putting it in front of even more people.

Authentic, unpolished content often struggles to compete because it doesn't evoke the same strong emotional reactions. The result is a feedback loop where creators feel pressured to exaggerate, filter, or autoright fabricate their content to stay relevant. At this point, you might be wondering, how do we escape this mess?

One of the most powerful steps you can take is to do a social media detox. This doesn't mean deleting all your social media accounts, but it means taking intentional breaks to reconnect with yourself and your offline. Studies show that even a short break from social media can reduce feeling of stress, improve focus, and boost a real happiness.

Spend more time in nature. Journaling your thoughts and feelings. Engaging in hobbies that don't involve a screen. Real success isn't about likes, followers, or curated aesthetics, but it is about living a life that feels meaningful to you.

Ask yourself, what truly brings me joy? And what are my personal values? And am I living in alignment with them? How can I measure success in ways that don't rely on external validation? When you start focusing on your own path, the noise of social media starts to fade the next time you pick up your phone and start scrolling.

Ask yourself, is this adding value to my life or is it stealing my peace with love? Maf besties, if you enjoyed today's episode, make sure to share with anyone that might need to listen. Don't forget that we have a membership where as soon as you sign up, you will receive an I missed me hoodie.

Plus, you have access to an exclusive episode every single month, printable activities, meditations, monthly challenges, PDF guides, and behindthe-scenes content. Don't forget to follow I miss on social media. I miss podcast, on Instagram and Tik Tok, and subscribe to ISISM's YouTube channel.

I miss podcast. I will see you guys on our next episode.

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Long form
Published: 2026-01-19
Views: 475
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kr5JpblqZQ0
Runtime: 43 min 4 sec (9,719 words)

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to whoever this may impact. Sometimes our lives have to be completely shaken up, changed, and rearranged to relocate us where we're really meant to be. Sometimes change feels like loss. Transformation [music] is scary. And sometimes to discover the best versions of ourselves, we must let [music] go of absolutely everything that's holding us down.

Welcome to I Missed Me, your new safe space. I'm excited to form a part of your healing journey. [music] Hey besties. I am so excited. I haven't made this intro in over a year. I lowkey forgot how to podcast. This is crazy. Wow, we have a lot to talk about.

This is going to be a long episode. If you are in the car, I hope this is a long ride. If you're studying, you're about to have a really long studying session. If I'm in the background on your TV, if you're cooking, this better be a long recipe.

Besties, we have a really long episode because I have a lot to tell you guys. We have a lot to catch up on. And of course, I'm going to get into today's episode. Last year, I did 24 things that I learned in 2024. And so, this year, I decided to do the first episode of 2026, 15 things that I learned in 2025.

Because, again, this is already going to be a long episode. If I were to do 25 things that I learned, this episode would be 3 hours long. I want to start out by saying, besties, welcome. If you're still here, if you've been listening since 2022 when I first started this podcast, I am so grateful.

Thank you so much. You guys have seen my whole journey. You guys have seen my growth. the podcast grows, the podcast pauses, the podcast changes, and I am just so grateful if you're still here and still believe on everything the podcast has to share and help you.

So, thank you. If you're new to I Missed Me, also, thank you. I'm glad that you found me. I'm glad that you found this. And I promise you guys that I missed me is going to be your safe space and it is going to be a very huge big tool to help you and guide you through your healing journey.

That is the goal and that is the purpose of this podcast. And yeah, I just want to start off by saying thank you for being here. Thank you for listening whether you're new or not. My name is Mafian Sures. I am your host. And again, before we get into today's episode, I owe you guys an explanation.

About 3 weeks ago, I hosted the relaunch of the podcast. And even though there was episodes all throughout 2025 because I did not miss a week of episodes in 2025. I missed me did post one episode weekly for the 52 weeks of 2025.

I wasn't present in the podcast at all. Those episodes were actually pre-recorded in October of 2024 because I knew that 2025 was going to be different for me. It was going to be a very busy year. I was barely going to have time to record.

Having a podcast is a full-time job and doing social media is also a full-time job. And I do both and it was becoming very tiring and very exhausting. So, I had the idea to pre-record all of the episodes of 2025, hire a team, and don't have to worry about the podcast at all.

And that is exactly what I did. In October, I sat down in a studio for a week straight. I would have eight, nine hour recording sessions where I would record nine, 10 episodes every single day for a week straight. And then we just edited them.

We pres-scheduled them. I changed outfits 100,000 times in a studio. And I didn't have to worry about the podcast at all last year. I did this because of multiple reasons, which is the explanation that I want to give you guys as to why the podcast was so different last year and what is the podcast going to be this year and how my mindset has changed and how this podcast has evolved and how I've evolved.

I started this podcast in 2022. I was 18 when I started this podcast. And for me, that is crazy to think because I'm 22 now and 18 is a baby. I was a baby when I started this podcast and I was a baby when this podcast started doing really good and started growing very fast.

2022 started I missed me. 2023 was the peak of I missed me. And again, if you've been following the journey, you know that I missed me in 2023. It wasn't every single chart. It was number one in Canada, number one in Australia, number one in UK.

And back then, the podcast was my full-time job. It was my only source of income. I was podcasting for a living. And even though it was the greatest year career-wise and for the podcast, it was probably one of the worst years of my life emotionally.

I was very drained. I went to college and I've told you guys this story before. I went to college for a semester. I realized that college was not for me. I do think that college can be amazing for some people. I was just not the case.

I didn't have a good college experience, especially because when I moved to college, the podcast was doing really good and I felt so much pressure having to keep up with both my homework and my classes and be extremely present in college because I felt guilty that my parents were paying for it. But at the same time, I had an amazing opportunity where I was being invited to Spotify to record with amazing guests and I was in every single chart and I had to record a weekly episode so that my sponsors kept coming in and it was just like a really tough mental battle that I was going through at 19 of wanting to keep my project alive and doing good and at the same time didn't want to let my parents and the people around me that loved me and that wanted to see me succeed down. But ultimately, I had to choose myself and ultimately I had to choose what made me happy.

So, I ended up choosing the podcast, going social media full-time, dropped out of college, moved back to my parents house. This was in 2023. And in 2024, I went all in on the podcast. I started traveling to LA. I started traveling to New York.

I would book studios for like 3 days and I would again change outfits and record like eight episodes a day and I was thriving and the podcast was doing amazing. And on the personal side of things, like my personal social media, I felt very disconnected from who I wanted to be versus what I was posting. Okay, I was posting motivational self-growth content on my podcast weekly and I was helping so many people and all of the episodes were doing good and I was in a lot of charts and then on the personal side of things like my personal brand Mafian is like Mafian is on Tik Tok, Mafian is on Instagram like my personal side of things I was posting very like relatable videos wanting to go viral and chasing views and chasing numbers but that wasn't the content that I was passionate about creating.

like it wasn't content that number one was adding value and number two that I felt passionate about recording. I just felt like I had to post because I had to post. And so again, I was just posting like silly little 7-second videos that did get millions of views, did go very viral, but weren't fulfilling me and weren't making me feel like I was actually like giving back to the world or adding any value or like educating people in any way.

When on my podcast, I was doing the complete opposite. I was healing and I was helping and I was educating and I felt very disconnected from Maf the podcast host and Maf the personal brand if that makes any sense and like I just don't know how to explain it because yes it's still me but I have different projects and they're very different things and so I felt a very big disconnection and when I drop out of college I move back home I have a meeting with my manager at the time and I'm like I don't know what to do because I feel very disconnected like I feel like my content is all over the place I am a podcast host on one side giving amazing advice and I am a wannabe influencer on the other side. I wasn't working with brands.

I wasn't really monetizing my personal side of things. I wasn't growing at all. Point is, I just felt unfulfilled and disconnected. And he was like, "Why don't you start giving advice on your personal social media as well?" Like, you do so good on your podcast and you give such amazing advice that I feel like if you really want to give back and educate people and like heal people on every single one of your platforms, you should start talking to the camera and giving advice in a more personal way.

like why don't you get ready, give advice and on the podcast side it's a little bit more professional where you're in a studio you're you have a microphone and again on your personal side it's a little bit like more personal getting ready or just like giving advice in the car or whatever I was like wow that is such an amazing idea so that is exactly what I started doing in 2024 all 2024 was that and again if you've been following my journey you guys have seen like change of content and the change my platforms have had because they've been a couple and they've been big but I decided to ultimately merge both mafia's podcast host, self-development, healing content. I was only talking about that. Every single one of my platforms was self-development, healing, becoming better, getting closer to yourself.

And so, again, on my personal side of things, and on my personal platforms, I was recording a lot of get ready with me while we talk about heartbreak. This is how you are going to find closure. And I was just getting ready, giving advice.

I was posting like three videos a day, giving advice in my car, giving advice in my room, giving advice while I got ready, and then again posting weekly episodes on the podcast. besties. I was exhausted. I was exhausted. I was very tired of number one, talking about the same things over and over and over again every single day.

Number two, not leaving my house because again, I dropped out of college. All of my friends were in college. All of my friends were working. I was in my room 24/7. And if I wasn't recording, I was editing. And if I wasn't editing, I was recording.

And if I wasn't recording, I was recording a podcast episode. And if I wasn't recording a podcast episode, I was editing a podcast episode. And my life just became content. My life became recording, editing, going to sleep in my room 24/7.

And I hit rock bottom emotionally, mentally. I was just so exhausted. I hit rock bottom. It became such a routine that I didn't want to do, which is really sad because content creation is a dream. Like a lot of people dream with creating content and doing that for a living.

And I felt very guilty that I wasn't feeling as grateful as I was supposed to be because of how tired I was feeling. And so that was my 2024. And because I was feeling so tired by the end of 2024, I decide to hire an agency called Find the Click.

And Find the Click is the agency that organized the relaunch for my podcast. And I love those girls. They have literally saved I miss life. And the reason as to why I miss Me still a thing is because of them. And I'll give you guys a little bit of context, but I find them, I tell them I need help.

And Issa, which is my current podcast editor, decides to take over. We sit down and I'm like, I don't want to be doing this in 2025. like my routine has to change, my life has to change. I am way too tired and way too exhausted.

I need to have time for myself. And so that is where I decided to pre-record all of I miss episodes for 2025. I'm like, it's going to be a very busy and tiring and exhausting week. But I prefer to have a week that is really hard and really exhausting than to have another whole year that is really tiring and really exhausting.

I was burnt out. I was exhausted. I was tired. If you guys go see the videos of the podcast last year where I was recording in a studio, I look so tired and so exhausted and you can literally hear in my voice. And at the time I was also going through changes in my relationship.

And so I was going through a really hard time emotionally where I would drive from my house an hour and a half to studio crying. I would get to the parking lot wipe my tears, go into an 8 hour recording session, do eight podcast episodes, get in my car, start crying again. It was it was tough.

It was a really tough period in my life where I was figuring it out. It wasn't a hard year. 2024 was a really good year that taught me that the process and the journey is extremely important and it is a huge part of the process to be able to look back and feel proud of yourself.

But it was that it was a process and it was a journey. And in January, I remember this perfectly in January of 2025 last year, I sat down with myself in my room and I'm like, I cannot repeat 2024 ever again. I cannot repeat it ever again.

I cannot feel that level of exhaustion. And I cannot feel that level of unmotivation ever again. I'm supposed to feel excited about everything that I do. I'm supposed to feel motivated. I'm supposed to feel proud of doing everything that I'm doing.

I cannot go through this ever again. What am I going to do differently? And at the same time, I was feeling very frustrated because like I said, all of my content was healing. All of my content was self-development. All of my content was motivation.

And as much as I love talking about this, which is ultimately why I came back, and we'll get into that. As much as I enjoy talking about growth, self-development, healing, heartbreak, and all of those things that make us grow, I enjoy doing a lot of different things. I enjoy documenting my life.

I enjoy creating content. I enjoy making videos, getting dressed, doing my makeup, going to events, traveling. Like, all those things I am also very passionate about. And I niched down so much that the problem wasn't content creation.

And the problem wasn't making videos that was making me so tired and so exhausted. The problem was that I wasn't entirely doing everything that made me happy. And I had so much builtup frustration of what I wanted to do versus what I was actually doing.

I felt very frustrated with myself. And I felt very frustrated with life of like I want to do this and I want it to perform well. But when I don't talk about self-rowth and when I don't talk about motivation, nobody watches it and it doesn't perform well and it puts me in a really like mental hole.

I was battling myself really hard. And so I sat with myself in my room and I was like, you know what? because I'm not repeating another year of feeling exhausted and tired when it's supposed to be something that I feel passionate about and love.

I am going to do what makes me happy. Period. Like, I am going to do what makes me happy. I am going to edit the way that I want to edit. I'm going to record the way that I want to record. I'm going to document and post whatever it is that I want to post.

I am going to do what makes me happy regardless of the results and regardless of how it performs. The podcast is taken care of. I hired someone to edit. They're going to take care of the podcast and me, myself, and I am going to do what makes me happy.

I am going to post whatever makes me happy. I am going to record whatever makes me happy. If I want to record an outfit, a makeup, getting dressed, if I want to record a coffee run, like whatever I want to do, I'm going to do it regardless of the results.

And I am not going to care whether people watch it or not because I am determined to be happy doing what I love. And when I decided that the universe moved around me and God moved around me and I truly do feel like God was like finally you care about what matters which is you. Finally you leave aside what the ego wants which is numbers and attention and doing everything all at once and you choose you and you choose what makes you happy.

And ironically 2025 ended up being the best year of my life. the best year of my life in every single aspect. Career-wise, relationship-wise, emotionally wise, spiritual wise, it was an amazing year in every single aspect. And it was because ultimately, regardless of what happened, I chose myself.

I chose myself in a lot of different ways that I will continue to share all throughout this podcast this year. I learned what it is to finally choose yourself. I learned how you choose yourself. And I learned the importance of choosing yourself and choosing what makes you happy, which is ultimately what will bring you peace, fulfillment, and satisfaction.

And so that was in January. I decide that I'm going to completely start over because I was so frustrated and I was so exhausted. Decided to completely start over. And I archived every single video that I had posted for the past 6 years.

I started posting videos back in like 2019 when I was in high school. I decided to archive it all. I archive everything. And that is why if you were to like to stock or find like the motivational videos that I used to post in 2024, you can't really find them.

Not because I didn't feel proud of them, but because I really wanted to start over and start from scratch. So, I archived everything and I decided to start over. And in April of 2025, I post a video called the ultimate influencer boot camp.

If you guys come here from my personal social media, you guys know about that episode and that boot camp, which did insanely good. It did amazing. And it was ultimately a series that I started with the purpose of teaching people how to grow on social media the way that I have grown on social media and like teaching people tips and tricks and the things that I think that have made me grow and find my niche and find what makes me happy and passionate ultimately build a platform throughout all of the years that I've been doing social media.

It did really good and that motivated me a lot especially because I took that as a sign of wow I don't only have to talk about motivation and self-rowth for people to listen to me. I just have to give value back however that is whether it's entertainment or education or self-growth or motivation. I have to give value back.

That is what I'm passionate about. I'm not just passionate about healing or self-growth. I'm passionate about creating with value. And that is what I did all throughout 2025. I had amazing opportunities. I worked with amazing brands.

I went on amazing trips. I traveled all over the world. I spent time with my family. I moved out by myself, which is another episode that I have to update you guys on and share my lessons. But I found time for the people that I love.

I found time for myself. I found time for my passions. And I've also realized that my worth is not tied to one single thing or to numbers or to results, but my worth is tied to how much am I willing to believe in myself. So 2025 on the personal side of things was amazing.

However, and because I am only one person and because even though it was an amazing year, I was also very exhausted and I can't do multiple things at the same time and I need a team and I need people to help me to get to where I want to be. Because I didn't have that and because I am only one person and can only be in one place at a time and I was so focused on my growth on the personal side of things and everything that I had to do. I paused.

I missed me for a little for two main reasons. Number one, I have changed a lot. I have grown a lot. My life has changed a lot and I started this podcast going through a breakup and talking about heartbreak and I am now in an almost two-year relationship that is very healthy.

That has also taught me so incredibly much. But the lessons are different and what I've learned is different. And same thing with everything in my life. My career now looks different. My relationships now look different. My state of living now looks different.

I live by myself now. Like I'm a completely different person from when I started this podcast. And I needed last year to learn different things, to grow into a different person so that I could come back into the podcast and share brand new completely different things because not only have I grown, everyone that has been listening to the podcast for these past few years has also grown.

You are not the same person that you were when you first started listening to this podcast. So I needed last year to grow. And number two, I also needed last year to realize that I missed me is something that I still want to continue to do because again, I was very exhausted and very tired that I even questioned myself as to whether the podcast was something that I wanted to continue to do or not.

And even though it was a really heartbreaking thought, I did consider stopping the podcast and being like, I am way too busy on the personal side of things. Hopefully, and if God wants me to, I will continue to grow and like when am I going to find time to record episodes? When am I going to find time to make this project a beautiful one?

Because if you've been following my journey, I've had a clothing brand, I've had this podcast, I've had multiple different projects and I don't like putting things out if they are not good quality things and good quality projects. I've always tried to keep this podcast the highest of qualities because that's just me and that's and that's how I like doing things. And I asked myself, if I'm not willing to give my 100% to the podcast and if this podcast is not going to be quality that I want it to be, is it even worth it to keep going or to continue to do it?

And then I went in the portal one day cuz I got a payment for like a brand and I had to send it to my bank and I saw the analytics and I saw the amount of people that follow the podcast still and the amount of people that have listened to the podcast like past 4 years and it's over 6 million people. 6 million people is a lot of people. A lot of people.

And I sat with myself and I reflected and I saw that number because I hadn't really checked it in months and I was like there is no way that I stop a project that has helped so many people. People find time and I truly believe this. people finding time for what they want to have time for and I want to have time for this.

I miss me is not only a project that has helped millions heal but it is a project where I have healed so much and it makes me get emotional and it it does make me a little bit emotional because it is a project and it is a platform that has helped me grow so much personally. It is a space where I completely disconnect for the two hours that I'm recording because you guys listen to a 25-minute episode, but I mess up a lot and I cut a lot of parts out and I completely disconnect and I leave my phone. Do not disturb.

I don't check my social media. I completely log in and reflect on the things that I've learned and it has helped me heal so much. And so I realized that it is not the podcast that I have to stop and it is not the podcast that I have to change or rearrange.

It is my time and it is how I choose to handle things this year which was a very big issue last year where I felt like I wanted to do everything all at once and I ultimately realize that again I can't be everywhere all the time and I need to pick and choose what I want to do where I want to go because my time and energy are very sacred. I choose will continue to choose every single week that I sit down and record that I missed me is sacred for me. That this podcast deserves my energy and my time so that every single person that listens to it receives a good highquality episode that helps them heal and that helps me heal.

With that intro being said, I hope that I answered all of you guys' questions. Last year did look different for ISM Me because I knew that I wasn't going to have time. I decided to record shorter, smaller audios that were intended to be listened to over and over and over again.

A lot of people commented, "Is it scripted? Were they read? Were you reading it mostly on YouTube?" Yes, they were scripted. I wrote every single script myself because I was going to be at a studio. The time of the studio was limited.

I mess up a lot. So, I needed to be reading something so that I didn't mess up as much. So, yes, last year's episodes were read. They were supposed to be read because they were supposed to be a script. They were supposed to be a short motivational script with music in the background so that if you're working out or if you're just waking up or if you're having a hard time, a heart, a heart night, you could play it, feel better, repeat it, play it over and over and over again until you feel better.

That was the purpose of last year's episodes. They were very short. They were very intentional. They were very motivational. This year we're back and I built, if you guys follow me on my personal social media, mafia, I posted a series transforming this room and making it my dream podcast room.

So, I moved to an apartment in Miami has two rooms, two bathrooms, and one of the rooms I decided to turn it into a podcast studio, which is where you guys will be seeing me from now on. These episodes will be posted on I miss YouTube, as well as I miss Spotify every single week. Every single Monday, I will be with you guys from now on.

And with all of that being said, let's get started with today's episode. 15 things that I learned in 2025. I think one of the biggest takeaways from last year is the fact that I had been going through different heartbreaking periods in my life before 2025 breakups, friendship breakups, unmotivation, exhaustion, feeling lost, not knowing what to do.

And it is very easy to go through something and then come out of it and be like, "Yes, I had to go through that because that was teaching me that and that was teaching me that and yes, the pain served this purpose and yes, I went through a hard thing because of this, this, and that." And when you heal, you look back and you end up realizing that you went through a hard period of time to learn something. Our problem is that we only grow and we only choose to learn when we go through heartbreaking periods of our life. when we're doing good and when we're thriving and when life is good, we don't really stop and think to ourselves, this is something that I have to work on.

This is something that I have to learn. Yes, life is good, but I am still not perfect and I can continue to become a better person every single day. We don't do that. And I truly do believe that. That is why God, my relationship with God, by the way, grew so much in 2025.

And I will talk about how and where I stand spiritually on a future episode. But one thing that I learned is that I truly believe that God puts us through hard times to get closer to him because when we're thriving and we're doing good, we don't. We just enjoy and we just take advantage of being happy because it doesn't happen quote unquote often and we just make sure to take every single opportunity that is presented in front of us.

And again, we enjoy and we thrive and we have fun. However, to learn and to grow and to be better, we wait until we're going through heartbreak. We wait until life defeats us and we have to get up and be like, "Ah, maybe I do have to learn this.

Maybe I do have to reflect on this. Maybe to get over this pain, I do have to go through this, this, and that." And the way that you're going to hack life into, I don't want to say never going through heartbreak or heartbreaking things ever again because that's not how it works. It is inevitable.

But the way to hack life into feeling good all the time or almost all the time is to constantly work on being better regardless of how good you are doing. And this doesn't mean constantly being hard on yourself because you're not perfect yet or I should be doing this better, this this this this better. No, that's not what I mean.

But what I mean is that when you're happy and when you're thriving and when life is good, you should take the biggest pause and the biggest reflection first of gratitude and appreciating the fact that life is good and appreciating the fact that you're receiving anything that it is that you're receiving. But number two, how can I continue to push myself to be better and am I truly happy or am I just comfortable? and answer yourself honestly and answer yourself with a lot of love and compassion and grace also again a lot of honesty am I truly happy or am I just comfortable is there something that I could be doing right now that I am choosing not to do because I am already happy I am already good so there's no reason as to why I should push myself to do a hard thing or there's no reason as to why I should push myself to start something new or there is no reason as to why I should push myself to put myself in an uncomfortable situation I am already doing good and that is not how growth happens.

Growth doesn't happen when you feel comfortable. Growth happens when even when you're comfortable, you make the decision to push yourself to be in an uncomfortable situation because you know that is going to make you better. And so again, besties, I do have a list of 15 things that I learned in the best year of my life that were still lessons that I did have to learn.

Last year was not perfect at all. I cried so much. I went through also periods of feeling very tired, questioning myself, doubting myself, comparing myself, letting people go, going through friendship breakups. Like it was an amazing year, but not just because of what happened, but also because of everything that I learned.

Number one, one of the biggest lessons that I learned is that no one is going to do it for you. Whatever it is, in whatever word you choose to put in that sentence, no one is going to go to the gym for you. No one is going to start that project for you.

No one is going to post for you if you want to start on social media. No one is going to do that job interview for you. No one is going to do it for you. If you want to grow, if you want to succeed, and if you want to put yourself in that experience or if you want to be that future version of yourself that you dream about becoming, you have to stand up and put yourself in situations that will get you where you want to go.

You want to build muscle and become stronger, you have to start going to the gym. You want to work with brands and you want to receive PR packages, you have to start posting. You want your dream job and you want to work traveling the world or in this office or in this place.

You have to do that job interview. No one is going to do it for you. Take ownership of your life. Take ownership of the experiences that you want to go through and the opportunities that you want to experience and ultimately decide that because you want to get there, you are going to stand up and put in the work.

Number two, your success is worth more than any opinion. Listen to me carefully, besties, because this is one of the biggest mistakes and one of the biggest things that sets people back. Opinions. What are they going to think about me?

Are they going to think I'm embarrassing? Are they going to think I'm cringey? Are they going to judge me for doing this? Your success and whatever you're going to experience if you get over that fear is worth more. I promise you guys, it is worth more any opinion.

Number three, it only has to make sense to you. This one is also a huge one. And listen to me carefully when I tell you that whatever it is that you know is going to make you happy, whatever it is that you know that is going to bring you peace and whatever it is that you and your gut is telling you that will make you the happiest, most joyful version of yourself, but other people don't necessarily understand it or agree with you.

It is your life. They have their own individual lives and they are judging you based on their personal experiences which doesn't mean that will be your reality. A lot of times we let ourselves be influenced by our family or our friends or our mentors or the people around us that want our highest good and want to see us thriving and want to see us do good.

But the truth is that their opinions come from their personal experiences and their personal upbringing and they are judging you based on the things that they have gone through which doesn't mean that are the same things that you are going to go through. So listen to your gut and listen to your instincts and listen to that part of yourself that knows that whatever it is that you're about to do will make you the happiest version of yourself because it only has to make sense to you. Number four, your energy and your time are the most valuable things that you have.

They are the only things that don't come back. Your time doesn't come back and your energy should not be wasted. Therefore, protect them. Please protect your energy and please protect your time. If you think that it's not worth your time, it's not.

And if you think that it's not worth your energy, it's not. There is nothing that should make you compromise either your time or your energy. There is nothing or no one, I promise you besties, that is worth keeping in your life that is making you feel drained, tired, exhausted, if after hanging out with someone you feel tired, if after hanging out with someone you question their relationship, if after hanging out with someone you feel drained and you feel like you're not supposed to be there and you truly feel like that those are not your people, but you don't know how to let go, please listen to me.

Your energy and your time will forever be more valuable than anything or anyone. Everyone and everything that you choose to keep in your life should feel aligned. And if they don't, they're just simply not for you. It does not have to mean that they're bad people.

It does not have to mean that they're bad things or bad situations or bad relationships. It just means that they're not for you. And that is okay. Not everything and not everyone is supposed to be. Number five, and this one I learned it the hard way, but please make time for yourself.

Make time for yourself before you hit a burnout state. Make time for yourself before you hit rock bottom and God forces you to make time for yourself. Make time for yourself before you don't only feel it emotionally or spiritually, but before you start feeling it physically.

Make time for yourself to think. Make time for yourself to reflect. Make time for yourself to just be yourself. If you don't make time for yourself, you don't have time to be grateful. You don't have time to reflect. You don't have time to meditate and recharge.

And by making time for yourself, I don't mean completely isolating yourself and wanting to be entirely alone. I just mean to stop rushing so much, to be everywhere, and to do everything, and to disconnect and pause, even if it's 10 minutes a day, but to rest, to give your mind a rest, to give yourself a physical rest because it's needed. Like resting is not a reward.

Resting is not something that you have to earn. Resting is something that's necessary for your body to function. Understand that and honor that. Number six, don't be afraid. And this is very connected to number four and three, but don't be afraid to remove people from your life if they don't align.

Do not be [clears throat] afraid. Do not be shy. I did it a lot in 2025. And 2025 was the year where I had zero tolerance when it came to feeling misaligned with certain relationships. You are not for everyone and you have to make peace with that.

And the more that you try to be for everyone, the less that you're going to be for anyone. Like that is the biggest thing that I learned. Not everyone is going to like you. You're not going to like everyone. That is natural and that's okay.

And it's supposed to be like that because we all have different personalities. There are people that you're going to meet and you're going to completely and immediately click. There's people that you're going to meet and your body is going to physically repel them.

Like it happened to me a lot in 2025 where I would spend time with some people that I'm like, "Oh, they're nice. Some of our values aligned." But I felt so exhausted when we were together and I felt so drained and I would subconsciously and like even consciously know that I wasn't supposed to be there and like those were just not my people. And that's okay.

You should not feel guilty for not liking someone. You should not feel guilty for setting boundaries. You should not feel guilty for telling someone, you know what, your mindset doesn't completely align with the way that I think and the way that I see life and your personality doesn't completely align with my personality and I think that it would just be better to part ways.

Like not because you're a bad person, not because I'm a bad person, we just don't align. And that's completely okay. You have your people and you will find your group of friends and I have my people and I will find my group of friends.

That is okay. Like that is so normal. Don't feel guilty about it. and also understand that it's necessary. Number seven, also a huge one that I want you to take throughout not only your year, but you throughout your entire life.

Comparison is a thief of joy. And the more that you compare yourself to what someone else has, the more that you're taking energy and space and time in your mind to focus on something that you can be doing right now to reach what they have, not in a competition way, but in a way where if you see someone that is experiencing what you want to experience instead of seeing them as competition or comparison or I that I had that and I feel like I'm a loser because I don't have that. No, you have the time, you have the resources, you have the tools, and you have the abilities to be where that person is.

The only difference between that person and you is that that person put in the work and you are putting in your time to see their work. When in reality, you can see them as inspiration. Take your time and your energy to focus on getting to where they are.

That is the truth. Instead of wasting your time wishing you were someone else, work on yourself to experience what you are personally meant to experience. Number eight, huge one as well. I am going to make a completely separate episode about this one to go more in depth to explain what I actually mean.

But the more that you give, the more that you receive. And this is so true. I understood that if you create into the world, like whatever it is that you choose to do, if you start a project, if you start a business, if you act in a way that is selfish to you, yourself, and your ego, life will slap you in the face.

The more that you give, the more that you do to help the community, the more that you do to help the people around you, the more that you do to let people know that they're not alone, and the more that you teach the gifts that you were brought into this world with, the more that you will continue to receive, to keep spreading those gifts. And I realized that last year a lot. My favorite Bible verse, Matthew 25:29, says to whoever has more, even more will be given to them.

And to whoever has none, even what they have will be taken away. I read that Bible verse very, very young. And I understood that the more that you give, more that you have and you give without being selfish, without gatekeeping, without wanting everything for yourself to enjoy it for yourself and for your ego to feel more important and above.

The more that you share and the more that you truly genuinely want people to grow with you, the more that you will continue to receive. To whoever has none, to whoever has no selflessness, to whoever has no willing to give back, to whoever has no intention of doing good and only receiving for them and to again feed their ego. Even what they have will be taken away.

And if you receive things from a place of wanting to feel superior, I promise you, you will lose it. And if you don't lose it, you will continue to want more. And that is already losing peace which is not worth it. Spread love and you will receive love.

Spread knowledge and you will receive more knowledge. Spread gratitude and you will receive more reasons as to why you should be grateful. That is just how life works. Very important lesson that you should start applying in your life.

Number nine, your boundaries only have to make sense to you. And boundaries are the greatest form of self-respect. Your boundaries, the things that you're willing to tolerate, things that you're not willing to tolerate, they have to make sense to you and only you.

And the people that love you truly want you in their life and truly want to be in your life will respect them and will understand them. And whoever doesn't understand them and whoever decides to cross them is not worth being in your life. You respect yourself through how much you respect the boundaries that you establish.

You establish a boundary. You let someone cross it and you're okay with them crossing it. You're disrespecting yourself. Your boundaries are the biggest form of selfrespect. Establish them. Respect them. Someone wants to be in your life.

And if someone loves you, they will respect them as well. And if they don't, I promise you besties, it is so much better to be alone and be respecting your own boundaries and your own self than to have to continue to keep up with people that continuously disrespect you. And through you allowing disrespect, disrespecting yourself.

Number 10, working on yourself should be your greatest goal. And this is one that I also think it's important to listen to at the beginning, especially at the beginning of the year, because I feel like when we all do our vision boards and when we write down our goals and our achievements for the brand new year, it's become a very popular tradition, especially I've been seeing it around social media to like do your vision boards, which I find amazing. I'm all about doing vision boards.

But a lot of the things that I see on people's vision boards are very much achievements and I want to get this or I want to go here or I want to do this this and that and I want to work with this brand or I want to go on this trip or I want this dream job or I want this dream body and it's just like materialistic materialistic achievements achievements goals goals goals this job this thing this amount of money this this and that. But I think that we should all start setting more personal goals and more emotional goals so that not only do we grow career-wise and success-wise and get to experience physical things in the physical world, but also number one, spiritually we should have more spiritual goals. Get closer to God.

Whatever it is that you believe in. Closer to meditating, get closer to prayer. Get closer to the Bible. Get closer to the world. Get closer. And again, whatever it is that you believe in, I'm just talking from like my personal experiences, but get closer to something spiritually.

Get closer to God spiritually. I don't see that in vision boards. Number two, growing emotionally. I don't see a lot of people putting emotional maturity on their vision boards. And it is something that I think we should all work on because I think that if we all worked on it, we would build better relationships with each other.

Not taking everything so personally. Understanding that everyone has a different background and everyone is going through different things. Not judging people so fast. Not being so mean to one another. Have more empathy. Be more selfless.

I don't see that in vision boards. Working on yourself should be your greatest goal and achievement. Your biggest achievements on your vision board should be personal, emotional, and spiritual in my opinion. Number 11. Peace is more valuable than being liked.

Kind of connects main points, but your peace is way more valuable than being liked by everyone. Keeping your peace, maintaining your sanity, not being around people that are only looking to compete with you, that are praying on your downfall, that are constantly comparing themselves to you, that are quote unquote supporting you, but you know that are low-key praying you don't do as well. and your gut knows and your energy knows and you subconsciously know who's in your life for the right reasons and with the right intentions.

Being at peace with everything and everyone in your life, knowing that every single person that you're keeping and every single relationship that you continue to build is there in your life to make you better and to make you stronger and to make you wiser and not to continuously compete with you. Your piece is more valuable than being liked. I promise you guys.

Number 12, not every thought deserves your attention. Our mind plays tricks on us very often and they're not always good games. Our mind can be a very beautiful and creative place, but it can also be a very dangerous and destructive one if you don't know how to take care of it.

And and our thoughts we can't always control. And that is just the truth. It is a lie that you can control every single thought. What you can control is the thoughts that you attach to and the thoughts that you give attention to.

A negative thought is normal. Maybe you're driving in the car and you have a negative thought about yourself. I'm not enough. I'm not worthy. I could look like this or I could be like this or nobody likes me. It is your responsibility and you are under the control to be like, you know what?

This thought is trauma. This thought is not true. This thought is my brain trying to fall back into toxic negative patterns and I'm not going to let it because I am better. I am confident. I love myself. Or you can also choose to hold on to that thought, give it attention, and be like, "Yes, everyone hates me.

No one likes me. I am the worst. I am not worthy. This person is going to leave me." It is your responsibility and you are under the control of deciding what thought you give attention to. So understand that not every thought deserves your attention.

Number 13. There is no such thing as being too much. There is no such thing as being yourself and being too much for this world. There is no such thing. It literally sounds ridiculous to even say out loud, "Oh, I I am just too much." What do you mean?

What do you mean that's literally who you are? What do you mean you're too much? If you feel like you're too much, or if the people around you are making you feel like you are too much, or maybe you can't be yourself because you're going to be overwhelming, you're just in the wrong room.

You are just in a smaller room than the one that you deserve to be in. And there are huge bigger rooms for you waiting for you to leave that small ass room and walk into a bigger one where they're not only going to accept you, but celebrate you for who you are. So, if you feel like you're too much and if your environment is making you feel like you are too much and trying to make you be smaller or control what you say or your personality because you're afraid of being judged, you're in the wrong room.

You're around the wrong people and you should be able to be your full self with every single person that you choose to be around. Number 14, growth requires self honesty and extremely important as well. You can choose to lie to everyone around you.

You can choose to lie to your parents, to your siblings, to your friends, to your mentors, to your teachers. You can choose to lie to every single person that wants to help you. But if you lie to yourself, there is no way of growing.

There is no way of growing if you're not honest with yourself. What am I actually feeling? What do I actually align with? Is this truly what I think is the right thing for me? Am I doing the right thing? Am I in the right place?

Am I with the right person? If you're not honest with yourself, you will forever stay somewhere where you subconsciously know you're not supposed to be in. And number 15, last but not least, to close off today's episode and finish up our list.

You attract who you are. I've said it these past four years. I mean it more than ever and I stand by it more and more every day. You attract who you are. If you want nice things, be a nice person. Think nice thoughts. Spread positivity.

Spread goodness. Have good intentions. If you want healthy relationships, have a healthy relationship with yourself. Have a healthy relationship with your mind. Have a healthy relationship with your body. Have a healthy relationship spiritually.

And that is a way of hacking life. Ask yourself, what do I want? And give it to yourself. And by consequence, you will attract it. That's literally how it works. What do you want? I want to grow on social media. Start by posting like you're already a successful creator.

I want a healthy relationship. Start by dating yourself and treating yourself like the most important person in your life. Just like you want to meet someone that treats you like the most important person in their life. I want healthy friendships.

Be a good person to yourself. Be a good, healthy friend to yourself. Talk to yourself in a nice way. Don't call yourself a loser. Don't speak bad. Don't speak negatively and don't speak poorly to yourself. I want a good healthy body.

Go to the gym and eat well. Exercise. Treat yourself like you actually want a healthy body. Your body is a temple. Take care of it. You attract who you are, not what you want. If you want nice things, be nice to yourself. I'm so excited and I'm so happy that I'm back.

You guys have no idea. Like, this is going to be so healthy for me. This is going to be so so so so good for me personally. I enjoy doing this so much. I don't care about the results. I don't care if no one listens and I don't care if people don't come back to listen because they have found better podcasts.

I don't care. I don't care about the results. I don't care about the numbers. It makes me happy and I enjoy it a lot. I'm very passionate about sharing things I've learned. And I'm very passionate about helping people get closer to themselves because I understand the importance of having a good relationship with yourself.

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There is so much time to make this year the best year of your life. We're finally back. I'll see you guys next Monday. With love, maf besties, if you enjoyed today's episode, make sure to share with anyone that might need to listen.

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to whoever this may impact. Sometimes our lives have to be completely shaken up, changed, and rearranged to relocate us where we're really meant to be. Sometimes change feels like loss. Transformation [music] is scary. And sometimes to discover the best versions of ourselves, we must let [music] go of absolutely everything that's holding us down.

Welcome to I Missed Me, your new safe space. I'm [music] excited to form a part of your healing journey. Today we're talking about something that I think every single one of us has had to face at some point. How to actually get over someone.

And I don't mean pretending you're over them while secretly stalking their stories or rereading their text at 2 a.m. I mean actually moving on emotionally, mentally, spiritually. And I know it's easier said than done. We all tell ourselves, "I'm fine.

I'm over it." Until something random, a smell, a song on TikTok, a quote that hits too close reminds us that maybe we're not. So, let's talk about what really getting over someone looks like because it's not pretty, but it's worth it. Let's talk about the illusion of moving on.

Getting over someone doesn't happen overnight, and it's not a straight line. It's messy. It's confusing. And sometimes it feels like you're taking 10 steps forward and 11 back. You'll have days where you generally feel free, like you've let go.

And then you'll have days where you're crying in your car, convincing yourself that maybe the universe made a mistake. That's okay. Healing doesn't look perfect. It looks human. The biggest mistake we make is trying to perform.

Moving on. We post the stories. We flirt with the new people. We go out with friends. Not because we're ready, but because we're trying to convince ourselves we are. But pretending you're fine is like putting a band-aid on a wound that still needs stitches.

It might look healed from the outside, but inside it's still bleeding. You don't need to prove to anyone that you're over it. You just need to be honest with yourself that you're not yet. And that's where real healing begins.

When you stop performing and start processing. Now, I want you to understand that you're not missing them. You're missing the idea. This one's tough because most of the time, we're not actually missing them. We're missing the idea of them.

The version we created in our head. We miss the moments that feel like love, the comfort of the routine, the fantasy of who you thought they could become. But if we're honest, a lot of that wasn't real. You're probably missing how you felt around them.

The excitement, the validation, the comfort. But missing a feeling isn't the same as missing a person. When you step back and look at the full picture, not the highlights, but the whole story, you start to see the cracks you once ignored.

The parts of you that dim to make them comfortable, the boundaries you softened to keep the peace. Our brain romanticizes what's gone because pain wants to make sense of itself. But nostalgia is a liar. Sometimes it edits out the bad parts and only replace the good.

So next time you catch yourself saying, "I miss them." Remind yourself that what you probably miss is who you were when you didn't know better. And that version of you deserves grace, not judgment. Please stop checking what they're doing.

All right, this one's going to hurt a little, but you can't heal from something you keep reopening. Stop checking their stories. Stop rereading old messages. Stop stalking who they follow because every time you do, you're picking at a scrap that's trying to close and you're convincing yourself you're still part of their story when you're not.

I know the urge. You just want to check just one look. But healing requires discipline. You can't detox from something you keep consuming. Think of it like an addiction. You don't ease of an addiction. You go cold turkey. Mute them, block them, unfollow if you have to.

Not because you hate them, but because your peace deserves protection. Every time you choose to not look, you're choosing you. And that's the beginning of freedom. One of the most important steps is to feel the pain. Don't avoid it.

Healing is uncomfortable. And that's why most people avoid it. We distract ourselves with work, with new people, with noise, anything that keeps us from sitting alone with the ache. But the truth is, the only way out is through.

You can't heal what you refuse to feel. Cry, scream, journal, talk to your friends, let yourself greet what could have been. Because heartbreak is grief. It's the death of a version of yourself. It's the death of a version of your life you thought you'd had.

And grief isn't weakness. It's proof that you cared. So, stop rushing your sadness away. Stop trying to positive vive your way out of your real emotions. Healing isn't about avoiding pain, but it is about surviving it until it transforms you.

and it will transform you one day. The same pain that keeps breaking you will be the reason someone else feels understood when you share your story. Now rewrite the story. Eventually the pain softens. You'll catch yourself smiling again, laughing, living, and that's when you start realizing maybe it was never about losing them, but it was about finding you.

You'll remember who you were before them. and you will start rebuilding the version of yourself that you abandoned to fit inside their world. That's what heartbreak does. It gives you the chance to start over intentionally to decide who you are without their influence, [music] without their validation.

When you stop asking, why did this happen to me? And start asking what is this teaching me? That's when you reclaim your power. Because heartbreak doesn't ruin you. It reveals you. It shows you what you value, what you need, what you'll never settle for again.

And so maybe getting over someone isn't about forgetting them. Maybe it's about out growing them. Maybe they were never meant to stay. Maybe they were just meant to show you who you could become once they left. Focus on rebuilding your life.

Now that the emotional dust has started to settle, it's time to rebuild. Not by distraction, but by rediscovery. Start doing things that make you feel alive again. Redecorate your space. Change your playlist. Take yourself on dates.

Say yes to new experiences. Fill your life with things that remind you of your own energy, your laughter, your independence, your goals. Because when we lose someone, our world feels smaller. But that's the thing. It's not smaller.

It's just waiting for you to feel it again. Rebuilding your life is an act of self- loveve. And when you start doing that, you'll realize you were never incomplete. You just forgot who you were for a little while. The goal isn't to erase the past.

is to rebuild a future that feels full without needing anyone else to complete it. Now, very hard, but very necessary. Let go with love. Letting go doesn't always mean cutting someone off with hate or anger, but it means accepting that some stories don't need a sequel.

You can honor what you had without wanting it back. You can be grateful for what it taught you, even if it ended badly. Closure doesn't always come in a conversation. Sometimes it's just a quiet decision you make inside yourself.

A moment where you choose peace over chaos and softness over bitterness. Letting go with love doesn't mean you're weak. It means you're strong enough to forgive. Not for them, but for yourself. Because peace is expensive and you can't afford to waste it on resentment.

So, how does healing actually look like? Healing doesn't look like indifference. It looks like acceptance. It's not about pretending you don't care. It's not about acting unbothered, but it is about getting to a place where you can finally breathe again without feeling heavy.

It's not about forgetting their birthday or pretending the memories never existed, but it is about being able to remember without spiraling. It's about being able to say that was a part of my life, but it's not my life anymore. Healing looks like little moments, not big breakthroughs.

It's the first time you go a whole day without checking their page. It's when you find an old hoodie they left behind and instead of crying, you just smile and fold it away. It's realizing you can talk about them without your voice shaking.

It's when you hear their favorite song and your chest doesn't tighten. It's when you stop rewriting the ending in your head because you finally accept that this is how it was meant to end. And it's when you realize you don't need an apology anymore.

You don't need closure. You don't need one last text because deep down you've already given yourself all of the closure that you needed. You start to wish them well. Not because you want them back, but because your heart is too full to carry hate.

That's real growth. That's peace. And here's the thing that nobody tells you about healing. It's slow. It's not linear. And it's not always this empowering glow-up moment you see on social media. Sometime healing is sitting in silence and realizing you don't even know who you are without them anymore.

It's learning to meet that version of yourself again. Sometimes it's crying on random Tuesdays because something small reminded you of them. Sometimes it's laughing again and then feeling guilty for laughing. And sometimes it's thinking you're over them until you're not.

And that's all okay. You're allowed to fluctuate. You're allowed to feel both the loss and the freedom. Healing isn't a race. It's not about getting to the finish line first. It's about letting every version of you that loved, that hurt, that hoped, and that fell apart have their moment to exist and be released.

Because that version of you that begged to be chosen, she deserves compassion and not shame. Sometimes healing looks like finally admitting you stayed longer than you should have. Not because you were weak, but because you loved deeply and believed in potential.

And that's not something to regret. That's something to be proud of. It takes bravery to love. Even more bravery to let go. And the most courage to stay softer after being hurt. And healing, real healing, is realizing that you can do it all.

Is realizing that you can do all of that and still keep your heart open. It's knowing that love will come again. That it will feel different next time. It feels safe, grounded, mutual, because this time you'll know your worth.

Some days healing looks like journaling. And some days it looks like dancing in your kitchen. Some days it looks like deleting photos you held on to for too long. And some days it just looks like breathing through the ache and whispering, "I'm okay.

I'm getting there." You start creating new memories. Not to erase the old ones, but to remind yourself that life still has beauty left in it. [music] You start taking yourself out again. You start looking in the mirror and recognizing your reflection again.

You start to fall in love not with someone new, but with your peace, with your mornings, with your solitude. And that's the beauty of healing. It's quiet. No one applauds you for it. No one really sees it happen. But one day, it's [music] there.

You'll wake up and realize that your heart doesn't feel heavy anymore. You'll realize that you stopped narrating your life through their memory. It doesn't happen in one big moment, but it happens gradually in the pauses between thoughts, in the way your laughter sounds lighter, in the way your energy starts to shift back towards yourself.

And one day you'll think of them and it will just be natural. No pain, no rush of nostalgia. No anger, just gratitude. Gratitude that you experienced something that taught you. Gratitude that you cared enough to hurt. Gratitude that you're still here, still trying, still learning, and still loving.

Getting over someone isn't about forgetting them, but it is about forgiving yourself. For giving so much of your heart to something that wasn't meant to last. For believing in love that didn't know how to love you back. For not leaving the first time your heart told you to.

Forgiving yourself of being human. Because that's all heartbreak is the most human thing we can experience. And love doesn't always mean staying. Endings don't always mean failure. Sometimes endings are protection. Sometimes heartbreaks are awakenings.

Sometimes they're the beginning of everything that was waiting for you once you were brave enough to let go. So if you're listening to this right now and you're still healing, I want you to know that it is okay. You're not behind.

You're not broken. You're just in the in between. The part of the story where your character rebuilds, the part no one posts about, but the part that changes everything. Because one day you'll meet someone new. Or maybe you won't.

And you'll just meet you. And either way, it'll make sense because the love you gave won't go to waste. It'll come back to you in the form of peace, in the form of purpose, in the form of people who love you the way that you always deserve to be loved.

And that's how you'll know you'll actually moved on. With love, mafies, if you enjoyed today's episode, make sure to share with anyone that might need to listen. Don't forget that we have a membership where as soon as you sign up, you will receive an I missed me hoodie.

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Long form
Published: 2025-08-29
Views: 359
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sIiANepZdDQ
Runtime: 7 min 45 sec (1,296 words)

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to whoever this may impact. Sometimes our lives have to be completely shaken up, changed, and rearranged to relocate us where we're really meant to be. Sometimes change feels like loss. Transformation is scary. And sometimes to discover the best versions of ourselves, we must let go of absolutely everything that's holding us down.

Welcome to I Missed Me, your new safe space. I'm excited to form a part of your healing journey. If it's not a yes, it's a no. This mindset is about clarity. It's about recognizing that hesitation, doubt, or lack of enthusiasm can carry as much meaning as an outright no.

How many times have we talked ourselves into things that we didn't feel great about just to avoid conflict or discomfort? It's not always easy to say no. But here's the truth. Every time we ignore that little voice inside that says, "hm, I'm not sure about this." We're silencing something really important.

our boundaries in relationships. If someone you're dating ask for something and your response is, I guess, that's not a yes. And that hesitation, that's your intuition speaking. Whether you're the one asking or the one being asked, clarity matters.

A real yes is enthusiastic, confident, and mutual. At work, ever been asked to take on a project that you didn't have the energy for? Maybe you said yes out of obligation, even though deep down it was a no. That can lead to burnout and resentment.

Not exactly the recipe for success with ourselves. How often do we ignore our gut instincts? Whether it's saying yes to a night out when we need rest or taking on commitments that don't align with our goals, those little nos we feel are just as valid.

Here's the thing. When we respect our own no, it becomes easier to respect and recognize it in others. A no from fear feels restrictive. It comes with self-judgment, like I'm not good enough to do this. But a true no feels like relief.

It's the weight lifted off your shoulders when you honor your boundaries. On the other side, a yes should feel like alignment. Like yes, this is right for me. This is where I am supposed to be. How do we start living by if it's not a yes, it's a no?

Here are some practical tips. Check in with yourself. When faced with a decision, take a moment and ask yourself, is this a full body yes or am I hesitating? Practice saying no. Saying no can feel awkward, especially if you're a people pleaser.

But practice makes it easier. Try small moments of honesty, like turning down an invite if you're not feeling it. Listen without assumptions. If you're the one seeking a yes, pay attention to more than just words. Hesitation, tone, and body language all tell a story.

Respect others boundaries. If you're given a no, or even a maybe, accept it without pushing. Trust that the other person knows what they need. Remember, living by if it's not a yes, it's a no. Isn't about being rigid or closed off.

It's about creating a life of clarity, respect, and authenticity. I challenge you this week to pay attention to those moments of hesitation. Whether it's a yes or a no, honor it. You might be surprised at how empowering it feels.

Think about the way many of us were raised. Saying no, especially to authority figures, was often seen as disrespectful or uncomparative. In school, at home, or even at work, compliance was praised. We were taught to avoid conflict, to go with the flow, and to keep the peace.

Even at the expenses of our own feelings. For women and marginalized groups, the pressure can be even greater. Society often expects people in these groups to be agreeable, a commodity, and non-confrontational. Saying no might feel like stepping out of the line, and it can be scary.

But the truth is, every time we choose to honor our boundaries, we're slowly rewriting that script. We're challenging the norms that taught us to prioritize others comfort over our own needs. Let's talk about what happens when we constantly live by if it's not a yes, it's a no mindset.

We build stronger relationships. When you honor your no, it encourages others to do the same. Over time, this creates relationships based on mutual respect. You're no longer guessing or walking on eggshells. You know where you stand, and that builds trust, increased selfrespect.

Every time you say no, when you mean it, or say yes when you mean it, you're reinforcing your sense of selfworth. You're reminding yourself that your needs matter, too. You have better decision making. When you start listening to your intuition, you make better decisions in all areas of your life.

You waste less time on things that drain you and more on things that energize you, empowering others. Your example can inspire others. Think about how powerful it is when someone you admire confidently says no without guilt.

When you start doing that, you're giving the people around you permission to do the same. Now, what about those tricky situations where the answer isn't black and white? Life isn't always as clear as yes or no. Let's dive into some strategies for navigating those gray areas.

The power of not yet. Sometimes a no is more at not right now. Maybe you need more information or time to process. Saying I'm not ready to decide yet, is completely valid. Advise you the space you need to get clarity. Set temporary boundaries.

In gray area situations, temporary boundaries can help you. For example, you might say, "I'm willing to try this for a month. I want to reassess after that." This approach keeps you flexible while still protecting your needs.

Trust the process. It's okay to make mistakes. Sometimes you'll say yes when you should have said no, or vice versa. The important thing is learning from those moments and getting better at tuning into your own instincts over time.

When we teach and live by this principle, we're creating a culture of consent, a culture where people feel empowered to speak with their truth without fear or judgment. And here's something powerful. When you constantly practice this in your own life, you model it to others, whether it's your kids, friends, or co-workers, to see what it looks like to honor boundaries.

And that's contagious. This applies to how we treat others as well. If someone gives you anything less than a clear, enthusiastic yes, take it as a no. Respecting that not only protects them, it protects the integrity of the relationship itself.

You deserve to live a life that you're sure of. You deserve to have people, things, and relationships that leave no space for doubt. And you deserve to wake up feeling reassured that every single thing that you have around you is exactly what you're supposed to have around you.

If it's not a yes, if it's not an absolutely, it's a no. And if it's not a I am sure this is for me, it is a no. With love, mafies, if you enjoyed today's episode, make sure to share with anyone that might need to listen. Don't forget that we have a membership where as soon as you sign up, you will receive an I missed me hoodie.

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Long form
Published: 2025-08-19
Views: 256
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pi6U7kuqpKo
Runtime: 8 min 59 sec (1,597 words)

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to whoever this may impact. Sometimes our lives have to be completely shaken up, changed, and rearranged to relocate us where we're really meant to be. Sometimes change feels like loss. Transformation is scary. And sometimes to discover the best versions of ourselves, we must let go of absolutely everything that's holding us down.

Welcome to I Missed Me, your new safe space. I'm excited to form a part of your healing journey. We live in a time where it's easier than ever to focus on appearances, how our lives look on social media, how we present ourselves to others, and how well we seem to have it all together.

We all know how easy it is to get caught up in the highlight reels of other people's lives. Like this constant parade of perfect vacations, created outfits, glowing relationships, and success stories. And if you're not careful, it can leave you feeling like you're falling behind or not doing enough.

What you see online or even in real life is rarely the whole story. How many times have you put a brave face or shared the perfect photo while feeling completely different inside? We've all done it. And that's because it's human nature to want to present the best version of ourselves.

The problem comes when we start prioritizing how our lives look over how they actually feel. When we put more energy into the external than the internal, we disconnect from our true selves. We might look like we're thriving, but inside we're tired, unfulfilled, or even broken.

How does your life feel right now? not how it looks to the outside world, but how does it feel to you? When we focus on how our lives feel, we start to tap into what's real. Maybe your life feels peaceful right now, or maybe it feels chaotic and overwhelming.

Whatever it is, it's important to honor that feeling because it's the truth. You don't have to prove your happiness, your healing, or your success to anyone. Life isn't a performance. You don't owe anyone a perfect image of yourself.

Healing, especially, is messy. It's not Instagrammable. It's quiet, internal, and deeply personal. Healing looks like staying in bed because you need to rest. And other times, it's sitting with uncomfortable feelings instead of running away from them.

And sometimes, healing means walking away from something or someone that looks perfect on the outside, but doesn't feel right on the inside. The beauty of healing is that it's yours. You don't have to post it, explain it, or package it in a way that makes sense to others.

So, how about we start focusing on how it life feels rather than how it looks? Here are a few ideas. Practice self-awareness. Take time to check in with yourself. How you're really feeling. Journal, meditate, or just sit quietly with your thoughts.

Let go of comparison. Remember, someone else's highlight reel is not the full picture. Focus on your own journey and what feels good to you. Stop performing. You don't need to justify your choices or prove your worth to anyone.

Be honest about what you need to prioritize and your own well-being. Create meaningful moments. Focus on experiences that bring you joy and peace, even if they're not picture perfect. Those quiet, unshared moments are often the ones that feel the best.

Seek connection, not validation. Surround yourself with people who see and value the real you, not just the version that you show to the world. I want to remind you that it is okay to live a life that feels good to you, even if it doesn't look impressive to anyone else.

You don't have to be polished, perfect, or on all the time. You're allowed to have messy days, quiet victories, and moments that only you get to experience. Healing isn't about looking like you have it all together, but it is about finding peace within yourself.

And that peace, it doesn't need an audience. Remember, your life is yours. You don't need to prove anything to anyone. Go out there, live authentically, and let your heart guide the way. Why are we so focused on appearances in the first place?

It's not entirely our fault. Society has conditioned us to believe that success is something that you can see. A big house, a fancy car, a relationship that looks picture perfect. And now, with social media amplifying everything, we've equated visibility with value.

Does looking good ever truly satisfy us? the likes, the comments, the fleeting admiration from others. They might give us a quick hit of validation, but they don't feed our souls. They don't heal our pain or feel the deeper voids within us.

This obsession with appearances often masks insecurity. We feel if people believe I'm doing well, maybe I'll start to believe it, too. But no amount of external validation or approval can fix what's been broken inside. Healing starts inward.

People aren't paying as much attention to us as we think they are. Most of the time, everyone is too busy worrying about their own lives to notice ours. So why do we exhaust ourselves trying to impress a world that's barely watching?

Ask yourself, what does a successful life feel like to you? Not what it feels or looks like to others, but what does it feel like to you? For some people, success feels like peace. For others, it's about connection, freedom, or joy.

Whatever it is, it doesn't have to align with society's definition. It doesn't have to look like a glamorous or impressive to anyone else. Maybe success for you is having a calm morning routine. Waking up without rushing, sipping your coffee, and starting the day with intention.

Maybe it's spending time with loved ones or finding work that aligns with your values. These things might not photograph well, but they're deeply fulfilling. The more you focus on what feels like success to you, the less you'll care about what it looks like to others.

The small unseen moments are the moments that often go unnoticed by the outside world but carry so much weight in our lives. It's the quiet satisfaction of crossing something off your to-do list. The joy of laughing so hard with a friend that you forget what time it is.

The peace of sitting in your favorite spot, reading a book, or just being present. These moments may never make it into Instagram, but they're what life is truly made of. They're the tiny threads that weave into a life that feels full and rich.

Think about the moments in your life that have brought you the most joy or peace. They were big grand gestures or were they small? Intimate experiences that only were there to witness. Chances are it's the later. Embrace imperfection.

Life doesn't have to be perfect to be fully beautiful. In fact, some of the most meaningful moments come from the imperfections. Think about the relationships that matter most to you. Are they perfect or are they filled with ups and downs, misunderstandings, and moments of vulnerability that brought you closer?

The same goes for your personal growth. You don't have to wait until you're fully healed or have everything figured out to live a fulfilling life. Healing is a journey, not a destination. And you are allowed to be a work in progress.

The pressure to present a polished, perfect version of yourself is exhausting and unnecessary. Give yourself permission to be human and make mistakes and to grow at your own pace. So, how do we start building a life that feels good to us?

Declutter your priorities. Ask yourself, am I doing this for me or for how it looks to others? Let go of commitments or goals that are rooted in external validation. Set boundaries with social media. If scrolling makes you feel inadequate, take a break or limit your time online.

Use that time to focus on what truly matters to you. Celebrate small wins. You don't need a big milestone to feel proud of yourself. Every step forward, no matter how small, is worth celebrating. Embrace gratitude. Pay attention to the things that you already have and that already make your life feel good.

Gratitude shifts your focus from what's missing to what's present. Surround yourself with authenticity. Seek out people and spaces that encourage you to be the real self. The more authentic energy you surround yourself with, the easier it is to let go the need to perform.

The world doesn't need another perfectly created life. It needs more people who are brave enough to live authentically, unapologetically, and in alignment with what truly matters to them. So, let this be your reminder. You don't have to prove anything to anyone.

You are enough just as you are. Focus on how good your life feels and let everything else fall into place. With love, mafi besties, if you enjoyed today's episode, make sure to share with anyone that might need to listen. Don't forget that we have a membership where as soon as you sign up, you will receive an I missed me hoodie.

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Long form
Published: 2025-09-15
Views: 240
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rhW2ffQD34s
Runtime: 9 min 12 sec (1,601 words)

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to whoever this may impact. Sometimes our lives have to be completely shaken up, changed, and rearranged to relocate us where we're really meant to be. Sometimes change feels like loss. Transformation is scary. And sometimes to discover the best versions of ourselves, we must let go of absolutely everything that's holding us down.

Welcome to I Missed Me, your new safe space. I'm excited to form a part of your healing journey. The idea of right person, wrong time suggests that you've met someone perfect for you. But the timing isn't just aligning. Maybe you're too busy with work, dealing with personal issues, or not ready for commitment.

Life is messy, and timing matters. But here's where the problem lies. If someone is truly the right person, wouldn't you make it work? Regardless of the timing, think about it. When something feels truly essential, don't we prioritize it?

Whether it's a dream job, a big opportunity, or even a concert, we really want to attend. We find a way. So why wouldn't we with the right person? Or could it be that right person wrong time is just an easy way to say we weren't right for each other?

But I don't want to admit it. Let's get into the psychology of why this phrase persists. For starters, it's comforting. Blaming timing gives us closure without admitting failure. It allows us to avoid this sting of rejection or the guilt of saying, "I'm just not that into you." Self-p protection is natural, but it also keeps us stuck.

If you're holding on to the belief that someone was the right person, at the wrong time, you're more likely to romanticize what could have been instead of focusing on what is. Cognitive dissonance is when we try to reconcile two conflicting truths. You feel like that relationship could have worked, but the reality is it didn't.

So, what's easier? Blame the timing. If timing was the only issue, why wouldn't the relationship find its way back together when circumstances improve? More often than not, the right person wrong time. Excuse just delays the inevitable realization that maybe they weren't the one for you.

Timing does matter, but not in the way that we think. Timing isn't an external force preventing you from being with someone. It's an internal indicator of readiness. If you're too busy to give a relationship your best, that doesn't mean that you've met the right person at the wrong time.

It means you're not ready for the kind of relationship that you think that you want. And that's okay. But let's call it what it is. Misalignment. You and the other person might have the potential, but potential doesn't always equal compatibility.

And waiting for the right time won't change that. Relationships thrive not because of perfect timing, but because of mutual effort and shared priorities. So instead of asking was this the right person at the wrong time ask what does this relationship teach me about what I want and need instead of right person wrong time try the relationship wasn't meant to last but it showed me what's possible when you stop fixating on what could have been you free yourself to appreciate the role that relationships played in your life.

Maybe it taught you how to communicate better. Maybe it helped you realize your own value. Or maybe it just showed you that you're capable of deep connection, even if it wasn't the forever kind. Every relationship, no matter how brief, is part of your journey.

But holding on to the right person, wrong time myth can keep you from moving forward. Let's stop romanticizing missed opportunities and start focusing on what's possible when two people are truly aligned. Timing isn't a barrier.

It's a filter. It shows us who's meant to stay in our lives and who's meant to teach us to move on. Human beings are wired for storytelling and how we make sense of chaos, find meaning in randomness, and soothe the ache of disappointment.

The phrase right person wrong time is a perfect example of this. Think about it. When our relationship doesn't work out, we crave an explanation. It's too unsettling to say it just didn't work. That feels random, unresolved, and incomplete.

But if we say it was the right person at the wrong time, suddenly there's a reason. it softens a blow. The problem is these stories often trap us. Instead of learning, growing, and moving forward, we get stuck in a narrative that keeps us tied to the past.

We reread old messages, revisit memories, and tell ourselves, "If only the timing had been different." But life is in a movie. There's no alternate universe where everything lines up perfectly. Sometimes things just don't work out.

Not because of timing, but because of mismatched values, priorities, or readiness. And that's okay. It doesn't mean the relationship was a failure. If someone truly is the right person, wouldn't you or they do whatever it takes to make it work?

Relationships are built on effort, not circumstances. I've seen people juggle demanding careers, family, obligations, and personal challenges while still showing up for their partner. Why? Because when someone truly matters to you, you make room for them.

Here's the truth. The right time isn't something to wait for. It's something you create. It's about mutual willingness to show up even when life feels complicated or inconvenient. When we say that someone was the right person, we're often putting them on a pedestal.

We gloss over the arguments, the incompatibilities, the red flags, and instead we hyperfocus on their good qualities or their happiest moments, creating an idealized version of their relationship. This is dangerous because it distorts reality. You can't move on something if you're still clinging to an idealized memory.

And let's be honest, if their relationship was so perfect, why did it end in the first place? It's easy to say that timing was the reason, but in the most cases, the reasons are more complex. Maybe communication broke down and maybe there was a lack of emotional availability.

Maybe you both wanted different things and those issues won't magically disappear even if circumstances change. Holding on to the right person, wrong time narrative not only keeps you tied to the past, but also prevents you from seeing new opportunities for love. It's like trying to read the next chapter of a book while obsessively rereading the last one.

Scrolling through Instagram or Tik Tok. How many posts have you seen romanticizing the idea of the one that got away? Maybe it's a viral video of someone saying it. If it's meant to be, I'll come back or a dramatic caption about wanting the stars to align.

These narratives make heartbreak look poetic, almost glamorous. They frame failed relationships as unfinished love stories instead of what they usually are. Relationships that weren't meant to last. This messaging can make it harder to let go.

You start to wonder, "What if they're my soulmate and I'm giving up too soon?" But soulmates, if you believe in them, aren't people who slip through your fingers. They're the ones who stay, grow, and build a life with you. Social media has a way of romanticizing longing, but longing isn't love.

Don't let curated highlight reels or sentimental quotes convince you to hold on to something that's no longer serving you. What if instead of focusing on the idea of right person, wrong time, we focused on what that relationship taught us? Every connection, whether it lasts for 3 weeks or three decades, teaches us something about ourselves.

Maybe it showed you what kind of partner you want. Maybe it reveal patterns you need to break like avoiding vulnerability or over prioritizing work. And instead of seeing their relationship as a missed opportunity, see it as a stepping stone.

It's part of your growth, not your final destination. And the lessons you take from it will help you recognize a person who is right for you when the time comes. Not every relationship is meant to last forever. And that doesn't diminish its value.

Some people are here to teach us, challenge us, or help us heal. And when their role in our lives is complete, it is okay to let go. First, let go of the idea that timing is an external force working against you. Timing is simply a reflection of readiness and priorities.

Next, reframe your perspective. Instead of mourning that didn't work, celebrate what you learned. Use those lessons to build healthier, more aligned relationships in the future. And finally, trust that the right person, the one who truly aligns with your values, goals, and emotional readiness, won't slip away because of timing.

They'll stay. They'll work through their challenges with you. They'll choose you every day. The right person is someone you create alignment with, not someone you wait for when the stars finally align. With love, mafies, if you enjoyed today's episode, make sure to share with anyone that might need to listen.

Don't forget that we have a membership where as soon as you sign up, you will receive an I missed me hoodie. Plus, you have access to an exclusive episode every single month, printable activities, meditations, monthly challenges, PDF guides, and behindthe-scenes content. Don't forget to follow Miss Me on social media.

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Long form
Published: 2025-08-25
Views: 204
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LdIczCvNMTw
Runtime: 8 min 11 sec (1,265 words)

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to whoever this may impact. Sometimes our lives have to be completely shaken up, changed, and rearranged to relocate us where we're really meant to be. Sometimes change feels like loss. Transformation is scary. And sometimes to discover the best versions of ourselves, we must let go of absolutely everything that's holding us down.

Welcome to I Missed Me, your new safe space. I'm excited to form a part of your healing journey. In a world filled with constant demands, distractions, and noise, it's easy to feel drained or overwhelmed. Protecting your energy is not only vital for your mental health.

It's also the foundation for living a balanced and fulfilling life. What does it mean to protect your energy? Essentially, it's about being intentional with what you allow into your life, mental, emotional, and physical space.

Your energy is like your currency and every interaction, task or thought is either a deposit or a withdrawal. When you don't monitor what your energy is going through, you risk running and empty. Just like you wouldn't leave your house unlocked at night, you shouldn't leave your energy unguarded.

Protecting your energy means setting boundaries, being mindful of your environment, and prioritizing self-care. How do you know when it's time to put up those energetic boundaries? You feel constantly tired or overwhelmed, even after resting.

You're overly affected by other people's emotions or opinions. You dread certain interactions or environments, and you find it hard to focus or stay motivated. If any of these sound familiar, don't worry. We've all been there.

The good news is that you can take steps to reclaim your energy. How can you safeguard your energy in a world that's always on? Number one, set clear boundaries. Learn to say no without guilt. You don't owe anyone any explanation for protecting your peace.

Whether it's declining a social invite or stepping away from a draining conversation, give yourself permission to prioritize your well-being. Practice mindfulness. Take a few moments each day to check in with yourself. Meditation, journaling, or even a simple breathing exercise can help you stay grounded and aware of where your energy is going.

Declutter your space. Your environment plays a huge role in your energy levels. Take time to tidy up and create a space that feels calm and inspiring. Limit negative influence. Whether it's the news, toxic people, or even your own inner critic.

Identify what drains you and create some distance. Sometimes this means unfollowing accounts on social media or spending less time with certain individuals. Recharge daily. Make time for activities that refill your cup. This could be reading, dancing, and taking a walk, or anything that makes you feel alive and joyful.

Protect your physical energy. Don't underestimate the power of good sleep, a balanced diet, and regular movement. Your body and mind are deeply connected and taking care of one supports the other. Close your eyes. Imagine a golden bubble surrounding you.

This bubble is strong yet flexible. It allows in love, kindness, and positivity, but blocks anything harmful or draining. Take a deep breath and visualize your bubble expanding. Inhale. Let go of any tension and repeat this a few times, reminding yourself that you are safe and protected in your own space.

How do you feel? This simple exercise can be a great tool whenever you need a quick energy reset. Protecting your energy is an ongoing practice, not a one-time fix. But the more intentional you are, the easier it becomes to navigate life with peace and clarity.

Remember, your energy is precious and you have every right to guard it fiercely. Let's start by reframing this idea of protecting your energy. Think of it as a superpower, a skill that allows you to navigate life with clarity, resilience, and purpose.

When you protect your energy, you're not just preventing burnout or avoiding negativity. You're creating space for the things that truly matter. Your energy fuels your creativity, relationships, and ability to tackle challenges.

It's what allows you to show up as your best truest self. Without energy protection, you might find yourself running on autopilot, saying yes to things that don't align to your values or feeling stuck in cycles or frustration and exhaustion. But with practice, you can break free from these patterns and live with greater intention.

Energy leaks. The subtle, often unnoticed ways your energy gets drained. These can sneak into your life in very sneaky ways. Overcommitting. Saying yes to too many obligations out of guilt or fear of disappointing others. Comparison traps.

Spending too much time on social media and feeling like you're not measuring up. Emotional carryover. absorbing other people's stress, sadness, or frustration even when it has nothing to do with you, unresolved conflict, letting small disagreements linger and weigh on your mind.

These might seem like minor things, but they can accumulate and leave you feeling depleted without realizing why. By identifying and addressing these leaks, you can reclaim energy that's been slipping through the cracks. A key part of protecting your energy is understanding the types of energy you're working with.

Physical energy. This is a fuel your body uses to function. It is affected by what you eat, how you move, and how much you rest. Emotional energy, your capacity to process and respond to feelings, whether they're your own or others.

This type of energy is highly influenced by relationships and selft talk. Mental energy, your ability to focus, solve problems, and think creatively. It's often drained by multitasking or decision fatigue. Spiritual energy, the sense of connection to something greater than yourself.

This could come from faith, nature, or a personal sense of purpose. By understanding these dimensions of energy, you can begin to address imbalances in specific areas rather than trying to frackle everything at once. Relationships are often where we experience the highest highs and the lowest lows.

When it comes to energy, protecting your energy doesn't mean cutting people off. It means being mindful about the dynamic you allow. And here are some tips. Communicate your needs. People can't respect your boundaries. They don't know what they are.

Practice expressing what you need calmly and clearly. Limit time with energy vampires. We all know someone who leaves us feeling drained after every interaction. You don't have to end relationships, but you can limit how often and how deeply you engage with these individuals.

Surround yourself with energizers. Seek out relationships that inspire, uplift, and motivate you. For all the empaths listening, empathy is a beautiful gift, but it can also leave you vulnerable to taking on the emotional weight of others.

Practice the art of holding space without absorbing. Imagine being a mirror that reflects others emotions without letting them stick to you. Remember, it is okay to care deeply without carrying the load. Remember, protecting your energy isn't selfish.

It is self-preservation. By guarding your energy, you can show up more fully for yourself and others. With love, mafies, if you enjoyed today's episode, make sure to share with anyone that might need to listen. Don't forget that we have a membership where as soon as you sign up, you will receive an I missed me hoodie.

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Long form
Published: 2025-11-04
Views: 200
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8fayJPLEdyg
Runtime: 9 min 32 sec (1,871 words)

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to whoever this may impact. Sometimes our lives have to be completely shaken up, changed, and rearranged to relocate us where we're really meant to be. Sometimes change feels like loss. Transformation is scary. And sometimes to discover the best versions of ourselves, we must let go of absolutely everything that's holding us down.

Welcome to I Missed Me, your new safe space. I'm excited to form a part of your healing journey. When most people think about love, they immediately think about romantic relationships. And why wouldn't they? Movies, books, and even social media bombard us with the idea that finding the one is the ultimate goal.

But what if I told you that love is so much bigger than that? Love is a language, one that you can speak with everyone and everything around you. It's not limited to a partner or a soulmate, but love can show up in a conversation, with a friend, in the act of kindness from a stranger, or in the joy of accomplishing something you've worked hard for.

Whether it's art, cooking, or even solving complex problems at work, love thrives in those moments of fulfillment. It's about the energy and joy that you put into something that makes your heart race with excitement. Think about all of the different ways that you love.

There's familiar love, platonic love, self love, the love that you feel for your community, and the love that you might feel for a good book or a song that touches your soul. These are in lesser forms of love. They're just as profound as powerful as romantic love.

And if we look at love from this brother perspective, we start to realize that love isn't just one person. It's about the connections we make, the things that inspire us, and the compassion we show to others and ourselves. Self- loveve is a huge one that can't be overlooked.

We often hear that you can't truly love others until you love yourself first. But self- loveve is so much more than the self-care of taking time for yourself when you're feeling burnt out. Self- loveve is about being kind to yourself, accepting your flaws, and knowing that your worth is not determined by external validation.

Loving yourself means recognizing your strengths, being compassionate with your weaknesses, and not relying on anyone else to fill a void inside of you. It's about being your own biggest cheerleader even when things feel tough. And it's incredibly important because how we treat ourselves often sets the tone for how we allow others to treat us.

Self- loveve is not about perfection. It's about honoring who you are with all of your imperfections and choosing to move through the world with self-compassionate and confidence. When you nurture this form of love, you free yourself from the pressure of finding someone to validate you.

And instead, you start to love every single part of your journey. There's love in every day. those small, often overlooked act of love that happened without even realizing it. Love shows up when you least expect it. Maybe it's in the smile of a stranger who holds the door for you, or the gestures of someone offering you their seat at the bus.

Maybe it's a friend sending you a text just to check in, or a family member who remembers your favorite snack and leaves you in the doorstep. These are all forms of love. Love is in the moments that we often take for granted.

The ones that don't come with a big dramatic declaration or a romantic soundtrack in the background. The love we see in our communities, in our workplace, or in the kindness of our neighbor are just as valuable as the grand gestures of romance. These moments are constant reminders that love doesn't have to come from a single person.

Love is woven into our daily lives. Love isn't just found in people. It's in the earth beneath our feet, the air we breathe, and the animals that we care for. It's in our ability to nurture, protect, and appreciate the beauty of the planet that we live on.

One of the most powerful things about love is its capacity to heal. Love in any form can help us process pain and overcome obstacles. Whether it's the love and support of friends helping us through a difficult time or the self- loveve that guides us towards healing, love is a catalyst for transformation.

Love inspires us to be our best selves. When we approach the world with love, it's easier to see the good in others and find meaning in life's challenges. Love motivates us to act with compassion, to reach out for those who need us, and to stand up for what's right.

And whether it's rough, and whether it's through your art, your words, or your actions, love has the power to spark change and create a ripple effect that spreads far beyond anything that you could ever imagine. Love is not just a person, and it's certainly not just about romance. Love is a force that exists all around us in the relationships that we nurture, in the passions we pursue and in the everyday acts of kindness that shape our world.

Love is a reflection of who we are and how we choose to show up for ourselves and others. Next time you think about love, remember it's not about finding the one or it to a specific person. Love is in the moments, the actions, the relationships, and the ways that we treat ourselves and the way that we treat the world around us.

It's in the smiles, the hugs, and the quiet moments of gratitude. And most importantly, love is not a destination. It is a journey. And it's one that we get to experience every day in countless forms. Love is a force, an energy, and an experience that touches everything we do.

It's in the things we create, the connections we make, and even the challenges that we face. Love isn't confined to a single person or a single moment. Love can manifest in so many different forms and each of them is powerful in its own way.

Think about a time when you were fully immersed in something you enjoy. Whether it's playing music, painting, writing, or even just going for a run. That feeling of deep connection and joy. That's love, too. It's not romantic, but it's a love that fuels your spirit and brings you alive in a different way.

It's a love for the process, for the act itself, not for a person or an outcome. And that kind of love is just as important. Love can be a moment of kindness, a creative endeavor, or the bond between people who are romantically involved.

When we begin to see love as more than just romantic love, we open ourselves up to experiencing all of the ways it can enrich our lives. We often overlook the smaller, quieter moments of love in our daily lives. The truth is, love is happening all around us, even in the ways that we might not realize.

It's in the everyday moments, the ones that don't come with grand gestures, but are no less significant. Think about the love that appears in your friendships. True friendship isn't about who throws the best party or who can buy the most extravagant gift.

It's about showing up for each other. It's that text from a friend asking how your day is or the way they listen intently when you're having a hard time. It's love expressed through presence, not perfection. There's the love you can show to your community.

This can mean volunteering, helping a neighbor, or simply being there for someone in need. Often we think about love only between two people. But community love, caring for the people around us, is just as powerful. One act of love can inspire another, creating a ripple effect that reaches further than we might expect.

Love also appears in the small moments of life, the way you care for your home, or the patience you show when you cooking a meal for yourself or your family. attend the decision to nourish your body with food, to take care of your mind with rest, and to make space for joy even when life feels busy. These actions, though they may seem small, are expressions of love towards yourself and towards others.

When we start to see love as part of every interaction, every act, it shifts how we experience the world. Love is not just an event. It's a constant flow, always present in the moments we create and the choices that we make.

One of the most transformative aspects of love is its healing power. Love is often what helps us recover from pain, loss, and adversity. Think about the support you've received from others when going through a tough time. The love and encouragement from friends or family can be a lifeline during difficult moments.

But even more powerful is the love that we give to ourselves when we face challenges. Love has this incredible ability to help us heal. Whether we're healing from heartbreak or grief or trauma, it doesn't matter. Whether it's love from others or love from within, love gives us strength to keep us going even when it feels like the world is falling apart.

Love allows us to rise again and again like a phoenix, stronger and wiser. But love doesn't just heal wounds. It also helps us grow. When we show love for the things that we are passionate about, whether that's a creative pursuit, a career goal, or a personal mission, love becomes the fuel that drives us forward.

It motivates us to push us past obstacles, try new things, and keep moving forward towards our purpose. Love is not just a person. Love is in everything. In the way that we treat ourselves, the way that we treat others, and the way that we show up for the world around us.

It is in the small everyday moments, in the support we give and receive, and in the things that fill us with joy and purpose. When we stop limiting love to one person, we free ourselves to experience love in all of its beautiful forms. Love becomes a constant, not a search for something outside of ourselves.

It's something we can tap into any single time and every single day in every interaction and in every act of kindness, creativity, and self-care. With love, mafies, if you enjoyed today's episode, make sure to share with anyone that might need to listen. Don't forget that we have a membership where as soon as you sign up, you will receive an I missed me hoodie.

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Long form
Published: 2025-10-28
Views: 200
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2zDN7AxPbe4
Runtime: 10 min 35 sec (2,081 words)

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to whoever this may impact. Sometimes our lives have to be completely shaken up, changed, and rearranged to relocate us where we're really meant to be. Sometimes change feels like loss. Transformation is scary. And sometimes to discover the best versions of ourselves, we must let go of absolutely everything that's holding us down.

Welcome to I Missed Me, your new safe space. I'm excited to form a part of your healing journey. We all go through tough times. Moments when it feels like our world is closing in. Like our problems are way too big to handle. Or like we've been stuck in a cycle of frustration, fear, or doubt for way too long.

But what if I told you that those moments, as intense as they are, don't define your whole life. That there's so much more to your existence than the challenges that you face today. Life can be hard. Whether it's a personal struggle, a healthy issue, a setback in your career, or the weight of an ongoing hardship, it is okay to feel like the world is heavy on your shoulders.

Sometimes it feels like you're in a tunnel with no light at the end. But in those moments, I want you to pause and remember that tunnel is just a small part of a much bigger picture. Imagine your life as a book. The chapters you're in right now may be difficult ones, chapters filled with pain, frustration, confusion, or loss.

But think about how many pages are left in that book. And not just pages, entire chapters full of hope, joy, growth, and transformation. When you're caught up in a rough chapter, it's easy to forget that the story is far from over.

Life is dynamic. It's ever changing. And while the pain that you're feeling is real, it doesn't erase the beauty and potential that still lies ahead. Sometimes we get so wrapped up in the moment, in the stress of now, that we forget to zoom out and see the bigger picture.

Think about the last time something unexpected brought you joy. Maybe it was a small moment in conversation with a friend or simply a sunrise that reminded you that the world is beautiful. Those moments, they're all part of a bigger picture.

They serve as a reminder that life is a tapestry of experiences and not just defined by the tough patches that we go through. Everything is temporary. Hard times do not last forever. The pain, the frustration, the uncertainty, they're part of the process.

A cycle that will eventually shift. When you're in the storm, might seem like it will never end. But storms always pass. And when they do, you look around and see the things that are still there for you, waiting to be discovered.

Give yourself grace. Understand that you're human and it's okay to not have everything figured out right now. You don't have to be perfect. You don't have to have it all figured out. And you don't have to have all of the answers.

It is okay to feel the weight of what you're going through, but also don't let it convince you that that is all there is. Shift your perspective. I'm not saying ignore all of your feelings or pretend that everything is fine when it's not, but maybe try to gently challenge the belief that this current moment is your whole reality and ask yourself, what is life trying to teach me right now?

How can I grow through this? And what part of me is being stranded right now in ways I might not even seem yet? Sometimes the most difficult times in life are also the times that bring up the most growth. It's like planting a seed in the dirt.

It has to break through the soil, push through the darkness before it can reach the light. And though that process can be difficult, it's necessary for something beautiful to emerge. Life is about contrast. Without the lows, we wouldn't fully appreciate the highs.

Without the challenges, we wouldn't recognize the blessings. It's the tension between these opposites that sharp our journey. Your current struggle, as hard as it is, is just one part of a bigger story. You're not alone in your struggles.

Every person you meet is going through something, even if it's not visible to the surface. We all have our battles, our challenges, our moments of doubt. Be kind to yourself and to others, too. We never know what someone else is going through.

And that empathy is what makes us all stronger. Life is more than the circumstances that you're facing right now. is the relationships that you'll form, the passions that you'll discover, the places you'll visit, and the lessons you'll learn along the way.

It's the moments of quiet peace, the laughter, the adventures, the breakthroughs, and those things are still coming for you. Whatever you're going through, it's not the end of the story. You're in the middle of a chapter, and the best parts are yet to come.

Take a deep breath. Life is so much more than whatever it is that you're going through right now. I know it's easier said than believed. When you're in the midst of hardship, the world feels small and narrow. Your struggles can become the lens through which you see everything, making it hard to imagine a different reality.

But the reality is the difficulties we face are often just a single chapter in the much larger story of our lives. And while those chapters are intense, they don't last forever. Have you ever noticed how in moments of great pain, it feels like we forget everything else that is good or possible in life?

It's as if the pain becomes the only thing that we can focus on, the only thing that feels real. Whether you're going through a personal loss, a healthy challenge, or a difficult relationship, those moments can consume us. It's human nature to be focused on what hurts, what's wrong.

But here's where I want to challenge that mindset. What if in those tough moments, we paused, not to ignore our pain, but to remind ourselves of the bigger picture? What if we remembered that the chapter we're in right now isn't the entire book?

What if we could look ahead and see the full arc of our journey, knowing that each moment we're facing is a part of a much larger story? Think of the way nature works. Seasons shift. Winter is cold, dark, and barren. But it eventually gives us way to spring, renewal, growth, and beauty.

Our lives go through seasons, too. Sometimes we find ourselves in a season that feels unyielding. It feels like the cold and darkness will never end. But even if those seasons, there are seeds being planted beneath the surface, preparing us for the growth that is yet to come.

Every difficult experience you face carries a lesson. Sometimes it's just hard to see it in the moment. Especially when you're deep in the struggle. But if you take a step back, you'll realize that the challenges that you face are shaping us into the person that you're truly meant to be.

Maybe he's teaching you patience, resilience, or humility. Perhaps it's revealing strength that you didn't know that you had or showing you what really matters in life. These lessons often come in ways that we don't expect.

And sometimes in the most painful of circumstances, but they are the things that build us, mold us, and prepare us for what is to come. It is important to acknowledge though that growth isn't always linear. Life isn't as simple as upward climb where every struggle automatically leads to something better.

There are bumps along the way, setbacks, and unexpected turns. And that's okay. It doesn't mean you're failing. It means you're human, and you're navigating complexities of life in your own unique way. You are not defined by your circumstances.

Your identity isn't wrapped up in what you're going through right now. You are more than your struggles, your mistakes, or your fears. And there is so much more to life, and there is so much more to who you are, and so much more to what you can become.

You are not just the hardship you face. You're the person who will rise above it. The person who will grow, learn, and move forward. And in the process, remember that you are allowed to grieve, to feel pain, and to be frustrated.

But at the same time, you are allowed to hope, to dream, and to imagine better days ahead. Both are true. And holding space for both is part of the human experience. One of the most painful things that you can do when you're in a tough season, is to actively seek out moments of beauty, no matter how small they may seem.

Maybe it's the sound of your favorite song, the warmth of the sun in your face, or the simple act of sharing a laugh with someone that you really care about. These little moments are more than just distractions from your struggle. They are reminders that life is still happening, that the world is still full of possibility.

Even in the darkest times, there's still light. There's still moments that remind us of the good, of the love, and of the hope that exists, even if it feels hard to reach. The more that you seek out these moments, the more that you start to see how they end up creating a patchwork of joy, beauty, and hope that helps you get through even the toughest times.

Zoom out. It's easy to become myopic, focusing so deeply on what's right in front of us. But what happens when you look back on the entire scope of your life? All those past challenges you've overcome, all of the things that you've learned and all of the ways that you've grown.

They form the foundation of who you are today. And that too is part of the bigger picture. And when you think about the future, it's full of so much potential. You might not know what's coming, but the beauty of life is that there's always room for new chapters, new experiences, and new opportunities to evolve.

Just because you're going through a tough time right now doesn't mean that that is where the journey will end. is just one chapter in a much larger story. One that's still being written when you're going through something difficult.

You can't always see what's waiting for you on the other side. But trust me, it's there. It's the new opportunities, the fresh perspectives, the healing that will come. Even if that healing feels far away right now, trust that it is a part of the process.

You will come out of the stronger, wiser, and more capable of handling whatever life throws your way. You are never alone in this journey. There are people around you, friends, family and even strangers who are facing their own challenges.

The shared experience of human being, of struggle and growing is something that connects us all. And in that shared humanity, there is strength. We can learn on each other, lean on each other, share our stories, and remind one another that there is so much more and we are so much more than our hardships.

Take a deep breath, close your eyes, and remind yourself that life is so much more than whatever it is that you're going through right now. The chapters of your life are vast and the story isn't over yet. Whatever you're facing right now is just one part of your beautiful, complex, and overrevolving journey that is your life.

With love, Mafi besties, if you enjoyed today's episode, make sure to share with anyone that might need to listen. Don't forget that we have a membership where as soon as you sign up, you will receive an I missed me hoodie, plus you have access to an exclusive episode every single month, printable activities, meditations, monthly challenges, PDF guides, and behindthe-scenes content. Don't forget to follow I missed me on social media.

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Long form
Published: 2026-02-23
Views: 192
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a5WfX56HTOQ
Runtime: 20 min 33 sec (4,040 words)

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to whoever this may impact. Sometimes our lives have to be completely shaken up, changed, and rearranged to relocate us where we're really meant to be. Sometimes change feels like loss. Transformation [music] is scary. And sometimes to discover the best versions of ourselves, we must let [music] go of absolutely everything that's holding us down.

Welcome to I missed me, your new safe space. I'm [music] excited to form a part of your healing journey. Hey besties, welcome or welcome back to another episode of I Missed Me. If you're new here, besties, welcome. You are in the right place if you're looking to heal and become the better best version of yourself.

We are a self-growth healing community and space where we're all looking to become the best versions of ourselves. My goal and my purpose with this podcast is to bring you back home to yourself and heal. And if you're not new here, bestie, welcome back.

I missed you. Happy Monday. I hope you had an amazing week. Welcome back to another episode. Today we are back into healing. Today we are back into growth. We're back into talking about the hardships of growing and of healing. We've been talking about friendships.

We've been talking about restarting. We've been talking about change. We've been talking about growth. But today, we are going back to what's painful. We are going back to the part of healing and the part of the growth, self-development, self-growth journey that not a lot of people talk about, that not a lot of people like talking about that not a lot of people show, but the part that we all have to go through to eventually be at the other side, be the best versions of ourselves, glow up, find what's meant for us, and that is the end of our old self.

going through the grief of the version of you that has to die for the new one to be born. Going through that pain, going through that process. Why is it so hard? Why does it hurt so much? Why do we genuinely feel like we're dying?

And why is that pain so unbearable and so hard to get through? And why does growth require an end of the old version of you? Welcome, bestie. This episode is going a very good one. Let's start off by talking about the truth behind growth.

And let's be honest and let's forget about what social media portrays. Growth is not aesthetic. growth is not those pictures that you see on girls Instagram stories of like going to the gym every single morning at 5 am 5 am club or the green juices or eating healthy, having a balanced diet or the transformation journey that you see on Pinterest like meditating every morning and like having a bunch of friends and a bunch of people around you that care about you.

Like growth is not cute. Growth is not aesthetic. Growth is not what is portrayed on social media and it's not what is portrayed online. It is not a glow up montage. The truth about growth is that it's very uncomfortable. The truth about growth is that someone who's actually going through the journey the right way without distractions, without wanting to cover it up, without wanting to avoid it, but actually going through the journey and the pain and the grief of letting that old version of you go to grow is that nobody's going to want to show that.

Like, nobody's posting that journey online. Again, it's not cute. It's not aesthetic. It is very painful and sometimes it even wants you or takes you to isolate because of how painful it is and how uncomfortable it is to publicly show it.

It feels like you're losing parts of yourself without even knowing how they're going to come back. And I think that's probably one of the hardest parts of growing. It's like losing parts of yourself, breaking parts of your heart before even understanding what you're becoming.

I feel like sometimes you get in the car and the destination on the map and you see that there's a lot of traffic. So, let's say that I used to live in Bokeh, for you guys that listen to me from Florida, you know where that is. If not, I live in Florida.

I used to live at my parents house, which was really far from where I live right now. And I used to drive to Miami. Like, I went completely off track, but I'm going to connect the dots. I promise. So, every single time, like, I was driving to Miami every single day.

And I would put the map. I would put the map from my house in Bokeh to Miami. And sometimes it was an hour, sometimes it was an hour and a half, sometimes it was two hours. But regardless of how long I had to drive and regardless of how much traffic there was, regardless of anything that I had to go through on the way to Miami, I knew that I was getting to Miami, which made the drive a little bit easier because again, no matter what I had to go through while I drove, I knew where I was going.

So, it made it a little easier to be like, okay, I mean, I'm in traffic. I have to go through that and I have to go through that. But eventually, I know that I will get to make the drive worth it. You know what I mean? So, when you know where you're starting and you know where you're ending, the process and the journey is not as hard because even if it's hard, you know that the end result or where you're going is going to be worth it and you're going to enjoy it.

So, it doesn't matter what you're putting yourself through. However, when you're growing and when you're healing, you still have to get in that car and you still have to go to traffic and you still have to go through all of those accidents without knowing where you're going, without knowing your destination and without knowing if you are going to enjoy that destination. Like I'm putting myself through pain and I'm putting myself through this journey of heartbreak and of discovering myself and I have to lose parts of myself and I have to lose people and I have to lose things and I have to lose relationships and I don't even know where I'm going or I don't even know if it's going to be worth it.

That is really hard and that is literally what healing and growing is. Putting yourself through a journey that is not easy, not knowing where you're going and not knowing if where you're going is what you're going to love and what you're going to enjoy. And nobody really talks about that.

We love talking about new seasons. We love talking about new chapters. We love talking about new eras. We love talking about new levels. Who am I going to become? Who I'm going to be? What's coming in my life? But nobody talks about the death that has to happen before the upgrade.

Growth always comes with grief. You do not just become a new version of yourself. You don't wake up as a brand new person. You have to let an old version of you go. Now, why do we resist change so much? Why are we naturally drawn to stay stuck in the same place, in the same environment, with the same people or as the same person for so long?

Even if inside you, you do have the urge to change. Even if inside you, you do have the urge to grow. And even if inside you, you're like, I know I deserve better. I know I want better. I know I want different. My body just doesn't let me.

My brain just doesn't let me. I want to wake up tomorrow early. and my brain just doesn't wake up to the alarm or I really want to start meditating but my brain just wants to be on the phone or I really want to start journaling but I really just want to go to sleep.

Like why doesn't my brain and my body align with what I truly want in my soul? Like why is it so hard? And the truth is that you're not crazy. The truth is that you're not lazy. The truth is that you are not a procrastinator.

You might be, but the truth is that we're all wired like that. Like scientifically, our brain is literally wired to keep us safe. And because changing something in our routine that has kept us safe for so long is unknown, the brain processes it as it's unknown, it's unsafe.

Because your brain is wired to keep you safe, it will continue to do the same things and follow the same pattern that has kept you safe until today. Your brain is wired to keep you safe, not successful. Familiar equals safe.

Even if familiar is unhappy. Familiar could be broken. Familiar could be unhappy. Familiar could be toxic. And even if it's bad, negative, toxic, broken, it's still familiar. Your nervous system would literally rather to stay in a life again, regardless if it's negative or positive, than to risk a life that you do not recognize yet, even if it might be 10 times better than everything that you've ever experienced.

Growth feels like fear because for your body, it literally is. You are literally leaving the identity and you're separating from the person that you've been all along. and your brain literally treats it and processes it as danger.

Now, something that you really have to remember when it comes to changing and when it comes to growing and when it comes to finally leaving that old version of yourself to finally become the new one is that the old you did its job. And that is the best way to and the easiest way to finally let go of someone that you don't want to be anymore. I did an interview about like two years ago.

You guys remember that I used to have guests on my podcast and I did an interview. I am trying to remember who it was. Caitlyn Garcia. She was a confidence coach. We were talking about breakups and how to let people go and stuff.

And she literally said, "Love people away." And how beautiful is that? Like instead of having anger or resentment or hate towards the people that you're letting go, love them away. But because we're not talking about breakups, we're talking about the relationship that we're that we have with ourselves and we're talking about the old version of ourselves.

Today, I'm going to put it as love yourself away. Instead of having fear for becoming someone new, instead of having fear for finally changing and trying to become the version of yourself you've always dreamed about becoming. Instead of having fear of growing and of the consequences that come with growing and instead of having fear of who am I going to have to let go once I become that person?

Who what am I have to let go once I become that person? What relationships are going to end? Or what relationships are going to break once I become that person? Instead, love yourself away. love this version of you Love her away.

Literally sit down with yourself and be like, "I'm finally changing and I'm finally growing and I love you so much for doing your job until today." But the truth is that because I love you so much and literally talk to yourself. Like this is what I do with myself every single day. And this is literally how the podcast started.

I would literally sit in myself with my room with my phone recording myself and talking to myself in third person as if and as if I was having a conversation with myself. Literally how I'm telling it to you guys is how I talk to myself like every single day when I'm driving, when I'm in my room, when I'm by myself. I'm like, I love you so much and because I love you so much, I have to let you go and become someone new for your best interest and because you deserve the best and you deserve better.

Love the old you away. Love her away. Know that she did her job. She's doing just fine. She's been carrying you through everything, but it's time for better and bigger things. Of you that were only built for survival. the people pleaser you, the small you, the quiet you, the version of you that didn't take that risk because it wasn't safe to.

There are versions of you that were just created at the moment to keep you safe. But it doesn't mean that you had to carry them with you. And it doesn't mean that that has to be you now. That version of you wasn't weak. That version of you wasn't a bad person.

That version of you didn't have bad intentions. That version of you just didn't know any better. It did what it could with what it had. It was smart. It protected you. It got you through. But what protected you back then might be limiting you now.

And that's literally the hardest truth about growth. Sometimes the version of you that saved you back then is the one that's putting you in danger now. Sometimes the version of you that was the happiest with what it had back then wants more now and might feel like it deserves better now.

And two things can coexist and two things can be true at the same time. Sometimes the version of you that got you to the highest point in your life back then can't be the version of you that takes you to where you know can be your highest point now. However, and like I said at the beginning, growth literally feels like you're dying.

Growth literally feels like you're losing yourself. Why does it feel like you're losing yourself? And how can we stop it from hurting so much when you start changing? It literally feels like an identity crisis. And the reason being you don't know who you are because you still don't know who you are becoming.

You don't fully recognize yourself anymore. And that is very scary to look in the mirror and to not know what you like. To look in the mirror and to not know what you want. To look in the mirror and to not know where you're going or where you even want to go to tolerate and keep up with now feel heavy.

The conversations that you used to enjoy now feel shallow. The goals that you used to have don't excite you anymore. And it's scary because you think that something's wrong with you. It's scary because you think that now you're bored and you're sad and you're depressed all the time.

But the truth is that there's nothing wrong with you. It's called the delusion. It's called maturing. It's called growing. And it's called outgrowing a life that doesn't fit you anymore. One of the hardest parts about growing and one of the hardest parts about letting the old self of you go is the thought of leaving people behind and understanding that not everyone is going to love your change and your growth and also having to be okay with that because you understand that in order to become better and be the best version of yourself, you have to put yourself first.

Not everyone will like the new version of you and that will hurt and that will be a whole another grief itself. But the reason as to why some people will not like your growth is because they were benefiting from the smallest version of you. They were benefiting from you not knowing any better.

Some people were comfortable. Some people loved the version of you that always said yes, stayed quiet, always made yourself smaller to keep the peace. The truth is that growing and stepping into the highest version of yourself changes dynamics.

Because it changes dynamics, it changes relationships. And sometimes growth costs relationships. Not because you become worse or not because you become a bad person, but because you mature, you realize what you deserve, you become different.

Now that we've talked about the grief that comes with growth, now that we talked about why it is so hard to let go, now that we've talked about what the body and the mind feel when you're letting go, now that we've talked about not caring that people don't understand your growth, let's talk about how to let the old you go. Because sometimes we feel that urge inside of ourselves of like, yes, I know that I have to grow. Yes, I know that there's something in the back of my head that's telling me to grow, that's telling me to let go, that's telling me that I deserve better, and that's telling me that there's more out there for me.

But how do I do it? Where do I start? What do I have to do? Number one, you do not have to hate who you were to grow beyond that version of yourself. You do not have to hate yourself right now so that it pushes you to become better.

Quite literally, the opposite. You have to love this version of yourself so much to the point where you acknowledge you deserve better and you deserve different. If you hate this version of yourself into becoming a brand new one, you are just going to carry that resentment and that hate into that new version of yourself, which is going to be reflected again in your relationships and in your habits that you have with yourself.

You can honor this version of yourself and still choose to evolve. You can thank the old you for getting you here while still choosing and deciding that this is not where you want to be anymore. Growth happens in small decisions repeatedly and daily.

Setting boundaries, showing up even when you're scared, choosing discipline over comfort, and most importantly, choosing progress over familiarity. I've always said that you only have to be 1% better every single day. And if you were to be 1% better every single day in the next three months, you're a completely new different person.

It doesn't have to happen overnight. You do not have to wake up as a brand new person. You do not have to wake up as a completely changed person that now knows everything and doesn't feel any pain. You just have to be 1% better every single day.

Okay, tomorrow I'm going to wake up early and journal. And then the day after tomorrow, I'm going to wake up early, journal, and make breakfast, which is something that I usually skip. Okay, now tomorrow I'm going to wake up early, journal, make breakfast, and make my bed.

And you can start incrementing little things or adding little things into your routine until you have a routine that you feel proud of. And this is with every single thing with you don't have to cut everyone off, but you can start by having conversations of what you're not liking and seeing how people react to it. It's literally just about small progress and being 1% better every single day.

No besties, this is also a hard truth, but understanding that growth will feel very lonely at first and you might have no one next to you while you're going through your journey. And there is a phase in growth where you don't fit into your old life anymore, but you haven't built the new one yet. You will feel like you have no place to be.

You will feel like you have no people around you. And you will even fit like you don't even fit into yourself. It's literally so weird. But those in between seasons feel very lonely. They feel very scary. It feels like you're isolated.

And it is very important to remember that this doesn't mean that you're going the wrong way or that you don't necessarily know where you're going. It means you're transitioning. And literally, just like when you hop on a train, you have no idea where you are and you feel like you're in the middle of nowhere.

Eventually, you do get to the station where you're supposed to hop off at. Every single level has a gap. before it feels like it's your place and before it feels right. Besties, to close off today's episode, if your life feels uncomfortable right now, if you're going through a change in your life, especially because we're still starting off the year, and I stand by that.

Literally, Chinese New Year was last week. [laughter] So, we're still starting off the year. We still have a lot of time. A lot of us are going through restarts. A lot of us are going through change. A lot of us are going through transitions in our lives and like periods in our life that feel uncomfortable and that feel scary.

If your life feels uncomfortable right now and like you're going through change, it does not necessarily mean that it's falling apart. It might just be that you're actually leveling up. The discomfort that you're feeling right now is the old you shedding.

The resistance is the identity shift and this version of you unfortunately or fortunately has to die for the new you to be born. I promise you besties that the life that is waiting for you on the other side of feeling this pain, of grieving this version of you, of putting yourself through an uncomfortable situation because you know in the bottom of your heart that that is what's best for you is worth all of the discomfort and all of the pain because of how much you're going to love yourself. Love the people that are going to be waiting for you on the other side and all of the experiences that are waiting for you after you go through this period of pain and discomfort.

And with all of that being said, besties, I hope this episode resonated with you. I hope that it gave you a little bit of hope. I hope that it gave you a little bit of faith. Or if not, at least comfort that you're not going through it by yourself and alone.

I love you guys so much. Thank you for being here. Thank you for coming back to another week or if you're new to this podcast. I am so grateful that you found me and that you found this space. Don't forget that I post a new episode every single Monday.

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Long form
Published: 2025-12-30
Views: 179
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ape67j2dCFQ
Runtime: 7 min 52 sec (1,471 words)

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to whoever this may impact. Sometimes our lives have to be completely shaken up, changed, and rearranged to relocate us where we're really meant to be. Sometimes change feels like loss. Transformation [music] is scary. And sometimes to discover the best versions of ourselves, we must let [music] go of absolutely everything that's holding us down.

Welcome to I Missed Me, your new safe space. I'm [music] excited to form a part of your healing journey. Today's episode is about something that sounds simple, but that we all struggle with. Letting [music] go. Letting go of people, of situations, of versions of ourselves, and not just physically, but emotionally, mentally, [music] and spiritually.

Because the truth is, letting go isn't easy. It feels like loss. It feels like failure. And it feels like something we shouldn't have to do if we did things right. [music] But sometimes letting go isn't the sad ending you think it is.

Sometimes it is the beginning of peace. The truth about letting go. I used to think that letting go meant giving up. That if I let go, I was quitting. [music] That if I walked away from something, it meant I didn't try hard enough.

But that's not true. Letting go doesn't mean you didn't care. It means you cared enough to know that you deserve peace. Sometimes [music] the most loving thing you can do for yourself and for someone else is to let go. To stop forcing what isn't flowing.

To stop chasing what keeps running. to stop holding on to something that keeps hurting. You don't heal by gripping tighter. You heal by releasing your grip and trusting that what's meant to stay will. Why we hold on. We hold on because we're scared.

Scared of losing what feels familiar. Scared of not knowing what's next. And scared that if we let go, we'll have nothing left. But the truth is, holding on doesn't save anything. It only drains you. You can't force someone to meet you where you are.

You can't force situations to work that aren't meant to. You can't keep pouring into something that keeps emptying you. [music] Sometimes we're not even holding on to the thing. We're holding on to the idea of what it could be, the potential, the fantasy, the version we hope would show up.

But the longer you cling to what's no longer aligned, the longer you block what is, because the universe can't feel hands that are still holding on to what needs to go. Letting go doesn't erase what was. This is what helped me the most.

Letting go doesn't mean forgetting. It doesn't mean pretending it never happened. It doesn't mean it didn't matter. You can let go and still honor what it [music] was. You can release something and still be grateful for what it taught you.

You can walk away without bitterness, without needing to rewrite the story. And sometimes love doesn't end because it's gone. It ends because it's complete. Its purpose has been fulfilled. And that doesn't make it a failure. It makes it sacred.

Every person you've loved, every season you've lived through, every version of yourself that existed, it all mattered. It all shaped you and it led you here so you can love it so you can let it go with love because you're not losing something. You're making space for something new.

Grief disguises guilt. A lot of us confuse letting go with guilt. We think we owe our younger selves permanence. We think moving on means we didn't care enough. But grief is not guilt. You can grieve something you've outgrown, and you can miss something and still know that it wasn't meant for you.

Grieve is love with nowhere to go. And that's okay. Feel it. Don't rush it, but don't confuse it for a sign to stay. You can love something deeply and still release it gently. Letting go is an act of trust. Letting go isn't about loss.

It's about trusting. Trusting that what's meant for you will never pass you by. Trusting that the space something leaves behind isn't empty. It's sacred. and making room. Because the truth is, every time you let go of something that's not meant for you, you're telling the universe, "I am ready for what is." You can't step into your new chapter if you're still rereading the last one.

You can't heal if you keep reopening the wound. And I know in between feels scary. That space between who you were and who you're becoming. That quiet stretch where everything feels uncertain. But that is where transformation happens.

That's where clarity finds you. And that's where peace begins to take shape. Letting go of people. This one hurts the most because it's not always about bad people. Sometimes it's about good people who aren't meant to stay. And that's hard to accept.

We think if someone once made us happy, they're supposed to make us happy forever. But not everyone is meant to walk with you forever. Some people are chapters, not entire books. And that's okay. You can love them for who they were in that chapter.

And you can thank them for showing you what they did. You can forgive them for not becoming who you hoped they'd be. And you can move on without resentment. Because holding on to someone who's not walking in your direction doesn't keep you connected.

It just keeps you stuck. And you deserve movement. You deserve flow. And you deserve alignment. Letting go of the old you. Sometimes the hardest person to let go of is yourself. The version of you that tolerated too much. The one who kept saying it's fine when it wasn't.

The one who made herself small to be loved. The one who tried so hard to be enough. But that version of you isn't bad. She was doing her best with what she knew. She was surviving. She was protecting you. And now you get to love her by letting her rest.

You don't have to keep carrying her pain. You don't have to keep replaying her patterns. You don't have to keep living like her story is still happening. You can thank her for getting you here. and then let her go because the next version of you deserves to live without her fear.

The beauty of release. There's something so powerful about releasing. When you finally stop forcing, you stop chasing. You stop trying to control. When you finally say, "I'm done holding on to what hurts." Because release isn't weakness.

It's wisdom. It's saying, "I trust that what's mine will stay and what's not will leave." And it's in that moment, that surrender, that life finally has space to surprise you, to start feeling lighter. Energy starts coming back.

Your heart starts healing in ways it never could while it was still carrying everything. And you realize letting go didn't break you. It freed you. You are allowed to let go. You are allowed to let go of things you thought would last forever.

You're allowed to outgrow dreams that once made sense. You're allowed to admit something isn't working anymore, even if you once wanted it badly. You are allowed to change your mind. You are allowed to evolve. And you are allowed to walk away even if no one understands.

Because the life that you're meant to live can't exist inside the things that you have already outgrown. So stop waiting for permission. Stop waiting for closure. Stop waiting for someone else to make the decision for you. You can let go now.

And that can be your closure. Letting go is in the end. It's only their return. It's coming back to yourself. And in that moment, the noise will finally quiet down. The chaos in your head will start to soften. And you will realize that peace was never about controlling.

It was about trusting what left. Letting go isn't about losing something. It is about remembering that you were never meant to hold on to everything. You were meant to experience, to learn, to love, and to grow, and then to release.

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Long form
Published: 2026-02-16
Views: 178
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-o5gfrnkj9s
Runtime: 17 min 8 sec (3,579 words)

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to whoever this may impact. Sometimes our lives have to be completely shaken up, changed, and rearranged to relocate us where we're really meant to be. Sometimes change feels like loss. Transformation [music] is scary. And sometimes to discover the best versions of ourselves, we must let [music] go of absolutely everything that's holding us down.

Welcome to I Missed Me, your new safe space. I'm excited to form a part of your healing journey. [music] Hey besties, welcome or welcome back to another episode of I Missed Me. If you're new here, bestie, welcome. We are a healing self-growth community all looking to become the best versions of ourselves.

I'm Miss Purpose is to guide you back home to yourself to rediscover yourself. So, I am so grateful and so happy and so excited that you found this, that you found this space. And if you're not new here, bestie, welcome back.

I am so grateful that you're back. I am so excited to have you back on another episode, another week. It is now February, which is crazy, and it has a lot to do with what we're going to talk about today. I can't believe it's the second week of February already.

And I was actually talking about this with my friend yesterday of like I feel like this year is going by so fast already. Like how is it already midFebruary? I feel like I was celebrating New Year's like yesterday. And a lot of people might feel the same way of like the year is going by so fast already even though we're just in the second month.

And for some other people that might even sound scary like you might hear that or relate to that and be like the year is going by so fast. I had all of these plans at the beginning of the year. I told myself I was going to do this, this, and that.

And I set myself all of these goals. And I haven't even done one. I haven't even started even planning. And it's already the second week of February. And I am here today to change your perspective because for a lot of us, a [snorts] lot of years go by just like that.

I'm so scared that time is going fast. I have all of these things to do that I want to start and that I just don't find the right time to start them. Or I have all of these things that I want to start and I need enough time to start them.

But because time goes by so fast, I just never get it done because time is going by so fast and I need a lot of time and I don't have a lot of time and it's just always this procrastination loop of I'll do it when I have time. I'll do it at the right time. I'll get started when I feel ready to start.

And time goes by without us experiencing or doing or starting things that we really want to experience and start and do. And that brings me to today's episode, which has besties that the right time doesn't exist. And I hope that this is a wakeup call.

And I also hope that this is a slap on the face with love, but with a lot of awareness and realization so that you stop. I don't want to say wasting your time because that sounds a little rough, but missing time or letting time pass that you could be using to experience your dreams instead of using it to procrastinate and to convince yourself that you don't have time because you do. So, welcome to today's episode, besties.

Something that keeps a lot of people very stuck, waiting for the right time to start a business, to leave a relationship. And the truth is, besties that readiness is not a feeling. It is something you build through action. there is an actual real reason as to why our brain waits.

And I've always said that we can't change something unless we understand it. So if we begin by understanding our brain, it is so much easier to change it and then to heal that part of our brain that keeps waiting and waiting and waiting. And I want to talk about something that is called the future readiness illusion.

And we believe that one day we will feel ready. And until that day doesn't come, we can't start. And until we are not fully ready or we don't have full clarity on what it is that we want to do, we just won't begin. But the truth is that clarity comes after starting and realizing what works and what doesn't.

Your brain chooses comfort over growth. Even if comfort is painful because it is what you know. Familiar pain will always feel safer to your brain than the unknown. Because even though where you are is painful, where you don't know or where you could end up could be more painful.

So I don't even want to risk it. and I don't even want to try. Now, another big reason as to why we never start or why we procrastinate so much and wait for the right time is because fear controls us. Humans fear loss way more than they desire success.

And maybe this is a big realization for you because some of us prefer to stay in the same place without receiving anything new for the rest of our lives because we know that this is safe than to try something new and then go through loss. Even if that loss includes then receiving something better. And that means until we become aware or maybe we don't or never become aware at all and we stay in the same place forever.

And that is exactly why people stay stuck in situations that drain them and toxic relationships and toxic patterns. Not choosing is still choosing. Most people don't fail. They don't even give themselves the chance to fail. They postpone their dreams until they disappear.

And they postpone their chances until the chance is not even there anymore. And because of that they didn't even have the chance to go through failure but that itself is already failure. Now the reason as to why we never feel fully ready or the reason as to why ready never comes is because there will always be a reason to wait.

And the more that you overthink the more reasons there is to wait. I remember that I had been wanting to start a podcast way before I even started my podcast. I read a book called The Secret where he talks about manifestation and how the law of attraction works when I was 13.

And when I was 13, podcasts weren't even a thing. It was probably like 2016, 2015, something like that. And as soon as I read the book, I was like, I would love to be and I was so young. Like thinking about this now is crazy.

And like, thank God I didn't even start. But I'll connect my story. I was so young when I read that book. And I remember I was in the car and I told my mom, I would love to have a YouTube channel talking about this because it is information that I feel like if it was life-changing to me, it could be life-changing to so many people.

I want to start a YouTube channel where I like basically sit in front of a camera like literally like I'm doing right now. I wanted to do when I was 13 where I sit to the camera and I just start talking about like the law of attraction and gratitude and how it changes your life and how it works. And my mom kind of like looked at me and laughed because she was like, "Who's going to believe a 13-year-old talking about the law of attraction?" Point is that I had the idea of having a podcast about the exact same thing that I talk about today back when I was 13, which was almost 10 years ago.

I started this podcast in 2022. I had the idea of having a podcast and like having some type of relation with social media, talking to a camera, content creation, and like talking about motivation and self-growth, but also like a lot of different things for seven years. And call it fear, call it not having enough enough time, call it maybe being too young to understand like what this really was about and too young to understand the responsibilities of having a platform.

And at the end of the day, everything happens for a reason. Thank god I didn't start back then. But what I'm saying is that if I would have started maybe not in 2015, but maybe in 2020 or 2021 or maybe even 2 years before I started this podcast, who knows where this podcast could be or who knows what this podcast would have been.

And again, everything happens for a reason. At the end of the day, whenever you choose to start, whatever it is that you want to start ends up being the right time because everything happens at the right time. But my point is that some people never even start.

Yes, when you end up starting ends up being the right time because if the right time was before, God would have allowed you to start before. And if the time is not right now, God will make sure for you to know that right now is not the right time. But sometimes we confuse what God is trying to tell us with our own anxiety.

And we hide behind the fact of I don't have enough experience. I don't have enough equipment. I don't have enough time. I don't have enough energy. I don't have enough this. I don't have the right schedule. And we hide behind the fact of maybe God is making us wait, but in reality it's just our anxiety telling us I'm not ready.

And my point with the story of my podcast and how it can sound like I'm contradicting myself a little bit is yes, I could have started earlier. I let fear convincing myself that I was lacking a little bit of knowledge or I was lacking the equipment or I was way too young to start. But I either had the choice to be like, "Yeah, two years have passed, but I'm not going to let any more time pass and I'm going to finally start it." or I'm still very young because I was literally 17 18 when I started I missed me which is 18 probably like 18 19 which is I think about it now and I I was still very young but I could have let even more time pass wait until I'm 22 wait until I'm more mature wait until I'm more ready and four years more would have passed and I still would not have I missed me and that's what happens with a lot of people and a lot of plans they just never start and they wait until they feel fully ready with the full experience, with the full knowledge, with the full capacity, with an empty schedule to be able to stay consistent.

And yes, all of those things are important, but also yes, all of those things come after you start, you practice. You understand what works, you understand what doesn't, and then perfect and then polish and then see yourself growth and see your projects evolve with the experience that you're gaining while you're practicing and while you're putting out to the world, which is experience that would not come to you unless you are actually doing and actually trying. And that is literally my point.

Experience only comes with experience. Not by thinking, not by overthinking, not by planning. You gain experience by experiencing. And the truth is that every single confident person once fell unsure. Every single successful person out there, every singer, every actor, every famous influencer, they once fell unsure.

Every single singer has a song that they were like, "Should I put this out? Is this actually going to work out? I don't know if people are actually going to listen to them." It ended up in the radio where every single actor was like, "I'm not sure if I'm good enough for this role.

Am I professional enough? Am I suitable enough for this role? And now they're on TV and now they're in movies. Every single influencer that you see and that you admire and that goes on trips and that receives a bunch of packages and that gets like millions of views once felt embarrassed to post.

Once felt scared of what are they going to think of me? Am I being too cringe? Is this video good enough? Every single person in this world once felt afraid and once felt unsure. And the only thing that has them where they are today is that they were able to look past that fear and understand that the more that they kept waiting, the more that they were postponing their dreams and they just did it regardless of their result.

Readiness is built in motion, not in your mind, not with thoughts, not with planning. Experience is gained by experiencing. Now, action literally rewires your brain. Fear shrinks when you act. And the more that you act, the more that you start realizing, "Oh, this wasn't actually as bad as I thought.

I shouldn't have been as afraid as I actually was because it's not that bad at all." Courage is practiced. Momentum creates motivation. And confidence comes after action is performed. One of the biggest things that makes us be in that mindset of I'll start when I am ready.

I'll start at the right time. I will know when the right time is. We just simply never start. is not wanting to go through discomfort. I am so comfortable right now. I have my routine. I have my plans. I have this and I have that.

I already know what I do when I wake up. I already know what I do throughout the day. And I already know at what time I'm going to go to sleep and I'm going to repeat my routine all over and over and over again every single day.

Now, if I were to change something, if I were to start something, if I were to add something new to my routine, and if I were to stop waiting for the right time and decide that the right time is actually right now, I am going to be uncomfortable because that means that I have to change my routine, that I have to reschedu my schedule. And because I know that my mind gets really uncomfortable to be in when I'm going through change, I'm just simply not going to do it. And that is exactly the mindset that keeps us stuck.

Discomfort means growth. Fear will only disappear once you prove to yourself or once you let yourself experience the fact that it's actually not that bad. And everything that you're afraid of doesn't actually exist. Every single beginning is going to be messy.

And every single beginning is going to be uncomfortable. And it has been through everything in your life. And if you look back at everything in your life that you once started and felt uncomfortable with, you've gone through every single one of those situations and of those scenarios.

Why wouldn't you be able to go through something that you know is going to make you happy but might be a little bit uncomfortable for a little? Now is only procrastination in disguise. And being perfect or being a perfectionist is actually just being a scared procrastinator.

With all that being said, besties, I want to close off today's episode by reminding you about something very scary that again, I know it's going to sound scary, but time will pass anyways. And it's not going to wait for you. It's not going to wait until you feel ready.

It's not going to wait until you have the enough experience or the right equipment or you feel fully ready or fully confident. Time will pass anyways. Time does not wait. Time does not stop. Time does not have favorites. Time will pass anyways.

Whether you choose to start or not, whether you choose to get over fear or not, whether you finally decide to grab that camera or not, whether you finally decide to apply to that job or not, whether you finally decide to pursue your dreams or not, time will pass anyways. Time moves whether you act or not. And I promise you besties that it is so much more worth it to start now, potentially fail because you didn't have the right tools, learn the tools that you now need, perfect, and continue to experience than to let another year pass, look back and wish you would have started.

5 years from now, you'll either be in a completely different place because you chose becomfort and growth over comfort and stagnancy. Or you look back at yourself and be like, "Wow, I could have done so many things and now I'm doing something I don't love or I'm in the same place." But don't let that be you. Don't let it be you, the one who has to regret what they didn't do.

Don't let yourself experience that because that's also going to be uncomfortable and that's also going to be painful. But the only difference is between choosing the pain of growth and choosing the pain of staying the same is that you can't change the past of the pain that you will feel because you chose to stay the same. The pain of the past pulls you back, but the pain of growing in the present to have a better future pushes you forward.

The reason as to why I'm choosing to make this episode so early in the year because you can either see it as, oh my gosh, we're already in the second week of February. Time is going by so fast or we're in the second week of February. My year started slow.

I still have a chance to log in to be like, I don't want to go through the same year again or stop overthinking and I actually get things done. Let's do things differently. And I just hope that this episode is a wakeup call again early on in the year to remind you that you do not need permission to start.

You do not need permission to pursue your dreams. You do not need permission to experience something that you know will make you the happiest version of yourself. Start messy, start scared, start uncomfortable, but start action creates the life that you want.

And the right time to start creating the life that you want is now. And that's it for today's episode, besties. It was a good one. I hope that it was a little bit of motivation for you. It was for me. Like everything that I was saying, I was like reminding myself of like, yes, this year is going to be different.

Yes, this year I have to stop overthinking so much and I just have to do things. I have to stop procrastinating so much and just get up and start whatever it is that I want to start. And I hope that it was just as motivational and just as a reminder for you.

I hope that this is the episode that you choose to carry with you throughout your whole entire year and that you look back at yourself one year from now and you're like, I am so proud of myself that I started. I I know that it was uncomfortable. I know that it was painful, but I started and I am so proud of myself.

Regardless if it works out or not, at least you tried. You failed, you grew, you learned, and you experienced. Don't forget to follow me on social media, mafians. Don't forget to subscribe to my YouTube channel, Mafians on YouTube as well.

Don't forget to follow the podcast on social media, I MissMe Podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok. Don't forget to subscribe to the channel if you're watching this on YouTube. Or if you're watching this on Spotify, don't forget that I also have a YouTube channel where you can find these episodes, play them in the background while you're cooking, on your TV, while you're driving.

I Miss Me podcast on YouTube as well. With all that being said, besties, again, so grateful to have you here. Thank you so much for listening and I will see you guys next Monday. With love, maf besties, if you enjoyed today's episode, make sure to share with anyone that might need to listen.

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Long form
Published: 2025-05-22
Views: 174
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sSKHDZ14eq8
Runtime: 8 min 4 sec (1,490 words)

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to whoever this may impact. Sometimes our lives have to be completely shaken up, changed, and rearranged to relocate us where we're really meant to be. Sometimes change feels like loss. Transformation is scary. And sometimes to discover the best versions of ourselves, we must let go of absolutely everything that's holding us down.

Welcome to I Missed Me, your new safe space. I'm excited to form a part of your healing journey. Why is it that so many of us feel like we don't have enough? Whether it's money, time, love, or success, the answer lies partly in our brains.

The human brain has something called the negativity bias. This means we're hardwired to focus on what's wrong, what's missing, and what could go wrong. If you're always focused on what you lack, you're reinforcing a mindset of scarcity.

And what you focus on expands. So the more you think, I don't have enough money or I'm not successful enough, the more your brain will look for evidence to confirm that belief. But when you shift your thinking to I have enough right now, you're signaling to your brain and the universe that you're open, grateful, and ready for more.

Gratitude is the ultimate state of receiverhip. When you feel grateful for what's already here, you're essentially telling your body and mind that you're already living in abundance, and that primes you to attract even more. How can you start appreciating what you have today and rewire your brain for abundance?

Each morning or evening, take five minutes to list three things you already have that make your life richer. It could be as simple as a supportive friend, a warm bed, your favorite book or song. But the key is to feel the gratitude, not just write it down.

Instead of saying I have to go to work, try I get to go to work. Because the subtle shift turns obligation into appreciation. Throughout your day, take a moment to savor what's happening. Drinking your coffee, pasta is the warmth, the smell.

Sitting in traffic, appreciate the fact that you have a car. These small moments add up. And over time, they train your brain to focus on the positivity. Recognizing that you have enough doesn't mean you stop striving or dreaming.

It's not about settling, but it is about grinding yourself in a state of gratitude so that you're not chasing more out of fear. Imagine standing on a strong foundation. When you know that you're already supported, you can build higher, dream bigger, and take bolder steps.

So, next time that you catch yourself spiraling into, I'm not there yet, or I need more, stop and ask yourself, what do I already have? And how can I appreciate it more deeply? Often the things we take for granted are the very things that make our lives richer.

Think about the air you breathe. You didn't wake up the morning wondering if there will be enough oxygen. You just trust that it would be there. Or take something as simple as clean water. In many parts of the world, that's a luxury.

We're swimming in abundance. But because it's constant and reliable, we stop noticing it. This phenomenon is known as habituation. Your brain gets used to the things that are always there and they fade into the background. Start becoming intentional about noticing what you already have.

your body, your senses, your relationships, and even the smallest comforts in your daily life. Pause for a moment. Look around you. What do you see? Maybe it's your favorite piece of art on your wall, a cozy sweater, or sunlight streaming through the window.

Take 10 seconds to fully appreciate it. Feel its presence. And that is the beginning of reconnecting with abundance you already have. One of the biggest barriers to feeling like you have enough is the pursuit of perfection. We set impossibly high standards for ourselves.

Whether it's in our careers, relationships, or personal goals, and then we feel defeated when we fall short. But perfection is a myth. Even in nature, where everything feels harmonious, there's imperfection everywhere. Trees have uneven branches, rivers don't flow in straight lines, and yet they are whole and they're complete.

And the same is true for you. Feeling like you're enough doesn't mean you've achieved every goal or checked every box. It means accepting that you're a work in progress and finding value in the process. Write down one area of your life where you feel like you're not enough.

And then ask yourself, who decided this standard? And is this belief helping me grow or is it keeping me stuck? By questioning these narratives, you'll often find that they're not even yours to begin with. One of the most surprising things about embracing enough is how it sparks creativity and problem solving.

When you're stuck in scarcity thinking, your brain narrows its focus and it's constantly in survival mode thinking, "What do I need? How can I get it?" On the other hand, when you trust that you have enough, your mind opens up. You're free to ask, "What can I create?

How can I use what I already have?" There's a concept in art called creative constraint. When artists are given limiter materials, they often create more innovative work than when they have unlimited resources. The limitation forces them to think differently, to reimagine what's possible.

And the same applies to life. When you stop wishing for what you don't have and start exploring what you do, you'll often find untapped opportunities right in front of you. Pick one area of your life where you feel stuck and ask yourself, "If I couldn't buy, borrow, or acquire anything new, how would I solve this problem with what I already have?" When you feel like you're not enough or have enough, it often spills over into how you interact with others.

You might become overly critical, envious, or even distant, projecting your own insecurities onto the people around you. But when you ground yourself in the belief that you already have enough, you bring a sense of calm and confidence into your relationships. You stop seeking validation from others because you already have it within you.

The next time you're with a loved one, instead of thinking about what you wish they did for you, focus on appreciating who they are right now. What qualities do they bring into your life that you're grateful for? This practice not only makes your connection stronger, but also shifts your focus from what's lacking to what's already present.

The workplace is another area where feeling like you're not enough can creep in. There's always someone who seems to be earning more, achieving faster, or climbing higher. But here's a radical idea. What if you define success for yourself?

Instead of measuring your career against others, focus on what fulfills you and ask yourself, am I doing what aligns with my values? and am I learning and growing in ways that matter to me. When you frame your career in terms of personal growth and alignment, the pressure to keep up fades away.

There's a story about a fisherman in a small village who spends his days catching enough fish to feed his family and spend time with his kids. A businessman tells him that he could expand, hire a team, and build a fishing empire. And the fisherman asks, "For what?" And the businessman says, "Then you can relax and spend time with your family." The fisherman smiles and responds, "I'm already doing it." Success is often closer than we think.

It is just a matter of perspective. Feeling like you have enough isn't just about your presence. It is about the legacy you're creating for the people around you. When you live from a place of abundance, you inspire others to do the same.

Imagine the ripple effect if more people embrace the idea that they're enough. It would shift how we approach everything from work to relationships to how we treat the planet. What would change in your life if you truly believed you have enough?

You are enough. You have enough. And from this place of enoughness, you can manifest a life beyond your wildest dreams. With love, maf besties, if you enjoyed today's episode, make sure to share with anyone that might need to listen.

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Long form
Published: 2025-05-05
Views: 166
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yxg2NmaKIW0
Runtime: 9 min 38 sec (1,571 words)

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to whoever this may impact. Sometimes our lives have to be completely shaken up, changed, and rearranged to relocate us where we're really meant to be. Sometimes change feels like loss. Transformation is scary. And sometimes to discover the best versions of ourselves, we must let go of absolutely everything that's holding us down.

Welcome to I Miss Me, your new safe space. I'm excited to form a part of your healing journey. Detachment is the act of emotionally separating or distancing oneself from an outcome, situation, or relationship without losing compassion, care, or engagement.

It involves letting go of the need for control, excessive attachment, or dependency, allowing for greater clarity, peace, and resilience. Detachment doesn't mean apathy, and it doesn't mean you don't care about anything. It is not about giving up or not caring about your goals, dreams, or desires.

Detachment is about releasing the need for control, certainty, or specific outcomes. Imagine holding a butterfly. If you clutch it too tightly, you'll harm it. But if you open your hands and let it rest lightly, it stays with you.

This is what detachment looks like. Attachment to outcomes often stems from fear. Fear of failure, rejection, or loss. But ironically, clinging on to the things we fear can block the very things we want. When we obsess over a goal, our brain activates the stress response system, flooding our bodies with cortisol and adrenaline.

And while these hormones can be helpful in short burst, chronic stress makes it harder to think clearly, solve problems, or notice opportunities. The concept of scarcity mindset comes into play. When you're overly attached to achieving something, you're signaling to yourself and the universe that you believe you lack it.

This creates a cycle of stress and negativity, making it harder to attract what you desire. This relates to how the brain's default mode network operates. This network is responsible for self-referential thoughts, which can spiral into rumination and overthinking.

The more you obsess, the more you reinforce your neural pathways of lack, fear, and frustration. When you detach, you shift into a growth mindset. You're telling your brain that you trust the process. This activates the reticular activating system, a part of the brain that filters information and helps you notice opportunities aligned with your goals.

In essence, detachment creates the mental clarity and emotional openness needed for attraction. Surrendering doesn't mean you stop putting in the effort or care about your desires. It means now you release the how and the when.

You trust that the process will unfold as it's meant to, and even if it doesn't look exactly how you envisioned it. This aligns with the psychological principle of self-efficacy. When you trust your ability to navigate life's uncertainties, you feel less need to control every detail.

On a neurological level, surrendering reduces activity in the amydala, the brain's freer center, and makes the prefrontal cortex stronger, which governs reasoning and decision making. This balance allows you to respond to challenges with calm confidence rather than activate anxiety. When you detach and you surrender, you enter a state of flow.

You're fully present and engaged, making it easier to align with your desires and notice synchronicities. Focus on the process, not the outcome. Instead of obsessing over results, immerse yourself in the actions that move you towards your goals, whether it's learning a skill, cultivating relationships, or building a career.

Find joy in the journey itself. Release the timeline. Trust that what's meant for you will arrive in the right time. Reducing pressure lowers stress hormones, allowing you to perform better and think more clearly. Practice gratitude.

Gratitude shifts your focus from what's missing to what's already present. This rewires your brain's dopamineergic pathways creating a sense of contentment and attracting more positive experiences. Visualize and then let go.

This why the si can be a powerful tool for attraction, but it's important to release attachment after imagining your desired outcome. Trust that you've set the intention and let the universe take it from there. Mindfulness and meditation are important.

These practices help you stay grounded in the present moment, reducing overthinking and creating a sense of inner peace. Neuroscientific studies show that mindfulness strengthens the brain's ability to regulate emotions and detach from unhelpful thoughts. When you detach, you often receive what you've been looking for.

Detachment signals trust, openness, and abundance. Detachment frees you from the stress of what if it doesn't happen and shifts you into the energy of I'm okay no matter what, even if it doesn't happen. This not only makes you more attractive to opportunities and to people, but also creates a profound sense of inner peace.

When I accept myself just as I am, then I can change. Similarly, when you release your grip to outcomes, life flows more naturally, bringing you closer to your desires. Detachment is not about giving up. It is about stepping back, trusting the process, and aligning yourself with abundance.

It is about knowing that what's meant for you will never pass you by. At its core, detachment is about energy. When you're desperate for something, whether it's a relationship, a job, or even peace of mind, your energy is scattered.

It's rooted in scarcity saying I need to feel this way where I can't be happy unless I have this thing. But here's the thing. Desperation repels. This is known as the law of reverse effort. Where the harder you push, the further the desire outcome seems because your energy isn't aligned with receiving.

It is focused on not having or on fear. When you detach, you shift from chasing to attracting. You're saying, "I trust I'll be okay either way." This energy creates openness, allowing opportunities to flow towards you naturally.

When you obsess over something, you create rigid neural pathways that reinforce feelings of stress and lack. This makes it harder to think creatively, problem solve, or notice opportunities that align with your desires. But when you detach, you open up your brain's new possibilities.

Practicing mindfulness, an essential tool for detachment, helps you activate the dorsol lateral prefrontal cortex. This part of your brain helps you stay focused, regulate emotions, and approach life with a sense of curiosity rather than fear. By letting go, you create mental space for solutions and opportunities to emerge, often in ways you never expected.

One of the most challenging aspects of detachment is patience. We live in a culture of instant gratification. where waiting can feel like failure. But the truth is timing matters. Think about planting a seed. You don't stand over it every day demanding it to grow.

But you water it. You give it sunlight. And you trust that it will sprout when it's ready. And life works the same ways. Delayed gratification. It is the ability to resist the temptation of immediate reward in favor of long-term gains.

People who practice delayed gratification are more successful, healthier, and happier. Detachment is the exercise of this. Knowing that good things take time and that your worth isn't defined by how quickly they come. Have you ever noticed that when you stop obsessing over a problem, the solution often comes to you?

Or how people seem to be more drawn to you when you're confident and relaxed rather than when you're needy? These moments are in coincidences. They're evidence of detachment at work. Consider someone who's been job hunting for months.

They've sent out dozens of applications, growing more frustrated and desperate with each rejection. Then one day, they decide to take a break. They focus on hobbies, reconnect with friends, and let go of the need to control the outcome.

And suddenly, an opportunity lands in their lap, and all contact reaches out where a job posting appears just as the right moment. This isn't magic. It is called alignment. When you stop chasing, you create the space for what you want to find.

Instead of seeing obstacles as failures, view them as redirections. Trust that they're guiding you towards something even better. Use statements like, "I trust the process." Or, "I am whole regardless of the outcome." These affirmations rewire your brain to focus on abundance rather than lack.

Detachment thrives in the present moment. Whenever you feel yourself slipping into overthinking or worrying about the future, bring your awareness back to the here and now, recognize progress, no matter how small. This reinforces a mindset of gratitude and trust.

Detachment isn't about giving up, but it is about giving space and it is about trusting that what's meant for you is already on its way. And your only job is to align your energy with openness and faith. Let go of the need to control and trust that the universe always has your back.

With love, mafies, if you enjoyed today's episode, make sure to share with anyone that might need to listen. Don't forget that we have a membership where as soon as you sign up, you will receive an I missed me hoodie. Plus, you have access to an exclusive episode every single month, printable activities, meditations, monthly challenges, PDF guides, and behindthe-scenes content.

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Long form
Published: 2025-10-20
Views: 161
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z96MvtfGtl4
Runtime: 7 min 50 sec (1,538 words)

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to whoever this may impact. Sometimes our lives have to be completely shaken up, changed, and rearranged to relocate us where we're really meant to be. Sometimes change feels like loss. Transformation is scary. And sometimes to discover the best versions of ourselves, we must let go of absolutely everything that's holding us down.

Welcome to I Missed Me, your new safe space. I'm excited to form a part of your healing journey. We often get stuck in the grind. We give, we give, and we give some more. And somewhere along the way, we forget to ask ourselves if we're receiving enough in return, enough joy, enough recognition, enough peace of mind.

Sometimes we settle for less because we don't believe we're worthy of more. What if I told you that you are? That you deserve more. More could be more time for yourself, more appreciation, more opportunities to explore your potential.

It could even mean more love in your life. Whether that's from a partner, friends, family, or from yourself, it is so easy to get caught up in a comparison. You scroll through social media. You see the highlight reels of other people's lives.

And before you know it, you start thinking that everyone else has it figured out except for you. It's like the world is constantly whispering, "You're not enough." But you know what? It's a lie. You are enough. But sometimes we forget to see it.

Let's start by reframing how we think about worth. It's not about having the perfect job, the perfect body, or the perfect relationship, but it is about recognizing your inherent value, your worthier respect, kindness, and the kind of treatment that makes you feel good about yourself. You have to be the one to set that standard.

People will treat you as you treat yourself. If you're constantly sacrificing your needs, constantly putting everyone else first, that will become the norm. But if you start to show yourself that you deserve more, more care, more attention, and more joy, you'll attract more of that into your life.

Let's talk about the fear. The fear of asking for more, of wanting more. It's real. So many of us have been conditioned to believe that asking for more is selfish. Wanting more doesn't make you selfish. It makes you human. When was the last time that you asked for more?

When was the last time that you asked for what you needed, really needed? Not just what you thought that you would be satisfied with, but what truly nourishes your heart and soul. It can be tough to even acknowledge what that is.

It can feel vulnerable to express your needs. Whether that's in a relationship or work or in your personal life, the truth is no one can give you what you need unless that you ask for it. You deserve to be heard. You deserve to have your needs met.

Set boundaries. This one is huge. Setting boundaries isn't just about saying no to others. It is about saying yes to yourself. Say no to the things that drain you, the things that take away from your energy and your time. Say yes to the things that bring you peace and fulfillment.

Take time for yourself. Stop waiting for the perfect moment to take care of you. The perfect moment is now. Whether it's a weekend, getaway, an afternoon walk, or simply taking a few minutes to meditate. Prioritize your well-being.

Communicate your needs. Don't be afraid to ask what you need. Whether that's emotional support, more responsibility at work, or just a little more time for yourself, be clear and direct. And remember that your needs are just as important as anyone else's.

Celebrate your wins. You are your own biggest cheerleader. Celebrate the small victories, the moments where you showed up for yourself, the moments when you put your well-being first, the moment you celebrate yourself. The more that you celebrate yourself, the more that you'll attract more you deserve.

taking small actions every day to ensure that you're not settling for less, that you're treating yourself with the respect and love that you deserve. This is how you create a life that feels fulfilling. We often feel guilty for wanting more because we think it means we're taking from others.

But guess what? The more you fill your own cup, the more you have to give to others. It's not selfish, it's essential. When you feel that little voice inside saying that you're not deserving, just remind yourself that you are.

You are worthy of everything you desire. and then some. Don't apologize for wanting more. Don't shrink your dreams or limit yourself because of fear or guilt. You deserve more because you are enough. Make a choice to believe in your worth.

Ask for more. Take more. And know that you are more than enough. And remember, you deserve the very best that life has to offer. You have to be the one to set that standard. You're constantly sacrificing your needs, constantly putting everyone else first.

That will become the norm. But if you start to show yourself that you deserve more, more care, more attention, more joy, you'll attract more of that into your life. When you recognize your worth, others will start to recognize it, too.

Not because you demand it, but because you're no longer willing to settle for less. You stop tolerating situations or people that make you feel small. For many of us, there's this underlying fear that asking for more will make you seem demanding or ungrateful.

But think about it for a second. If you ask for more of what you truly need, isn't that a form of self-respect? Isn't that showing that you value yourself enough to claim what you need for your well-being? It might feel uncomfortable at first, but every time that you ask for more, it becomes a little easier.

And over time, you'll start to realize that asking for what you need isn't a sign of weakness. It is a sign of strength. One of the biggest barriers to getting more is something called the scarcity mindset. Is this belief that there isn't enough to go around?

That if someone else gets what they want or need, it means there are less for you. Isn't that a zero sum game? There's an abundance of opportunities, love, success, and joy to go around. And just because someone else is thriving doesn't mean that you can't thrive, too.

How many times have you held yourself back because you felt like there wasn't enough space for you to shine? Maybe you've turned down an opportunity, stayed quiet in meetings, or even held back your creativity because you were afraid of taking too much space. But you deserve to take up space.

You deserve to shine as brightly as you can. And there's more than enough room for you and everyone else to succeed. The world isn't limited. There's a place for your talents, your voice, and your dreams. We often believe that we need to be perfect before we can ask for more.

But here's the thing. Perfection doesn't exist. Your flaws, your imperfections, and your unique journey are exactly what makes you worthy of more. Embrace who you are now, not some idealized version of yourself in the future.

Self- loveve isn't just about bubble baths, and treating yourself to your favorite snack. It is about how you treat yourself every single day. It's about being kind to yourself when you make mistakes, being patient with yourself during tough times, and setting the kind of standards that make you feel proud of who you are.

It's about understanding that you deserve more. Not because of what you do, but because of who you are. When you love yourself deeply, you start to attract relationships, opportunities, and situations that reflect that love.

You stop settling for less because you know that you deserve better. And as you rise your own standards, you teach others how to raise theirs, too. Your value isn't defined by how much you give, how hard you work, or how little you ask for.

It's defined by who you are and the unique gifts you bring into the world. You deserve more. Not because of anything that you've done, but simply because you are. So today, make a choice to believe in your worth. Ask for more, take more, and know that you are more than enough.

And remember, you deserve the very best that life has to offer. With love, mapping besties, if you enjoyed today's episode, make sure to share with anyone that might need to listen. Don't forget that we have a membership where as soon as you sign up, you will receive an I missed me hoodie.

Plus, you have access to an exclusive episode every single month, printable activities, meditations, monthly challenges, PDF guides, and behindthe-scenes content. Don't forget to follow I MissMe on social media. I miss podcast on Instagram and Tik Tok, and subscribe to I MissMe's YouTube channel, I MissMe Podcast.

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Long form
Published: 2026-01-26
Views: 153
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UoFrLaBJOD4
Runtime: 21 min 36 sec (4,367 words)

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to whoever this may impact. Sometimes our lives have to be completely shaken up, changed, and rearranged to relocate us where we're really meant to be. Sometimes change feels like loss. Transformation [music] is scary. And sometimes to discover the best versions of ourselves, we must let [music] go of absolutely everything that's holding us down.

Welcome to I Missed Me, your new safe space. I'm excited to form a part of your healing journey. [music] Hey besties, welcome back to another episode of I Missed Me and our second episode of the year. My name is Mafia Sures.

I am your host and I am so happy and so grateful that you're here that you're back. I hope that you enjoyed the first episode, our little intro to our new season, our little intro to the year. And on last episode, I talked about 15 lessons that I learned last year and everything that 2025 taught me.

very important lessons, lessons that helped me grow and that transformed me as a person. And for today, I had planned another episode because I initially wanted to do 15 lessons that I learned in 2025 and then I also wanted to do like 15 mindset shifts that I really want to carry with me in 2026. However, I recently had an event at Irish Studio in Miami.

I posted it all over my social media and it was basically like a vision board party where a bunch of people from the community. We all got to do our own little vision boards and I sat down with one of the girls that came in early and we were talking about plans and like resolutions and she asked me like what are your plans for this year and I asked her back and she was like I don't know I just feel like I feel so much pressure to do all these things and I feel so much pressure because I haven't done my vision board and this year started kind of slow for me and normally every single year I start off with a routine and normally every single year I start off with all of these goals and all of these plans And this year, I feel like it didn't start that way for me. I feel like I started way slower.

I started being sick because I feel like a lot of people got sick at the beginning of the year. Like, everyone had the weird flu that wasn't CO, but it was like some other flu. And so, she said that she started off slow and like slower than past years.

And I personally have felt the same way. I also didn't want to put as much pressure on myself as how my year had to start. I always every single time that I put pressure on January every single year like I have to start going to the gym January 1st and I have to do all of these things.

I stop by February or March. Like for me, January is just another month. And for me, if January is not your reset month, any other month of the year can be and you can restart every or any other day. It doesn't have to be January 1st or January specifically.

And so instead of doing 15 lessons that I want to carry with me in 2026 and being so hard on myself or in some way encouraging you guys to be hard on yourselves as well, like you need to do this in 2026 and you need to carry these lessons with you in 2026 and do your goals list or everything that that you have planned and all of your achievements. Like no, I don't want you guys to put pressure on yourself as to how your year should start or should have started because it's almost February. And that is exactly what we're going to talk about today.

the fact that January is not the only month to restart. And I am a firm believer that restarting is for any day, any year, any month. You don't have to wait until the end of the month to restart. You don't have to wait until the end of the year to restart.

You can literally restart tomorrow if you wanted to. You can restart next week. You can restart the week after that. You can restart next month, in 3 weeks, in 3 months. You can literally restart whenever you want. And if you get used to restarting whenever you want and if you get used to being like you know what this day passed it was not the best day but I can restart tomorrow.

Or if you get used to restarting multiple times all throughout your life you will stop putting so much pressure at the start of things like at the start of months at the start of weeks at the start of years because you understand that it's like I said only another day and that again you can restart whenever you want. So welcome to today's episode. First off, I want to talk about the pressure of restarting.

And why do I feel like we feel so much pressure to restart? Because obviously it's a new year and somewhere along the way we all collectively decided that January was going to be our reset button. New years, new goals, new habits, a new version of you.

And again, it's collective. We all celebrated. We all kind of let go of things that don't serve us anymore. on December 31st, we all build up and we all prepare for January 1 to be our restart and to start fresh. And we also kind of feel the pressure that if you don't get it right in January and if you start off with the wrong foot in January, you kind of miss your window or that's how the whole year is going to be.

Or I see a lot of posts on social media that sometimes they can be jokes, but like the mind is very very powerful and like the way that you speak to yourself and the way that you speak out to life matters of like my year started off terribly. I'm ready for 2027 and you doomed the whole entire year and like I get it's a joke, but you guys know that I know the importance of like words and the way that mind processes things. I see it all the time.

Ready for 2027. This year is already bad and it's only like the second week. This year started off terribly. Bring on 2027. I see it every single year and I see it every single time. But the truth is that life doesn't actually have to restart just because the calendar changes.

First of all, your problems don't disappear just because it's January. Your doubts don't magically clear and your energy doesn't have like this sudden reset just because you're waking up on January 1st. For a lot of people actually, January is very heavy.

A lot of people are coming back from trips. A lot of people are starting off work again. It's slow. It's full of pressure. People are getting back into routine. People are saying bye to their families. It is a very heavy month with a lot of pressure.

And the problem is that we expect ourselves to become disciplined, motivated, healed, and focused immediately after the holidays. After burnout, and after the fact that we just survived a whole year, we put the most pressure on ourselves on what I would say is one of the most difficult months of the year. Because again, if you think about it, the year doesn't really end in December.

The year ends when December ends, which means the beginning of January. Like, you're still letting go 2025 at the beginning of 2026. And again, when it doesn't happen and when we're not disciplined and immediately motivated or immediately full of energy because we're supposed to be.

When it doesn't happen, we don't question our expectations. We question ourselves. We don't question the fact that we're being extremely unrealistic by thinking that we're supposed to be full of energy or are 100% when we just came back from the holidays.

But again, we question and we doubt ourselves instead. I'm not consistent. I always quit. This year is going to be the same as last. I'm supposed to be better. I just don't have the discipline. And I want you to take a pause. Give yourself a little bit of grace.

Give yourself a little bit of patience. And ask yourself, what if the issue isn't actually me? What if the issue isn't you? What if the issue is the fact that we are constantly surrounded by pressure and we are constantly surrounded by comparison of how the year starts for others?

And what if the issue is the real issue is believing that growth has a deadline. The truth is that real change doesn't require a change of calendar. Real change doesn't require a January 1st. Real change doesn't follow months.

And real change doesn't have a date. Real change follows awareness. And that is the only thing that real change and discipline requires. Awareness. Whether that's December, January, October, November, July. The moment and the day that you wake up with awareness that you want to change and that you are promising yourself that this time you're actually going to be disciplined, that is the day that your year is actually going to change.

Most real restarts don't come with announcement. They don't come with vision boards and they don't come because they have to come because a calendar said so. They come quietly and they come after random days of you having enough of procrastinating and of feeling lazy and after honest moments with yourself where you finally admit that something isn't working for you anymore and that you actually want to change your life and that you actually want to feel better.

And again, that moment can happen Friday or June or a completely random day at any moment of the year of the month or of the week. Restarting isn't seasonal. Restarting is personal. Now, why do restarting almost always fails?

Why when we try to restart, why when we try to set a routine for ourselves, why when we finally promise ourselves that we're going to stop procrastinating and actually building a routine for ourselves, why does restarting fail? And the truth is, besties, is that most people don't fail because they're restarting. They fail because they treat restarting like it's an event instead of a process.

They treat it as if restarting only requires one day for your body and your mind to get used to it and stay disciplined. As if it's not going to be weeks of good and bad days where sometimes your mind is going to play tricks on you and not going to want to wake up and not going to want to do the things that you know consciously that you have to do. And again, it is a process and it is you getting used to building a system and actually sticking to it.

You expect clarity immediately and you expect motivation to actually last. And the worst part is that most people expect results before consistency thinking that the results are going to bring the motivation and the motivation is going to bring the consistency. But in reality, if you don't have the consistency, you're never going to get the results, which means you're just never going to feel motivation.

Besties, growth is repetitive. It is quiet and most of the times it is very boring. Real restarting and real discipline and real consistency is showing up even when nothing feels exciting. Even when you're lazy, even when you're tired, even when your alarm is sounding and the only thing that you want to do is shut it up, turn around and sleep 10 more minutes.

It is doing it on days where you're sad, where you're depressed, where you're stressed, where you're anxious. And again, it is doing it over and over and over again until your mind gets used to it. And trust me, it takes time.

It is choosing yourself and choosing the things that you know that are going to make you better, even when you're not getting validation, even when no one's noticing it. An example, going to the gym without immediately seeing results. starting to post on social media without immediately seeing thousands of followers, opening a business without immediately seeing sales, choosing yourself and choosing differently even when no one else is noticing it.

On that same note, I am a firm believer that the people that you surround yourself with are extremely important and either make you or break you. And I'm going to be talking about relationships, especially friendships, throughout this whole season because I think it is so important and so underrated. But I've always told you guys, the people that you surround yourself with matter a lot.

And again, they either make you or break you. And normally when you're restarting or when you're starting over or when you're just starting something and you don't immediately see results or the people around you don't immediately see results and they don't even know the work that you're putting behind, they just don't see results at all. You're going to start hearing comments like, "You're trying too hard.

You've changed. It's not that big of a deal. It's not that deep. Why can't you just relax?" Number one, if you're listening to those comments, those are just not the type of people that you should be surrounding yourself with.

Every single person in your life should be supporting you regardless of what it is that you're doing. But number two, growth makes people uncomfortable, especially the ones that choose not to grow because that's weird for them. And weird is uncomfortable.

Someone who has stayed stuck their whole entire life and someone who has never started something of their own is going to feel very uncomfortable when you choose to start something of your own. Someone that has never had disciplined is going to think that you are very weird for being so hard on yourself for wanting something so bad. Someone who has never put themselves in uncomfortable situations to push themselves to be better is going to think that you are very weird for trying and they're going to say that you're trying way too hard.

Growth makes people uncomfortable, especially when it reminds them of what they've been avoiding or of everything that they haven't done. Maturing besties is realizing that not everyone will understand your restart and not everyone's supposed to. Surround yourself with people that support you.

Surround yourself with people that might not even understand you, but because they love you, they choose to be there for you. And choose to ignore every single person that gets threatened or uncomfortable because you are choosing to do things differently. Another reason restarts fail is because people try to restart everything at once.

new routine, new body, new mindset, and I'm gonna start going to the gym, and I'm gonna start waking up early, and I'm gonna start eating better, and I'm gonna start this, this, this, and that. And they take restarting as it has to be all together, all at once, all at the same time. New routine, new body, new mindset, new goals, new identity.

But that's not growth, besties. That's just overwhelming yourself, overworking yourself. And it is just simply, again, not realistic. Your mind is already struggling with changing one thing. Adding five more things is going to burn your mind out so fast.

Sustainable change is small. It is focused. Results don't come immediately. To grow, you first have to lose. Lose comfort, lose old habits, lose versions of yourself that once felt safe. And loss, [snorts] just like growth, doesn't follow a calendar.

You can choose to lose and let go of things that are weighing you down and aren't serving a purpose in your life anymore at any moment in time. Losing doesn't follow a calendar. Losing doesn't have a date. It happens when you're ready to face it.

And besties, last but not least, most importantly to close off today's episode is that you do not need permission to begin again from anyone. Never. And that is the truth that matters most. You are allowed to restart more than once whenever you want and all throughout your life.

You are allowed to change direction. You are allowed to outgrow old goals. And you are allowed to realize that the life that you're living no longer fits with the type of person that you want to be and become. And this and I want you to keep this in mind and remind you this every single day.

It doesn't make you inconsistent. It makes you aware. A person who is constantly changing. And a person who is constantly evolving is always going to be better than a person who doesn't choose to grow at all. Yes, it is uncomfortable.

Yes, it's going to hurt. Yes, it is going to make you doubt if you're even making the right decision by changing and restarting because of how uncomfortable it feels. But always go back to the thought and always remind yourself that being the same was already being uncomfortable.

Because if not, you wouldn't have chosen to grow and to restart. Time will pass whether you act or not. Life doesn't wait for you and time does not wait for you and it will never wait for you. It will not wait you. Time doesn't stop.

2016, which I've been seeing all over my for you page. 2016 was literally 10 years ago. That's crazy. Quarantine was 6 years ago, and it feels like it was yesterday. Time goes by so fast. Time doesn't wait for you. Time doesn't wait until you're ready.

The calendar doesn't stop just because you don't want to restart. The calendar doesn't stop just because you don't want to put yourself in uncomfortable situations. Years will go by whether you change or stay the same. And the only real risk is wasting time waiting for the perfect moment.

There is no perfect month. There is no perfect Monday. There is no perfect January 1. And there is no perfect version of you. Clarity comes after action, not before it. If January didn't work, if January was a slow month for you, if January started chaotic, because for me it did.

So many things happened. And I have to tell you guys so many stories about my moving because literally moving into my own place has been the most chaotic thing I've ever been through. Ever. I literally moved I moved in October which is like almost 4 months ago.

My furniture got lost. My AC wasn't working. My neighbors were complaining about my dog. My fridge stand broke. Like I've been through everything you can't imagine with this apartment. And a really bad situation happened to me as soon as I came back to my apartment on January 5th.

Literally on my way from my house because I was staying with my parents during vacation and I was driving back to my apartment. And when I was driving, I was telling this story to my friend when I was driving to my apartment. I was praying to God because last year was a really good year.

And I was just praying like give me clarity and lead me this year. And I am just so grateful and so excited that I just spent the holidays with my parents that I love so much and I loved being home. But I also love that now I have a place of my own that's starting to feel like home and starting to feel comfortable.

And I am just so grateful and so excited to go back home and like organizing and sitting down and like resting in my own bed. I walk into my building besties and as I'm approaching my door, I see an envelope stuck on my door saying, "Your lease is going to terminate if you don't respond in the next 7 days." Turns out I had an issue with some paint in the balcony outside. It was a whole issue.

Well, this story is for my personal social media and like a story time when everything is resolved because it's not yet. But that immediately turned my month upside down because now I was dealing with like legal action against me and I had to deal all of these things before the end of the week because if not I was literally going to get kicked out of my new place. And all of this to tell you guys that your month is not supposed to look perfect.

January is not a month that I think was designed to look perfect. January is a slow month. It is a month where you're still unpacking, where you're still recovering, where you're even still deciding what you want to do if you didn't have it clear in December.

And that is completely normal and fine. You did not have to finish your vision board before the 31st of December for it to actually happen. Like you do not have to pray and manifest for all of these things before the clock hits 12:01 for them to actually happen.

If January didn't work, it doesn't mean that you're lost. It just means that you're human, and we all are. Restarting is quiet. Restart quietly. Restart without announcing it. Restart for you. Restart whenever you're ready. Restart whenever your body feels ready.

Restart whenever your mind feels ready. If your mind is still recovering from things that you went through last year, give it time to recover. The worst thing that you can do to yourself is going through things that still make you sad from last year.

And because you're not supposed to feel them anymore because it's now a new year and you were supposed to leave those things behind in 2026. So now it's time to put more weighted on your brain this year. And the only thing that you're doing it is overwhelming and pushing your feelings down.

Number one, they're going to come out eventually. And number two, it is very selfish for you to ask that from yourself mentally and physically because you're not ready for it. The people who actually change and the people who actually grow aren't the ones with the best plans.

They're the ones who keep choosing themselves, their goals, and their routines over and over again, regardless of how they feel, because they know that even if it's uncomfortable or if they're lazy, it's going to make them better long term. If you were waiting for a sign or if you were waiting for permission or to begin again or maybe you did restart in January but you're completely changing your plans and you want to restart again in February. This is your sign and this is your permission besties.

And that's it for today's episode. I kind of just wanted to ease your mind and your heart a little bit to remind you guys that restarting doesn't have a date. Restarting can be tomorrow if you choose it to be. I advise you guys that if you're choosing on restarting, and what I mean by restarting is if you want to start going to the gym, if you want to start content creation, if you want to start a project, if you want to start something that you've never done, number one, don't put pressure on yourself if you've never done it because you've never done it.

And number two, know that you can do it at any time. Again, ease your mind and remind you guys that January was slow, maybe not just for you, but for a lot of people. and that if February is low, that's also okay. And that is why months have 30 days and that you have first tries 12 times in a year.

And even then, every single day has new 24 hours that you can use to change and to start over. And that's it for today's episode, besties. I hope you liked it. I hope you enjoyed it. If you like today's episode, don't forget to share it with someone who might need to listen.

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Long form
Published: 2025-12-03
Views: 149
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k3zDnbPjk28
Runtime: 9 min 10 sec (1,672 words)

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to whoever this may impact. Sometimes our lives have to be completely shaken up, changed, and rearranged to relocate us where we're really meant to be. Sometimes change feels like loss. Transformation is scary. And sometimes to discover the best versions of ourselves, we must let go of absolutely everything that's holding us down.

Welcome to I Missed Me, your new safe space. I'm excited to form a part of your healing journey. Today we're talking about something that might sound a little backward, but it's true. Staying the same is harder than changing.

Because while change feels uncomfortable, staying the same hurts in ways we don't always see until it's too late. And I want to talk about that. I want to talk about how sometimes we hold on to the old versions of ourselves or old routines, old relationships, old stories, not because they're good for us, but because they're familiar.

And yet, the truth is, the longer that you hold on to what you've outgrown, the heavier it becomes. So, let's talk about it. The illusion of safety. We love comfort. We love routine. We love familiarity even when it hurts us because familiarity feels safe.

We convince ourselves that if something is known, it must be secure. And we stay. We stay in jobs we hate because at least it pays the bills. We stay in friendships that drain us because we've known them forever. And we stay in cities that don't inspire us.

Because starting over feels scary. But staying in something that no longer serves you is in safety. It's slow self-destruction disguised as comfort. Safe isn't found in what's familiar. It's found in what's right. And sometimes the right thing will scare you.

Sometimes the right thing will stretch you. And sometimes the right thing will require you to leave everything behind. Discomfort doesn't mean wrong. We've been conditioned to believe that if something feels uncomfortable, it must be wrong.

But discomfort is usually just growth trying to introduce itself. It's your soul expanding. It's your old habits fighting your new standards. It's the tension between who you were and who you're becoming. And that's why staying the same is harder because growth hurts.

Yes. But stagnancy kills. It kills your potential. It kills your creativity. It kills the part of you that once believed that you could have more. So if it feels uncomfortable right now, maybe that's not a sign to quit. Maybe it's a sign that you're finally moving.

The cost of staying where you are is something we don't talk about enough. How much energy it takes to stay. How much energy it takes to stay small. How exhausting it is to keep pretending something still fits when it clearly doesn't.

How painful it is to keep shrinking yourself just to make everyone else comfortable. Because staying the same costs you something, too. It cost you your peace. It cost you your authenticity. It cost you your growth. And the truth is, the longer that you resist change, the louder life gets.

It'll start with a whisper, that quiet voice in your head saying, "There has to be more than this." And if you ignore it, it'll get louder. You'll start to feel restless. You'll start to feel disconnected. You'll start to feel like you're watching your own life from a distance.

And eventually, life will force you to move, not to punish you, but to free you. What makes staying the same so hard is that it comes with guilt. Because growth often means outgrowing. Outgrowing friendships that no longer feel aligned.

Outgrowing versions of yourself that you no longer recognize. Outgrowing the environments that once made you feel safe, but now feel too small. And that is sad because no one really prepares you for that kind of loss. The loss of a life that's no longer meant for you.

But I promise you, it's not selfish to grow. It's sacred. It's an act of selfrespect to look at your life and say, "This version of me isn't serving me anymore." You're allowed to evolve without feeling guilty for it because staying the same might keep everyone else comfortable, but it will keep you unfulfilled.

And you don't know anyone the version of you that they're used to. Growth is hard, but staying stuck is harder. Growth will ask you to shed. It'll ask you to sit in silence. It'll ask you to be misunderstood. It'll ask you to let go before you know what's next.

And that's terrifying. But what's even more terrifying is staying exactly where you are and knowing nothing will ever change. Because at some point comfort becomes a cage and you will start mistaking your own numbness for peace.

So yes, change hurts and so does staying the same. And only one of them leads somewhere new. You don't grow because it's easy. You grow because it's necessary. Because the life you want won't come from the version of you that's afraid to evolve.

Stop waiting for the perfect moment. So many of us wait until we're ready. We wait until it's the right time. Until we have more money, more confidence, more clarity. But the truth is, the right time never comes. You won't feel ready.

You will just feel called. And that's enough. You don't need to have it all figured out before you start. You just need to be willing to take one small step forward, even if it's shaky. Because the longer that you wait for the perfect moment, the further away your new life gets.

And eventually the weight of waiting becomes heavier than the fear of beginning. So start now, start messy, start scared, but start anyways. The gift of becoming new. You know what's beautiful about change? It always leads you closer to yourself.

Every time you evolve, you peel back another layer of everything that you're not until all that's left is your truth. That's what this whole thing is about. Not perfection, not control, not proving anything to anyone, but just truth.

And truth feels like peace. Truth feels like alignment. Truth feels like coming home. So if you've been resisting change, ask yourself, what are you really afraid of losing? Because maybe what you lose isn't love or safety or belonging.

But maybe it is a version of you that stopped believing you deserved more. And maybe losing that version is the best thing that could have ever happened to you. What if staying hurts more? We ask, what if it doesn't work out?

But what if staying the same is the thing that breaks you? What if staying the same cost you the person you're meant to become? Change will ask for effort, but staying the same demands your peace. So choose your heart because either way, you'll struggle.

But at least one kind of struggle leads somewhere new. You can struggle with growth or you can struggle with stagnancy. You can suffer the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. And only one of those is worth it. Keep choosing yourself.

You are allowed to change your mind. You are allowed to evolve. You're allowed to want more. You're allowed to walk away from people who only love the outdated version of you. You're allowed to say, "This chapter served me, but it's over now." That's not disloyal.

That's self-honoring. And that's what life is, a series of becoming. You're not supposed to stay the same. You're supposed to expand, shift, and bloom. So, please don't dim your light to keep fitting into everyone's rooms. Don't apologize for growing.

Don't apologize for changing. Because the people who are meant for you will never be threatened by your evolution. They'll evolve with you. Staying the same is harder because deep down you know you're meant for more. And pretending you don't is exhausting.

And you can feel it. That quiet ache that shows up when you realize you've been living small. The restlessness that comes when you know there's more inside of you, more to do, more to feel, more to become, but you've been too scared to reach for it all.

You tell yourself you're fine and that it's comfortable. That you're content. But late at night, when it's quiet and no one's around to impress, you know that you're not because your soul always knows when it's time to move on.

It whispers at first a thought, a dream, a nudge. And if you ignore it, it starts to scream. That's not a punishment. It's guidance. That's life trying to get your attention, trying to remind you that staying the same is in safety.

It's slow suffocation. The second you stop resisting change, life starts rearranging itself to meet the version of you that's brave enough to say yes. And I promise the version of you that's waiting on the other side of all of all this fear, she's not tired anymore.

She's not pretending anymore. She's not stuck anymore. She's free and she's proud of you already. Because even if you're scared, even if you don't feel ready, you're still here. Listening, thinking about changing. And that means something in you has already started to move.

So trust that. Trust yourself, and take the leap because staying the same is harder. And your new life is waiting for you. with love. Mafi besties. If you enjoyed today's episode, make sure to share with anyone that might need to listen.

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Long form
Published: 2025-03-05
Views: 144
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2JyzwLx-g_w
Runtime: 9 min 17 sec (1,510 words)

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to whoever this may impact sometimes our lives have to be completely shaken up changed and rearranged to relocate as what we're really meant to be sometimes change feels like loss transformation is scary and sometimes to discover the best versions of ourselves we must let go of absolutely everything that's holding us down welcome to I miss me your new safe space I'm excited to form a part of your healing Journey it's easy to get stuck in the idea that self-care means spat a and bubble baths and yes while those are amazing self-care goes so much deeper than that self-care means nurturing yourself mentally physically and spiritually let's start with your mental health in a world that's constantly pulling our attention in a million directions taking care of your mind as necessary practice mindfulness mindfulness is about being present in the moment whether it's through meditation journaling or simply taking a few deep breaths during a stressful day grounding yourself can make a huge difference set boundaries with your time and energy protecting your mental peace means saying no to things that drain you and yes to things that recharge you you don't have to be available all the time to everyone consume positivity be mindful of what you're feeding your mind books podcasts music social media ask yourself is this helping me grow or adding stress to my life curating what you consume is a form of of self-care seek support when you need it therapy coaching or even leaning to a friend can be life-changing taking care of your mental health doesn't mean doing it all alone remember taking care of your mind isn't a one-time thing it is a daily practice of being kind to yourself and protecting your peace now let's talk about your physical health your body is your home and taking care of it is an act of gratitude and love here are some ways to take care of yourself physically move your body movement doesn't have to mean intense workouts if it's not your thing it could be yoga dancing walking or even stretching in the morning find what feels good for you and stick with it fuel yourself well eating healthy isn't about restriction it is about giving your body the energy and nutrients it needs and don't forget to hydrate your body needs water rest rest is not not a luxury it is a necessity make sleep a priority and listen to your body when it needs to slow down if you're feeling tired give yourself permission to rest without guilt checking regularly pay attention to your body schedule routine checkups and take care of small issues before they become big ones your health is worth the investment taking care of your physical self is about finding balance and learning to listen to what your body needs whether that's movement nourishment or rest finally let's talk about spiritual self-care when I say spiritual I'm not necessarily talking about religion though that can be a part of it if it resonates with you spiritual self-care is about connection with something greater than yourself whatever that means to you here are some ways you can nurture your spirit spend time in nature there's something deeply about grinding yourself and being outside in nature whether it's a walk in the park sitting by the water or simply feeling the sun on your face Nature has a way of reconnecting us to ourselves practice gratitude gratitude is a simple yet powerful way to shift your perspective take a moment each day to reflect on what you're thankful for whether it's big or small create a ritual this could be lighting a candle and meditating saying affirmations in the morning or journaling before bed Rachels give you a moment to pause and connect with yourself explore your beliefs whether through prayer reading spiritual texts or just reflecting on your values take time to explore what gives your life meaning and purpose let go spiritual self-care often involves releasing what no longer serves you whether that's a grudge fear or old patterns Letting Go create space for something new taking care of your spirit isn't about perfection it is about finding moments that make you feel whole and connected selfcare is in selfish it is a foundation for living a balanced fulfilling life you are worthy of the time energy and love it takes to take care of yourself the better you care for yourself the more you can show up for the people and things that matter most to you let's talk about emotional self-care this is about taking the time to acknowledge and process your feelings rather than suppressing or ignoring them name your emotions whether you're feeling overwhelmed ask yourself what am I really feeling right now sometimes just naming the emotion whether it's anger sadness or anxiety can help you process it more effectively talk it out find a trusted friend therapist or even a journal to express your thoughts and feelings buttling everything up only makes it harder to deal with in the future allow yourself to cry crying isn't a sign of weakness it is a release let yourself cry when you need to practice compassion when you're struggling treat yourself with the same kindness you'd offer to a friend replace self-criticism with self- encouragement taking care of your emotional self doesn't mean avoiding difficult feelings but it means creating a safe space to feel process and move through them a big part of taking care of yourself is also social self-care humans are social beings and our relationships play a huge role in our happiness and well-being not all social interactions are created equal social self-care is about nurturing relationships that energize and uplift you while setting boundaries with those that drain you quality over quantity focus on building deep meaningful connections rather than maintaining a large number of acquaintances say no one needed you don't have to attend every event or say yes to every request it is okay to prioritize your peace schedule connection time make time for the people who matter the most to you even a quick coffee or a phone call can make it big difference remember self-care in relationships isn't just about others but it is about showing up as your best authentic self and surround yourself with people who celebrate that version of you another huge part of self-care is mental self-care this is all about nurturing your mind challenging yourself and keeping your thoughts healthy and constructive here are some ways to take care of your mental well-being be mindful of how much information you consume daily whether it's the new news social media or work rated tasks give your mind time to rest and reset stimulate your brain read a book learn a new skill or take a curse in something that you're curious about keeping your mind engaged in positive ways can help you grow practice mindfulness techniques like meditation deep breathing or even a few minutes of silence can help clear mind clutter and bring you back to the present reframe negative thoughts when self-doubt or negativity Creeps in challenge those thoughts and ask yourself is this thought serving me replace it with something constructive take breaks productivity is great but your brain needs downtime to recharge give yourself permission to rest without guilt self-care isn't a one-time thing or something you do only when you're feeling overwhelmed it is a daily practice a lifelong commitment to honoring yourself you won't always get it perfect some days self care might look like a long bath in meditation other days it might just be drinking enough water and getting out of bed and both are okay the beauty of self-care is that it's flexible it evolves with you as your needs change the key is to keep checking in with yourself asking what do I need right now and giving yourself permission to honor the answer taking care of yourself is the most profound Act of love you can offer it is not about being selfish but it is about making sure that you're whole enough to give the world and the people around you whether it's your body mind heart or Spirit take time this week to nurture yourself you are worthy of the time energy and love it takes to take care of yourself with love ma besties if you enjoyed today's episode make sure to share with anyone that might need to listen don't forget that we have a membership where as soon as you sign up you will receive an I miss me hoodie plus you have access to an exclusive episode every single month princi activities meditations monthly challenges PDF guides and behind the- scenes content don't forget to follow I missme on social media I missme podcast on Instagram and Tik Tok And subscribe to I me's YouTube channel I Me podcast I will see you guys on our next episode

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Long form
Published: 2025-06-05
Views: 143
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U5IYgRpNWq0
Runtime: 8 min 25 sec (1,409 words)

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to whoever this may impact. Sometimes our lives have to be completely shaken up, changed, and rearranged to relocate us where we're really meant to be. Sometimes change feels like loss. Transformation is scary. And sometimes to discover the best versions of ourselves, we must let go of absolutely everything that's holding us down.

Welcome to I missed me, your new safe space. I'm excited to form a part of your healing journey. The let them theory. It is rooted in the idea of letting go of control of others actions and choices. And instead of trying to micromanage or influence what people do, you simply just let them.

They didn't text back, let them. They don't see your value, let them. They choose a path you wouldn't have chosen, let them. This isn't about apathy or giving up, but it is about freeing yourself from unnecessary stress and focusing on what you can control, which are your own actions and reactions.

We're wired to care about how others behave, especially in relationship. Humans are social creatures, and our brains are hardwired for a connection. When someone acts in a way that feels dismissive, hurtful, or unpredictable, our brain's amygdala, our emotion alarm system, lights up, it perceives this as a threat, and it can trigger stress, anxiety, or even attempts to control the situation to feel safe again.

Psychologically, they're socially illusion of control. People feel less anxious when they believe they have influence over outcomes, even when that control is minimal or non-existent. Trying to control others is often a coping mechanism to manage our own discomfort.

The more we try to control external factors, the more we exhaust ourselves. When you consciously decide to let go, you activate the prefrontal cortex, the rational decision-making part of your brain. The shift helps deactivate the overreactive amygdala, calming your stress response.

Repeating the mantra, let them engages the brain default mode network, which fosters self-reflection and emotional regulation. Letting go also triggers the release of dopamine. When you realize you freed yourself from unnecessary drama, a feel-good neurotransmitter is activated.

When we stop clinging to outcomes, we become more adaptable and resilient. The let them theory aligns with the concept of detachment. Not to be confused with indifference. Detachment is a healthy boundary that allows you to care for others without overidentifying with their choices.

When you let go of control, you gain control. And by releasing our grip to the uncontrollable, we reclaim our peace of mind. Letting go also aligns with the principle of radical acceptance. Radical acceptance teaches us to acknowledge reality as it is rather than as we wish it was.

Recognize what's outside of your control. Ask yourself, is this within my sphere of influence? And if not, remind yourself to let them. Practice a pause. When you feel the urge to intervene or control, take a deep breath and count to 10.

This interrupts your reactive pattern. Focus on your own values. Instead of worrying about how others act, focus on living in alignment with your own values. Build mindfulness habits. Meditation or journaling can help you reinforce the habit of letting go.

Write down situations where you've practiced letting go and reflect on the outcomes. Affirm your choice to release. Repeat affirmations like, "I choose peace over control." Or simply, "Let them." The beauty of the let them theory is that it frees you to live a life centered around your own well-being.

Releasing control, lowers cortisol levels, reducing stress. Detachment doesn't mean disconnection and it doesn't mean that you don't care about anything, but it means healthier relationship with both yourself and others. When you let people be who they are, you give them and yourself the gift of authenticity.

Letting go isn't about weakness, but it is about making a powerful choice. When you hold on tightly to know how others should behave or how situations should unfold, we hand over our power. But by consciously choosing to let go, we reclaim it.

Think of it as emotional iikido, a martial art where you redirect your energy instead of resisting it. By stepping back, you're not just avoiding conflict, but you're conserving your energy for things that truly matter. Imagine someone takes credit for your idea at work.

Your instinct might be to correct them in the moment, maybe even confront them. But what if you just let them? Instead of reacting, you focus on documenting your contributions for later. You're not ignoring the situation. You're choosing how and when to respond.

Letting them doesn't mean you're passive or indifferent. And it's not about being a doormat or letting people walk all over you, but instead it is about understanding where your energy is best spent. Some people mean that letting go means cutting ties with everyone who challenges you.

But that's not true. Letting go isn't about avoidance. It is about creating space for healthier dynamics. Sometimes letting them means staying in the relationship and shifting your perspective. Letting them doesn't mean giving up on your goals.

If you're working towards a promotion and a coworker keeps underestimating you, you don't give up on your aspirations. You let them do their thing while you're focusing on showcasing your strengths. Letting them isn't always a natural instinct.

If you're someone who has spent years trying to control outcomes, shifting to a let them mindset might feel unnatural. Habits are formed in the brain through something called the habit loop, which consists of a cue, a routine, and a reward. If your habitual response to a perceived slight is to try to fix or control the situation, your brain has wired that behavior into your routine.

To break the cycle, try this. Identify the cue. Pay attention to what triggers your need to control. Is it fear of rejection? Anxiety of failure? Reframe the routine. Instead of reacting impulsively, practice a pause and remind yourself to let them.

Focus on the reward. Celebrate the peace and clarity that comes with letting go. Over time, your brain will start to associate letting go with positive outcome. It takes about 66 days to form a new habit. Imagine what 2 months of practicing the let them theory could do to your mental health.

The let them theory is what helps cultivate emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence is your ability to understand and manage your own emotions while also empathizing with others. By letting go of control, you're practicing two key components.

Self-regulation because instead of reacting impulsively, you pause and choose your response and empathy because you're letting others make their own decisions and it allows you to see things from their perspective even if you don't agree with them. People with high emotional intelligence are better at maintaining relationships, resolving conflicts, and managing stress. By practicing the let them theory, you're not just improving your mental health.

You're becoming a better communicator and problem solver. What's fascinating about the let them theory is that it doesn't change you, it changes the dynamics around you. When you stop trying to control others, you remove the tension from the relationship.

People feel less pressured and more authentic in your presence. And ironically, this often leads to better outcomes. Think of it like a ripple in a punt. Your decision to let go creates waves of calm, influencing how others respond to you.

The workplace becomes less stressful. Family gatherings feel lighter and even strangers on the road seem less irritating. The let them theory is a practice, not a one-time fix. And it is about shifting your mindset one choice at a time by letting go of what you can't control.

You create space for freedom, peace, and unexpected possibilities. Remember, you can't control the waves, but you can learn how to navigate in them. With love, mafies, if you enjoyed today's episode, make sure to share with anyone that might need to listen.

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Long form
Published: 2025-10-15
Views: 140
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1yiCjyx-3XI
Runtime: 9 min 29 sec (1,838 words)

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to whoever this may impact. Sometimes our lives have to be completely shaken up, changed, and rearranged to relocate us where we're really meant to be. Sometimes change feels like loss. Transformation is scary. And sometimes to discover the best versions of ourselves, we must let go of absolutely everything that's holding us down.

Welcome to I Missed Me, your new safe space. I'm excited to form a part of your healing journey. Let's talk about what it feels like to hit rock bottom. It's different for everyone, but that feeling of being completely stuck, like the world is pressing down on you, is universal.

Maybe it's a personal crisis, a breakup, a death, a failure that hits harder than anything else. Or maybe it's subtle, like a slow burn of burnout, depression, or just the exhaustion of carrying the weight of too much for too long. At rock bottom, it can feel like there's no way out.

You might even feel like giving up is the only option. I know, I've been there. You're looking at a wall so high it feels impossible to climb. Bestie, it is okay to feel stuck. It is okay to feel lost. But it is also important to understand that this is a face, not the end of the road.

The thing about rock bottom is that it's only called like that because it is the lowest point. So you can only go up from here. As much as it feels like rock bottom is a place of despair, it's actually one of the most powerful positions to be in.

Because it is when you are your lowest, you have no choice but to look up. Think about the roots of a tree. The tree might be tall and strong, but its roots, those deep unseen parts of the tree, are often planted in the darkest, most fertile ground.

It's the soil that nourishes the roots and that allows the tree to grow tall. Without that deep foundation, the tree would never rise. And when we hit rock bottom, we are in a similar position. We are in the perfect place to dig deep, reconnect with our roots, our values, our goals, and our why, and rebuild ourselves.

It's not about avoiding the fall. It is about how we rise after it. Rock bottom isn't just a low point. It is an opportunity to come back stronger. Take a moment to think about some of the most inspiring people you know. Many of them have been through some kind of rock bottom.

It's often in those times of struggle that we learn who we really are, what we really want, and what we're truly capable of. However, your perspective is everything. When we're at rock bottom, it is easy to see it as prison, a place of defeat.

But what if we choose to see it as a launchpad? What if instead of thinking I failed, you thought I've been given a new opportunity? It's all about shifting the lens through which we can view our struggles. One of the most profound lessons I've learned is that setbacks don't define us.

What defines us is how we choose to respond. We will stay stuck in the misery. Or will we use it as fuel to rise up? I know it sounds like a big leap and in some moments it may feel impossible, but even the smallest shifts in how we view our challenges can make a massive difference.

What can you learn from your struggle? What's one thing that you can do today and right now to move forward, even if it's just a tiny step? Acknowledge where you are. It is okay to be honest about where you are right now. You don't have to sugarcoat it or pretend everything is fine.

In fact, the more honest you are with yourself, the better. You can't change what you can't admit. Seek support. No one does it alone. It's hard to see the way forward when you're stuck in your own head. Talk to someone, whether it's a friend, a mentor, or a therapist.

Getting an outside perspective can help you find new ways of thinking and unlock possibilities you might not seen before. Focus on small wins. Don't look for a giant leap, but instead focus on small incremental steps. Maybe it's getting out of your bed at a certain time.

Maybe it's writing down one thing that you're grateful for, but small wins add up. And with each victory, you built momentum. Keep moving forward, even when it's hard. The key to getting out of rock bottom isn't to wait for the perfect moment.

It's just to keep going, even when you don't feel like it. You don't have to know exactly where you're going, but you do need to keep moving. Every step forward, no matter how small, is progress. If you're sitting in a place where everything feels dark, remember rock bottom is only a place you stop for a moment.

It's not your final destination. The fact that you're listening to this podcast means you're already looking for a way out. And right there is a sign that you've got what it takes to rise. I think the most dangerous thing about rock bottom is how it can make us feel isolated, like we're the only ones facing such hardship.

But let me remind you, you're never truly alone. might seem like the world is crumbling, but sometimes that's the exact moment when you're the brink of transformation. When I think about my own experiences of hitting rock bottom, I realize that they weren't just moments of despair.

They were moments of clarity. They forced me to stop pretending everything was okay and take a hard look at what I needed to change. It wasn't easy, but it was necessary. Rock bottom can act like a mirror showing you who you really are when you take away all the distractions and external pressures.

And if you're feeling like you've reached your lowest point, it's important to remember you're not stuck there. You might be at the lowest point, but that doesn't mean it's the end. This moment is an invitation for something new.

And while it may feel like everything is falling apart, it's actually a space that offers great potential for growth. Think about the nature of how diamonds are made. They form under intense pressure over time deep within the earth, hidden from view.

And that pressure can either crush something or shape it into something beautiful. Rock bottom is a lot like that pressure. It can either define you in a way that's limiting or it can force you into something stronger, something more resilient.

And the key here is how you respond to it. When you hit the floor, there's a decision to make. Stay down or rise again. Rock bottom doesn't just break you down. It also clears away what's not serving you, giving you the space to build something new.

It is so easy to fall into the trap of seeing this time of your life as a punishment or a failure. What if we saw it as a gift instead? What if we view it at rock bottom not as a dead end, but as the moment when everything can shift for the better?

I want you to ask yourself, what if the struggle is happening for me and not to me? What if the challenges you're facing right now are giving you the chance to level up in ways that you've never imagined? I may not seem like it now, but sometimes the most painful experiences lead to the greatest transformations.

Think about the process of a caterpillar turning into a butterfly. The caterpillar goes into a cocoon, isolated and seemingly broken down before it emerges as something completely different, a butterfly. In a sense, rock bottom is like the cocoon.

It's uncomfortable, but it's necessary for your growth and transformation. Perspective is a skill. It's not just always easy to shift from a place of hopelessness to a mindset of possibility. But by asking yourself empowering questions and seeking out a different viewpoint, you can begin to shift your mindset little by little.

Every change and how you view your struggle is a step forward. It's important to acknowledge the reality of your situation. Denying it or pretending it doesn't exist will only keep you stuck. Take a moment to fully accept where you are, no matter how uncomfortable it feels.

Acknowledging where you are doesn't mean resigning yourself to it. It means acknowledging the start point for change. When we're in the middle of hardship, it's hard to see the way out. That's why it's essential to get clear on what you want to achieve, even if it's just a small step forward.

Maybe it's starting a new hobby, looking for a new job, or simply setting up for a morning routine to build momentum. The clearer you are about your goals, the more focused your efforts will be. Surround yourself with people who encourage you.

Believe in your potential and can help you see the light when things feel dark. Sometimes a fresh perspective from a trusted friend can be just what you need to spark change. The road to recovery or reinvention is not a sprint, it's a marathon.

But you don't have to take huge leaps to make progress. Focus on taking small, consistent actions every day. Maybe it's reaching out to someone. Maybe it's reading a chapter of a self-help book or journaling for 10 minutes about your feelings.

Even small steps is a victory and bring you closer to climbing up. One of the hardest parts of hitting rock bottom is the impatience we feel. We want to fix everything right away. But change takes time and it's essential to be patient with yourself as a rebuild.

Treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding that you give to a friend in the same situation. The road to recovery isn't linear. And that's okay. If you're in that deep, dark place right now. Remember, it's not permanent.

Rock bottom is just a phase. It's the launch pad to the end. You've survived 100% of your worst days so far, and you'll continue to rise up. From here, you can only go up with love. Mapping besties. If you enjoyed today's episode, make sure to share with anyone that might need to listen.

Don't forget that we have a membership where as soon as you sign up, you will receive an I miss hoodie. Plus, you have access to an exclusive episode every single month. Printable activities, meditations, monthly challenges, PDF guides, and behindthe-scenes content.

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Long form
Published: 2025-08-15
Views: 131
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uoaebbJW8KM
Runtime: 7 min 6 sec (1,255 words)

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to whoever this may impact. Sometimes our lives have to be completely shaken up, changed, and rearranged to relocate us where we're really meant to be. Sometimes change feels like loss. Transformation is scary. And sometimes to discover the best versions of ourselves, we must let go of absolutely everything that's holding us down.

Welcome to I missed me, your new safe space. I'm excited to form a part of your healing journey. Some of us have this invisible checklist. Graduation by this age, a stable career by that age, married, kids, house, the work. But whose checklist is that really?

Society, your parents, Instagram influencers. The truth is that life is in a race. And yet, we've conditioned to think that everything is. Comparing ourselves to others creates this false urgency. Like we're laid to a destination that doesn't even exist.

And here's the thing, you're not behind because your journey is yours. Who decided there's a universal timeline for success? Some people find their dream career at 22, while others discover their passion at 50. Neither is better.

They're just different. The world is full of stories that prove that success and fulfillment don't have an expiration date. Your timeline is as unique as your fingerprint. Instead of chasing someone else's version of success, ask yourself, "What does fulfillment look like for me?" You might be surprised how much lighter you feel when you let go of those external expectations.

Social media doesn't help. I know we scroll and see highlight reels of people getting promoted, engaged, buying homes, or starting families. And it is so easy to compare and think, "Why am I not there yet?" But here's a little secret.

They're probably looking at someone else's posts and feeling the same way. Comparison is like trying to measure the ocean with a spoon. It's pointless and exhausting. Instead, focus on your own growth and ask yourself, "Where was I a year ago, 5 years ago?" And chances are, you've come farther than you realize.

Celebrate that progress. Everything is happening exactly as it should. Even the delays and the moments that feel like failure, they're all a part of your path. Maybe you didn't get that job because there was a better one coming.

Maybe that relationship didn't work out because it wasn't meant for the person you're becoming. Trust that life has its own rhythm. Sometimes it feels slow. Sometimes it feels like you're standing still. But just because you can't see the progress doesn't mean it's not happening.

Seeds take time to grow. Focus on what's good right now. Gratitude shifts your mindset from lack to abundance. Take time to figure out what matters to you. Forget society script. Write your own. Unfollow accounts for people who make you feel less than.

Create your feed to inspire, not pressure you. Every step forward, no matter how small, is worth celebrating. Progress is progress. You're doing the best you can with what you have. Give yourself grace. You are not late. Your journey is valid.

Your pace is perfect, and your life is unfolding in its own divine timing. Trust it. You're exactly where you need to be to learn, grow, and become the person you're meant to be while trusting the timing of your life. It is important to live fully in the moment you're in.

Too often, we're so focused on what's next, what milestone we need to reach or what goal we're chasing. What we forget is the beauty of right now. Start noticing small joys in your day. The warm of your coffee, the sound of the rain, or even the way light hits you.

These little moments are not fillers. They're the building blocks of a meaningful life. Every day offers a chance to experience something beautiful. Even if it's something small, when you learn to value these moments, you stop feeling like you're waiting for life to begin.

It's already happening. Part of the reason we feel late is because we're clinging to expectations of where we thought we'd be or who we thought we'd become. But letting go of those expectations isn't about giving up. It is about making space for what's meant for you.

Think of it like carrying a heavy backpack full of things you no longer need, all regrets, outdated goals, and comparisons that weigh you down. When you take the time to unpack that load, you free yourself to move forward with clarity and lightness. This isn't a one-time thing.

It is an ongoing practice. Every now and then, check in with yourself and ask, "Why am I holding on to that no longer serves me?" Letting go isn't easy, but it's one of the most liberating gifts you can give to yourself. One of the biggest traps of feeling behind is equating your worth with your productivity.

We live in a world that glorifies busyness, where we're constantly told to hustle harder, do more, and achieve faster. Productivity isn't the same as purpose. Take a moment to ask yourself, am I chasing this goal because it fulfills me, or because I think I should.

Real purpose isn't about how much you accomplish, but it is about how aligned you feel with the life you're creating. Sometimes the most productive thing you can do for yourself is to pause, rest, reflect, and reconnect with what truly matters to you. Purpose doesn't have a deadline.

And fulfillment doesn't come from doing more. It comes from doing what feels meaningful. You are allowed to change your mind. Just because you started down one path doesn't mean you have to stay there forever. Sometimes feeling behind is a sign that you're on the wrong path.

Not because you're failing, but because your priorities and passions have shifted. Give yourself permission to pivot. Life is not a straight line. It is a series of twists, turns, and new beginnings. What you wanted 5 years ago might not align with who you are today.

And that is okay. Evolving is part of the journey. Instead of seeing a change in direction, a starting over, think of it as leveling up. Every single experience you've had so far has prepared you for the next one. Nothing is wasted.

Imagine you're walking down a beautiful path. There are people ahead of you and people behind you, but you're walking at the pace that feels right for you. You stop to take in the view. Appreciate the journey and enjoy the process.

This is your life, your timeline, your adventure. No one else's progress or milestones can take away from the beauty of what you're building. Trust your steps, even the slow ones. And know that every turn brings you closer to where you're meant to be.

Remember, life is not a race. It is a masterpiece in progress. Take your time and enjoy the art of becoming. With love, mafies, if you enjoyed today's episode, make sure to share with anyone that might need to listen. Don't forget that we have a membership where as soon as you sign up, you will receive an I missed me hoodie.

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Long form
Published: 2025-03-24
Views: 130
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ed0IpfjSqPw
Runtime: 8 min 34 sec (1,476 words)

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to whoever this may impact. Sometimes our lives have to be completely shaken up, changed, and rearranged to relocate us where we're really meant to be. Sometimes change feels like loss. Transformation is scary. And sometimes to discover the best versions of ourselves, we must let go of absolutely everything that's holding us down.

Welcome to I Miss Me, your new safe space. I'm excited to form a part of your healing journey. Rest isn't something that we should have to earn. It is a fundamental need and an act of self-care. In a world that glorifies busyness, rest is often misunderstood and it is seen as indulgent and unproductive.

You might hear phrases like, "I'll rest when I finish everything on my to-do list." Or, "I don't deserve to relax. I haven't done enough today." But the truth is that rest is as essential to your well-being as eating, drinking water, or breathing. Without enough rest, your body and mind cannot function properly.

Physiologically, rest allows your body to repair itself. Your muscles recover, your immune system strengths, and your brain processes the information you've taken in. Physiologically, rest gives your mind space to de-stress, to process emotions, and to reset.

What happens to your phone when you don't charge it? It slows down, the battery drains, and eventually it shuts off. The same goes for us. Rest is our recharge. Not optional, but vital. Self-care is about meeting your needs. It is about recognizing that you're human, not a machine.

Yet, so many of us push ourselves to the edge, only allowing rest when we're utterly exhausted or worse, when we've burned out. Self-care isn't about waiting for an emergency to take action. It is about prevention. Choosing to rest before we're exhausted is a radical act of self- loveve.

It is saying, "I am worth this time to recharge." It's giving yourself permission to exist without constantly performing, achieving, or doing. Rest can take many forms. Maybe it's a nap. Maybe it's taking days off. Maybe it's lying on the couch, staring at the window, or spending time in nature.

The key is to listen to your body and your mind. What do I need right now? Can you give yourself the gift of rest without feeling guilt? Rest is profoundly tied to healing physically, emotionally, and spiritually. When we're hurt, whether it's a sprained ankle or a broken heart, our natural instinct should be to slow down, to pause, and to give our bodies and minds time to heal.

Often we push through the pain, telling ourselves to keep going, or to stay strong. But rest doesn't make you weak, it makes you wise. And it is in that rest that we process our experiences, gain perspective, and find clarity.

It is in rest that our bodies repair and our minds renew. Healing is like planting a garden. You can't force the seeds to grow by working harder. You water them, you give them sunlight, and then you wait. Rest is that waiting.

It is allowing your body, mind, and spirit to do their natural work without interference. Here are a few ideas to embrace rest. Schedule rest. Add downtime to your calendar just like you would a meeting or an appointment. Protect it and keep it.

Redefine productivity. Shift your mindset to see rest as a productive act. Resting now means that you can show up more fully later. Set boundaries. Learn how to say no to things that drain your energy. And yes to activities or non-activities that replenish it.

Practice rest daily. Even small moments count. A 5-minute deep breathing exercise, a short walk, or simply closing your eyes for a moment can make a difference. Challenge guilt. When guilt creeps in, remind yourself that rest is not a reward.

You don't have to earn it. It is your right as a human being. Rest is not a luxury. It is not something to feel guilty about or something you need to earn. It is a need, a powerful healing and essential part of self-care. Give yourself permission to rest, whatever that looks like for you.

Make it a priority and not an afterthought. Your body, mind, and spirit will thank you. Your brain is more active when you rest than when you're busy. When we're in a resting state, a network of regions in the brain called the default mode network.

The DMN is responsible for some of our most vital cognitive processes like self-reflection, problem solving, and memory consolidation. It's during rest that your brain organizes thoughts, files away information, and even makes creative connections. In other words, rest isn't wasted time.

It is when your brain does some of the most important work. During deep sleep, your brain cleanup staff comes out. The glimpmphatic system clears away waste products, including beta amaloid, which has been linked to conditions like Alzheimer's disease.

Without adequate rest, the system doesn't function as efficiently, potentially leaving behind harmful buildup. When you rest, you're not just giving your body a break. You're giving your brain a chance to heal, process, and prepare you for what's next for you.

When we're constantly on our sympathetic nervous system, the part responsible for the fight orflight response is activated. Over time, this state of heightened alertness can wear us down emotionally and physically. Rest activates the parasympathetic nervous system, sometimes called the rest and digest system, which promotes relaxation, lowers heart rate, and reduces cortisol levels.

It is the calm after the storm, the balance our bodies need to recover from daily stressors. By making rest a regular part of your routine, you're giving your nervous system a chance to reset. This makes it easier to handle challenges with clarity and resilience rather than reacting from a place of exhaustion or overwhelm.

One of the most surprising things about rest is its connection to personal growth and change. Have you ever noticed that some of your best ideas or solutions come when you're not actively working on a problem? Maybe it's during a walk, a shower, or just laying in bed.

Rest provides the mental space needed for creativity and insight to grow. When your brain isn't busy, focusing on immediate tasks, it has the freedom to think more deeply and to make connections you might not have noticed otherwise. Psychologists call this incubation, a phase where stepping away from acting problem solving allows the subconscious mind to work behind the scenes.

Rest can be a powerful tool for fostering change in your life. If you're facing a tough decision or trying to break a pattern, consider stepping away. Rest doesn't mean you're giving up. Means you're giving your body and mind the room to find clarity and strength.

Mindfulness is a form of rest. Mindfulness doesn't mean sitting cross-legged in a silent room for hours. It is about being present even for a few moments and giving your mind a break from the constant noise. Sit or lay down in a comfortable position.

Close your eyes and take a deep breath and slowly bring your attention to different parts of your body. Starting at your toes and working your way up to the crown of your head, notice any tension or discomfort. Breathe into those areas.

This practice can help you tune into your body's needs and bring you into a state of restfulness, even if it's only for a few minutes. We live in a world that adequates busyness with worth. What if we started celebrating rest as much as we celebrate hard work?

Imagine a world where rest is encouraged, where breaks aren't seen as slacking off, but as essential for productivity. Imagine families teaching kids that resting is just as important as achieving. We can start this change by modeling it ourselves.

Normalize saying, "I need a break." Celebrate moments of stillness and remind those around you that rest isn't selfish. It is necessary. Rest isn't just about recovering from exhaustion. It is about creating space for healing, for growth, and for discovering what truly matters.

The next time you find yourself hesitating to rest, remember, you don't need to earn it. It is your need as a human being. With love, my faith, besties, if you enjoyed today's episode, make sure to share with anyone that might need to listen.

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Long form
Published: 2025-10-11
Views: 124
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5aBOP4NsLJw
Runtime: 8 min 6 sec (1,390 words)

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to whoever this may impact. Sometimes our lives have to be completely shaken up, changed, and rearranged to relocate us where we're really meant to be. Sometimes change feels like loss. Transformation [music] is scary. And sometimes to discover the best versions of ourselves, we must let [music] go of absolutely everything that's holding us down.

Welcome to I Missed Me, your new safe space. I'm [music] excited to form a part of your healing journey. Have you ever felt stuck? Maybe like you're in a routine that is just not working anymore or you're holding on to things, people [music] or even beliefs that are weighing you down.

In order to grow, we have to outgrow certain aspects of our life first. Growth isn't always about doing more. Sometimes it's about doing less or even releasing what's no longer serving us. Imagine a plant. It starts as a tiny seed.

It grows by absorbing sunlight, water, and nutrients. But at [music] some point that plant might need a longer pot or even a completely different environment to reach its full potential. The same goes for us in life. We grow by constantly evolving.

But [music] sometimes that means we need to shed the things that no longer fit. Why is it so hard to let go? What holds us back from outgrowing our old habits, relationships, or even mindsets? Change is uncomfortable. We are creatures of habit.

and stepping into something new, [music] whether it's a new job, a new relationship, or a new way of thinking, requires us to face uncertainty. However, [music] it's through this discomfort that true growth happens. Every time that you've outgrown something in your [music] life, whether it was a friendship that became toxic, a job that no longer aligned with your values, or even a mindset that held you back from achieving your goals, you made space for something better, and you grew.

Let's break this down into three key areas where you need to start outgrowing to grow. Habits, relationships, and mindsets. The habits that we form can either propel us forward or keep us stuck. Maybe you have a habit of procrastination or you hold on to unhealthy coping mechanisms like excessive eating or avoiding confrontation.

These habits won't serve their purpose. Maybe they helped you to cope or get by during a rough time. But now they might be holding you back. Outgrowing these habits requires intentional effort. It means replacing old patterns with healthier ones that align with your growth goals.

This could be something as simple as establishing a morning routine that energizes you or as profound as choosing to let go of perfectionism and embracing progress [music] instead. It's about realizing that growth requires new action, not just new thoughts. Relationships.

Have you ever had a friend or acquaintance who over time you realized wasn't supporting your best self? Maybe you were in a toxic friendship or a relationship that drained your energy. It can be incredibly hard to let go of relationships, especially if they've been part of your life for a long time.

But remember, relationships should uplift you, not hold you back. Sometimes the people we outgrow are unnecessarily bad people. They just might be at a different stage of their journey than we are. Or maybe their energy no longer aligns with who they were becoming.

And that's okay. It's a sign of growth. You're not abandoning them. You're simply making room for relationships that nurture your evolving self. Mindsets. One of the most powerful ways we outgrow to grow is by shifting our mindset.

If you've ever held a belief that no longer serves you, [music] you know how heavy it can feel. Maybe you believed that you weren't good enough or that success was for other people but not for you. Letting go of these limiting beliefs is the key to unlocking your full potential.

Outgrowing these mindsets require self-awareness [music] and courage. It means challenging your thoughts, questioning the narratives you've been told and reprogramming your thinking to be more empowering. Instead of thinking, "I can't do this," you might start thinking, "How can we make this work?" It's about replacing self-doubt with self-belief and moving from fixed thinking to growth oriented thinking.

Take some time to reflect on what you might be holding on to that's no longer serving you. Journal about your habits, relationships, and [music] mindsets. What feels draining or limiting? What do you think you might need to release in order to grow?

This is the first step in making room for transformation. Once you've identified areas for growth, set clear intentions. Whether it's a new habit you want to develop, a relationship you want to nurture, or a mindset that you want to shift, make it concrete, write it down, share with a trusted friend, or make it a part of your daily affirmations.

Growth is never just about thinking, it's about doing. Start small. Replace one old habit with a healthier one. Have a difficult conversation with someone [music] or practice a new mindset for a week. Growth happens through action, not just intention.

Outgrowing isn't a linear process. You might stumble or have setbacks, and that's okay. Be patient with yourself and recognize that growth is a journey, not a destination. Embrace the discomfort, knowing that it's a part of your transformation.

In order to grow, sometimes we need to outgrow. Let go of what's no longer serving you and make space for the life and opportunities that you're waiting to unfold. Growth is uncomfortable, but it's also beautiful. And once you've outgrown the things that held you back, you'll find that you're more capable, more aligned, and more powerful than you've ever imagined.

Before we can grow, we often need to outgrow. Whether it's old habits, limiting beliefs, toxic relationships, or even outdated goals, in order to truly thrive, we sometimes need to let go of what no longer aligns with who we are becoming. We often think of growth as a process of adding more, more knowledge, more skills, more responsibilities.

But growth also involves subtraction. Think about how plants grow. Sometimes it needs to be pruned to flourish or it needs more space in a larger pot. In the same way, we too need to let go of what restricting us to make room for new possibilities.

Letting go or out growing can be uncomfortable, but it's essential for growth. And once we do it, we [music] create space for something more expansive and fulfilling to emerge. Start by observing your thoughts, habits, and relationships.

What areas of your life feel stagnant or limiting? Reflect on what you might need to outrow. Awareness is the first step towards meaningful change. Once you've identified what you need to outgrow, set goals to guide your growth.

Whether it's replacing a habit or changing your mindset, break your goals into small, manageable steps that you can build on each day. Sometimes outgrowing things also means outgrowing isolation. Find a community or support system that encourages your growth.

Share your goals with trusted friends or mentors who can help you stay on track and provide guidance when needed. Growth is a journey. You'll experience setbacks, doubts, and discomfort along the way. Be patient with yourself.

[music] Celebrate small wins and trust that every step, even the missteps, are part of the process. Outgrowing to grow is not just a concept. It's a mindset and a way of living. It's about recognizing that to evolve into our best selves, we sometimes need to release what no longer fits.

By consciously outgrowing habits, relationships, and limiting beliefs, we create space for something greater. We love Mafies. If you enjoyed today's episode, make sure to share with anyone that might need to listen. Don't forget that we have a membership where as soon as you sign up, you will receive an I missed me hoodie.

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Long form
Published: 2025-07-21
Views: 122
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=knpFbsbwayQ
Runtime: 11 min 14 sec (1,925 words)

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to whoever this may impact. Sometimes our lives have to be completely shaken up, changed, and rearranged to relocate us where we're really meant to be. Sometimes change feels like loss. Transformation is scary. And sometimes to discover the best versions of ourselves, we must let go of absolutely everything that's holding us down.

Welcome to I Missed Me, your new safe space. I'm excited to form a part of your healing journey. Society often teaches us to put others first from an early age, we're told to be selfless, to care deeply about relationships and to go above and beyond for others.

And while those values can create connection, they can also backfire. What happens when you give so much to others that there's nothing left to yourself? Maybe you say yes to everything, even where your body screams no. Maybe you sacrifice your dreams, hobbies, or values to keep the peace.

And maybe you silence your voice because you're scared of conflict or rejection. Every time you betray yourself or someone else, you look away from the person you're meant to be. Our brains are fascinating. When you put others first at the expense of yourself, you're triggering patterns in your brain's reward system.

If your brain associates self-sacrifice with reward for too long, it can rewire itself to prioritize external validation over internal peace. This is why it becomes so hard to prioritize yourself. You're literally fighting against your brain's programming.

The good news is you can rewire it. Neuroplasticity is the brain's ability to change and it allows you to build new patterns. By consistently choosing yourself, you create neural pathways that reinforce selfworth and inner strength.

You're biologically wired to seek connection. It is a survival mechanism. When we fear losing someone, our brain's fight orflight center goes into overdrive. It perceives the potential loss as a threat, even if it's just a disagreement or a distance.

Ironically, we often overlook the quiet, steady erosion of our sense of self. It's less dynamic, so it doesn't trigger that same fight orflight response. Yet, over time, losing yourself has greater consequences. If you lose yourself, who will take care of you?

Who will advocate for your needs? No one can fill that role except for you. Put yourself on a pedestal and think of yourself as the foundation of your life. If the foundation crumbles, everything built on top of it collapses.

This doesn't mean you stop caring for others. But it means you care for yourself with the same energy and devotion you give to everyone else, if not more. Many of us lose ourselves because of wounds, childhood experiences, build relationships, social pressures, and healing those wounds is essential to reclaim your sense of self.

Journaling is a powerful tool for this. Write about situations where you've prioritized others at your expense. What fears were driving those decisions? Boundaries are your way of saying, "This is where I end, and this is where you begin." They're not walls, they're fences, and they're fences with gates that you control.

What activities make you feel alive? Maybe it's painting, hiking, or simply reading a good book. We introduce those to your life as acts of self-love. Healing doesn't have to be a solo journey. Therapists, support groups, or even trusted friends can help you navigate this process.

Fear is a powerful emotion, but it's also moldable. If you spent your life fearing the loss of others, you can redirect that energy. Instead of asking, "What will happen if I lose them?" Ask yourself, "What will happen if I lose myself in the process?

Who will I be if I no longer recognize my own values, dreams, and boundaries?" When you redirect your fear, it becomes a compass pointing back to your true self. When you prioritize yourself, you activate the brain's parts responsible for self-reflection and inner alignment. By making time for yourself, you're literally reshaping your brain for a more grounded, authentic life.

Losing yourself is the ultimate loss. But it is preventable. By prioritizing your own well-being, values, and joy, you ensure that you'll never lose the most important relationship you'll ever have, the one with yourself. Being more scared of losing yourself isn't about fear, but it is about empowerment.

It is a commitment to honor the incredible unique person you are. One of the main reasons we lose ourselves is because we stop trusting our own instincts. We defer to others for validation, advice, or approval. Because somewhere along the lines, we were taught that our own judgment isn't enough.

We building selfrust is crucial to staying connected to yourself. Honor small commitments to yourself. If you tell yourself you'll wake up early to meditate or take a walk, follow through. Every small promise you keep reinforces the belief that you can rely on yourself.

Listen to your intuition. Your gut instincts aren't random. They're the Vegas nerve which connects to your brain and gut and they play a role in sending signals that guide decision-m. Pay attention to that gut. Forgive your past mistakes.

Losing yourself often comes with regrets. moments where you compromised your values or stayed silent when you should have spoken up. Selfrust grows when you forgive yourself for those moments and commit to doing better moving forward.

Trusting yourself is the anchor that keeps you steady in the storm of life. One of the reasons losing yourself feels so insidious is because it often happens gradually. It's not like flipping a switch. It's more like a slow dimming of your inner light.

Maybe it started with small compromises like saying yes to something you didn't want to do. But then over time you started second guessing your choices. Eventually you might not even recognize your own wants, needs, or values.

This low erosion of self is why it's so important to check in with yourself regularly. Journaling, meditating, or even having a heart-to-he heart with yourself can help you identify where you've been slipping. Awareness is the first step to reclaiming what's been lost.

When you prioritize yourself, the people around you benefit, too. Think of yourself as a beacon of light. When your light is bright, it illuminates everything around you. But if you let it dim by neglecting yourself, not only do you suffer, but those who depend on you lose the light as well.

In relationships, prioritizing yourself sets a standard for how you deserve to be treated. It inspires other to respect your boundaries. At work, when you advocate for your needs, whether it's time off or a workload adjustment, you set an example of self-care.

One common fear that keeps us from putting ourselves first is the fear of being too much. We worry that if we advocate for ourselves, others will think we're selfish, demanding, or difficult. But who defines what too much is?

Why should their definition matter more than your wellbeing? The truth is, people who genuinely care about you will respect your needs. and those who don't, they will likely be benefiting from your lack of boundaries. By refusing to dim yourself to make others comfortable, you attract people and opportunities that align with your true self.

You give others permission to do the same for themselves. We've been conditioned to think that prioritizing ourselves is selfish. But what if we refrain it as love? Imagine someone you deeply care about, a best friend, a sibling, a partner.

If they were exhausted, depleting, or feeling lost, wouldn't you encourage them to take a step back and care for themselves? Would you see that as selfish or as necessary? Loving yourself enough to prioritize your needs isn't selfish.

It is an essential act of care that allows you to show up for others in a healthier, more meaningful way. Have you ever noticed how much lighter it feels when you're in alignment with yourself? Alignment is when your thoughts, actions, and values all move in the same direction.

When you're out of alignment, when you're constantly compromising yourself, you feel drained. But when you're in alignment, your brain functions more efficiently, your decisions feels clear, your energy level rises, and you experience a deep sense of flow. Getting into alignment starts with asking yourself one powerful question.

Does this feel true to me? And if the answer is no, it is time curse to correct. Selfrust requires active participation in your own life. It's about being present in your choices rather than operating on autopilot. Imagine your relationship with yourself as a partnership.

One that thrives on communication, respect, and mutual understanding. To strengthen this bond, prioritize curiosity over judgment when reflecting on your decisions. Notice how your body reacts to different situations. Your physical and emotional responses often provide clues about what feels right or wrong, even when your mind struggles to articulate it.

These cues, like the sensation of tension in your chest or the ease of a deep breath, are markers of alignment or its absence. Living authentically is an ongoing practice of honoring your individuality, and it is less about perfection and more about integrity. Making choices that reflect who you are, even when they defy expectations.

Authenticity may sometimes feel uncomfortable, especially in environments where feeling comfortable is the norm, but it's also liberating. Boundaries are a powerful tool in maintaining this authenticity. Think of them as a guard rails that protect your mental and emotional space.

Setting clear boundaries doesn't just keep out negativity. It also creates room for the things that truly matter to you. Redefining your relationship with self-care is equally essential. Self-care isn't always indulgent or glamorous.

It is often found in the quiet discipline of showing up for yourself. It is saying no when it's easier to say yes, asking for help when you need it, and creating space for rest even with the world demands constant productivity. A key part of self-relamation is rediscovering joy.

Not as a fleeting emotion, but as a state of being. Joy often emerges from the simplest experiences. Watching the sunrise, laughing uncontrollably with a friend, or immersing yourself in a passion project. These moments, even though they're small, weave a thread of vitality through your life.

When you embrace your full spectrum, your strengths, flaws, dreams, and fears, you step into your power. This process of coming home to yourself transform not just how you live, but how you look, work, and connect with the world around you. In choosing authenticity, you give yourself permission to truly be.

And that's a gift no one else can have. Losing yourself can feel like the scariest thing in the world, but it's also a wakeup call, a reminder to come home to yourself. By prioritizing your needs, values, and well-being, you not only create a life that feels authentic and fulfilling, but you also inspire those around you to do the same with love.

Mafies, if you enjoyed today's episode, make sure to share with anyone that might need to listen. Don't forget that we have a membership where as soon as you sign up, you will receive an I miss hoodie. Plus, you have access to an exclusive episode every single month.

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Long form
Published: 2025-03-17
Views: 122
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LizG3ffSsNk
Runtime: 7 min 41 sec (1,300 words)

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to whoever this may impact sometimes our lives have to be completely shaken up changed and rearranged to relocate as what we're really meant to be sometimes change feels like loss transformation is scary and sometimes to discover the best versions of ourselves we must let go of absolutely everything that's holding us down welcome to I miss me your new safe space I'm excited to form a part of your healing Journey when we hear the word glow up we might think about beauty however a True Glow up includes your mental physical and spiritual well-being it is about feeling confident healthy and in tune with yourself let's start with the foundation of any Globe your mindset when your mind is in the right place everything falls into alignment practice gratitude start a gratitude Journal write down three things you're grateful for every single morning and it can shift your focus from what's wrong to what's right in your life set goals and intentions glow up don't happen by accident write down your goals both big and small and take actionable steps towards them break them into daily or weekly tasks so that they feel manageable positive affirmations speak kindly to yourself say things like I am capable where I deserve happiness and success the way you talk to yourself matters go to therapy or self-reflection talking to a therapist or journaling can help you unpack any mental blocks sometimes a mental glow up is the simplest letting go of past B package let's talk about the physical side of growing up this is a fun part because you get to see tangible results find a workout that you actually enjoy whether it's yoga weightlifting running or even dancing staying active not only allows you to improve your physique but also boost your endorphins aim for consistency over intensity even 20 minutes a day can make a difference change up your diet go up Start From the Inside Out add more Whole Foods to your diet think fruits vegetables proteins healthy fats stay hydrated drinking enough water can transform your skin and energy levels skincare upgrade a great skincare routine is a must identify your skin type and choose products that match it glowing skin isn't just about makeup it starts with a good skin care update your makeup routine invest in quality products that in haaz rather than mask your natural features for the soul a spiritual Globe is all about feeling connected to yourself and to the world around you meditation and mindfulness are important take a few minutes each day to sit in silence or listen to a guided meditation connect with nature go for a walk in the park or spend time by the ocean Nature has this incredible way of grounding us and providing Clarity practice kindness and forgiveness let go of grudges forgiveness is for you not for the other person and doing small acts of kindness can uplift your spirit in ways you didn't know was possible explore your beliefs whether through through prayer journaling or simply reflecting on your values take time to connect with your inner self and what you believe in the most important thing to remember is that a glow up is personal it's not about looking like someone else or following Trends it is about becoming the best version of yourself again glowing up isn't just about physical changes it is about a holistic transformation that includes mental emotional physical and even spiritual growth it's about evolving into the best version of of yourself whatever that looks like for you your brain is wired for growth thanks to something called neuroplasticity our brains can recognize and form new neural Pathways in response to our thoughts behaviors and experiences in simple terms your brain can change and that means you can change too when you start noticing patterns and become aware of negative Habits Like negative selft talk or limiting beliefs you're taking the step towards rewiring your brain this is where tools like therapy or journaling come in by exploring your thoughts and feelings you create space for change think of it as declaring your mental space letting go of old stories like I'm not good enough where I can't change and make room for new empowering ones a mental glow up Starts Here recognizing your potential and taking small intentional steps to unlock it when you exercise your body releases endorphins those feelg good hormones that reduce stress and increase happiness regular physical activity stimulates the production of brain derived neurotropic factor which helps with memory and focus your workout isn't just helping you look good it's literally making your brain sharper your gut is sometimes called your second brain that's because it's home to millions of neurons and produces serotonin a key hormone for mood regulation eating Foods reach in omega-3 probiotics and antioxidants not only fuels your body but also support your mental health even small changes can create momentum maybe it's changing sugar drinks for water while adding more greens to your meals the goal isn't perfection it is progress the act of taking care of your skin isn't just about improving your appearance it is also a form of self soothing when you engage in a skincare routine you're stimulating your parasympathetic nervous system which helps your body relax this is why a good skincare ritual feels like a mini therapy session glowing skin isn't just about products sleep plays a huge role in how your skin repairs itself during deep sleep your body boosts blood flow to the skin and produces collagen so yes that phrase beauty sleep is backed by science a spiritual glow is just as important as the physical and mental aspects regular meditation can increase gray matter density in areas of the brain associated with memory empathy and stress regulation just 10 minutes a day can make a difference spending time in nature also has measurable benefits studies show that being outdoors can lower cortisol levels the stress hormone and improve your mood performing small acts of kindness like giving someone a genuine compliment or holding the door open triggers the release of oxytocin also known as the love hormone this lesson just make others feel good but it makes you feel good too glowing up is a process and change happens gradually and sometimes it's easy to overlook your progress track it maybe it's journaling about how you feel taking progress photos or keeping a gratitude log but seeing how far you've come can be incredibly motivating celebrate your wins big or small whether it's sticking to a habit for a week noticing your skin glowing or simply feeling more confident every single step counts a glow up isn't just about achieving Perfection it is about growth self-discovery and becoming more aligned with who you truly are as you go about your day or a week think about one small thing you can do to nurture your mental physical or spiritual glow maybe it's booking that therapy session trying a new workout or simply taking 10 minutes to sit in Stillness with glow up with love laughing besties if you enjoyed today's episode make sure to share with anyone that might need to listen don't forget that we have a membership where as soon as you sign up you will receive an I miss me hoodie plus you have access to an exclusive episode every single month principal activities meditations monthly challenges PDF guides and behind the scenes content don't forget to follow I miss me on social media I miss me podcast on Instagram and Tik Tok And subscribe to ib's YouTube channel I missb podcast I will see you guys on our next episode

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Long form
Published: 2025-07-18
Views: 119
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8yG9KaDEDS8
Runtime: 10 min 14 sec (1,720 words)

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to whoever this may impact. Sometimes our lives have to be completely shaken up, changed, and rearranged to relocate us where we're really meant to be. Sometimes change feels like loss. Transformation is scary. And sometimes to discover the best versions of ourselves, we must let go of absolutely everything that's holding us down.

Welcome to I Missed Me, your new safe space. I'm excited to form a part of your healing journey. Have you ever reached a moment in your life where things were calm, yet instead of enjoying them, you felt weird? You might have thought to yourself, this feels boring.

But what if it's not boredom? What if it's peace? And what if your brain conditioned by years of chaos or stress, doesn't know how to handle the calm? Let's start by exploring why peace, something we all claim to want, can feel so unsettling.

Our brains are highly adapted. And if you spent a significant part of your life in a chaotic environment, whether it's due to toxic relationships, high pressure work, or personal struggles, your brain has likely adapted to that state. The amygdala, which governs the fight orflight response, becomes overreactive when exposed to constant stress, and over time, it starts to receive chaos as normal.

The brain also releases chemicals like cortisol and adrenaline during the stress. These chemicals, even though they're harmful in excess, they can create a kind of stress high that feels familiar and ironically comforting. When you transition to a peaceful state, the absence of those stress hormones can feel empty.

Your brain might interpret calm as boredom because it's unfamiliar. It's not used to functioning without the constant buzz of stress. This discomfort with peace often stems from our past experiences. If you grow up in a chaotic household or live through turbulent times, your mind might associate calm with danger.

Chaos creates a sense of hypervigilance. Your brain learns to stay on high alert, scanning for threats. When things feel calm, your brain might feel like it's letting the guard down, which can actually feel more dangerous than staying on the edge.

In relationships, for example, people who have experienced unhealthy dynamics might find stable, peaceful relationships boring because they are missing the emotional highs and lows they've grown familiar to. Peace isn't boring. It is just unfamiliar.

And that unfamiliarity can be deeply uncomfortable until we rewire our brains and redefine what normal looks like. How do we teach our brains to embrace peace as a new normal? The good news is that our brains are incredibly adaptable.

So expose yourself to peace gradually. If chaos has been your baseline, jumping straight into a peaceful environment can feel overwhelming. Start small. Spend 5 to 10 minutes a day in silence or a calming activity like meditating or journaling.

Slowly increase the duration as your brain starts associating these moments with safety. Regulate your nervous system. Practices like deep breathing, yoga, and grounding exercises activate the parasympathetic nervous system, which is your rest and digest mode.

When your body feels safe, your brain starts to interpret peace as safe, too. Recognize the difference between boredom and calm and ask yourself, "Am I truly bored or is this just unfamiliar?" Over time, you learn to distinguish between these both. Celebrate the peaceful moments.

Dopamine, the brain's reward chemical, is released when associated to an experience with positivity. When you notice a peaceful moment, a walk in nature, a quiet morning, a deep conversation, acknowledge it, reflect on how it makes you feel. This creates positive reinforcement for your brain.

Healing means redefining what normal feels like. If chaos has been your norm, peace won't automatically feel like home. It will feel weird. The key is repetition. The more you expose yourself to peace, the more your brain and body will adapt.

Think of it like breaking in a new pair of shoes. At first, they might feel uncomfortable or strange, but with time, they mold to your feet, and peace works the same way. Therapy can also play a huge role here. Techniques like cognitive behavioral therapy can help you challenge beliefs like, "If things are calm, something bad is about to happen." Another helpful practice is visualization.

Before bed, imagine yourself in a peaceful environment. Over time, your brain starts to crave that state and associate with safety. Peace isn't just a break from chaos. It is a form of healing. When your brain and body operate in a calm state, cortisol levels drop, reducing inflammation and boosting in function.

Your prefrontal cortex, the rational part of your brain, becomes more active, improving decision making and emotional regulation. You experience more neurogenesis where the creation of new neurons which support learning and emotional resilience. Peace is where healing happens.

It is a space where your body and mind repair from the wear to tear of chaos. To truly embrace peace, you need to reframe how you see it. Peace is in the absence of excitement, but it is a presence of stability, clarity, and connection.

What would happen if you stopped chasing the highs and embraced the steady rhythm of calm? You'd have more energy. in more meaningful relationships. You'd think more clearly and make better decisions. And most importantly, you'd finally be free.

Put on some calming music and focus solemnly on the sound. Notice the details, the instruments, the tempo, the tone. This trains your brain to focus on peace. Write down three peaceful moments you've experienced each day. This reinforces the idea of peace and that it is valuable.

Design a small space in your home dedicated to peace. Spend time there daily and build your connection to peace. When you feel restless, ask yourself, "What am I craving?" And if the answer is chaos, take a moment to sit with that discomfort and remind yourself that peace is not boring.

It is healing. Remember that peace is a practice. It is not a one-time achievement. Some days it will feel natural. In other days, chaos might feel like the easier choice. But with patience and persistence, peaceful can become your default.

Healing takes time. But every moment you spend choosing peace over chaos is a step towards creating a life that feels lighter, freer, and truly yours. For many of us, chaos becomes a part of who we are. Maybe you've identified as a problem solver in your family.

The one who always steps in during crisis. When life becomes peaceful, you might feel like you're losing part of your identity. After all, if there's no chaos to fix or drama, who are you? This is where it's important to reflect on yourself and ask yourself, who am I without the chaos?

What do I want my life to stand for? Peace gives you the space to redefine yourself, not in reaction to external events, but from a place of inner alignment. Chaos can be biologically addictive. When you're in a chaotic situation, rushing to meet a deadline or navigating a heated argument, your brain releases dopamine to help you stay motivated and focused.

Over time, you might unconsciously start seeking out chaotic situations just to feel that rush. This is similar to how people develop habits around thrill, like extreme sports or gambling. Their brain craves stimulation, even if it's not healthy.

The challenge is to replace that chaotic dopamine hit with healthier sources of reward. Set and achieve small goals like completing a workout or learning a new skill. Celebrate peaceful accomplishments like enjoying a quiet evening or finishing a book.

By consciously shifting your focus, you can retrain your brain to find satisfaction and calm rather than chaos. Peace or the lack of it affects your relationships. If you've been conditioned by chaotic dynamics, you might unintentionally create or seek out drama in your interactions because it feels familiar.

For some, chaos might even be mistaken for passion or intensity. Peace doesn't mean a lack of connection. But in fact, peaceful relationships are often the most deeply fulfilling because they're built on trust, mutual respect, and emotional safety.

Peace requires you to slow down. It means saying no to the unnecessary and being intentional about how you spend your time. This can feel counterintuitive, especially if you've internalized the idea that your word is tied to how much you accomplish.

But here's the truth. Peace isn't about doing less, but it is about doing what truly matters to you instead of filling your schedule to the brim. Focus on quality over quantity. Let go of the idea that your value comes from being constantly busy.

Your worth isn't defined by how chaotic your life is, but it is defined by the joy, purpose, and meaning you create. Stillness is not in action. It is intentional action. It's pausing to reflect, gather your thoughts, and make deliverable choices.

When you embrace stillness, you're not giving up control. You're exercising the ultimate control over your mind and emotions. Peace promotes physical healing. People who practice relaxation techniques like mindfulness or meditation experience lower heart rates and blood pressure, improve digestion, and better immune response.

Your body thrives in a state of peace. By choosing calm over chaos, you're not just improving your mental health, but you're giving your body the tools it needs to heal and thrive. Peace is not boring. It's not empty and it's not meaningless.

It is the foundation for everything meaningful. Creativity, connection, and wellbeing. If peace feels unfamiliar, give yourself grace. It is a journey, not a destination. Every step you take towards embracing calm is a step towards reclaiming your power, your health, and your joy.

With love, laughing besties, if you enjoyed today's episode, make sure to share with anyone that might need to listen. Don't forget that we have a membership where as soon as you sign up, you will receive an I missed me hoodie. Plus, you have access to an exclusive episode every single month, printable activities, meditations, monthly challenges, PDF guides, and behindthe-scenes content.

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Long form
Published: 2025-04-14
Views: 112
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fspyWq-HGvM
Runtime: 7 min 22 sec (1,195 words)

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to whoever this may impact. Sometimes our lives have to be completely shaken up, changed, and rearranged to relocate us where we're really meant to be. Sometimes change feels like loss. Transformation is scary. And sometimes to discover the best versions of ourselves, we must let go of absolutely everything that's holding us down.

Welcome to I missed me, your new safe space. I'm excited to form a part of your healing journey. From curated Instagram feeds to the endless motivational quote, it feels like happiness has become the ultimate measure of success.

But what happens when that pressure to stay positive becomes overwhelming? What happens when it silences our real emotions and slows our healing? Let's start with social media. Social media feeds us this polished version of life where even setbacks are presented as growth opportunities wrapped in neat inspirational quotes.

It makes us feel like we're failing if we're not constantly radiating joy. Toxic positivity is when the pressure to say positive dismisses or invalidates real feelings. And it sounds like this. Don't be sad. Just focus on the good.

Other people have it worse. Everything happens for a reason. And even though these phrases might come from a good place, they make us feel isolated and ashamed of our emotions. When we suppress sadness, anger, or frustration, we're not dealing with them.

We're just bottling them up, and eventually that bottle explodes. Psychologists have shown that suppressing emotions can actually worsen our mental health, increasing stress and anxiety. So, while positivity has its benefits, it is not always the solution.

So, how do we push back against this pressure and allow ourselves to feel our full range of emotions? One, recognize your emotions without judgment. When you feel sad, angry, or anxious, acknowledge it. Tell yourself, "This is what I'm feeling." And that's okay.

Emotions are messages. They're trying to tell you something important. Curate your social media feed. If someone's posts make you feel pressured, mute or unfollow them, and instead follow accounts that celebrate authenticity and emotional honesty.

Find safe spaces to share. Whether it's a trusted friend, a therapist, or a journal, find a way to express your feelings without fear of judgment. Let yourself be seen and heard even when you're not at your best. Healing isn't about forcing yourself to be happy.

But it is about making space for all of your emotions. It is about learning to sit with discomfort and trust that it won't last forever. True healing often begins when we stop fighting our emotions and start listening to them.

Ask yourself, what is this sadness trying to tell me? What is this anger showing me? And by honoring this emotions, you're not being negative. You're being human. And remember, you don't owe anyone your happiness. Not your followers, not your friends, not even yourself.

Our brains are wired to compare. This is known as the social comparison theory. And it is part of how we understand our place in the world. But social media has hacked the system. And instead of comparing ourselves to someone we know, like a friend, someone whose life we know in its fully messy reality, we're comparing ourselves to a filtered curated version of someone's life.

That dopamine hit you get when you scroll through likes or see a stunning vacation photo. Even though it's addicting, it is also very misleading. Frequent social media use can lead to higher rates of depression and anxiety.

Partly because we're constantly measuring ourselves against an attainable standard which ends up leading to a bigger problem. The constant pressure to appear happy online. Have you ever notice how we don't post about our bad days or failures or our heartbreaks?

Social media rewards positivity and so we feel compelled to hide anything that doesn't fit the perfect life narrative. Pretending to be happy all the time doesn't make you happier. It in fact does the opposite. When you suppress your emotions to present a positive front, your brain registers that suppression as stress.

And over time, this can wear down your mental and physical health. When you experience an emotion, your brain's amygdala, the center for emotional processing, sends signals to the prefrontal cortex, which helps you understand and regulate those feelings. Acknowledging your emotions, activates this natural process, helping you move through them.

When you suppress your feelings, the amygdala doesn't shut up, but instead it continues to send distress signals. This can lead to heightened stress, disrupted sleep, and difficulty concentrating. Over time, it can even weaken your immune system.

Allowing yourself to feel your emotions isn't just fun. It is neurologically necessary for your well-being. So, how do we push back against the toxic positivity and unrealistic comparison that social media feeds us? Understand the highlight reel.

Remember that what you see online is a fraction of someone's life. No one's life is as perfect as their Instagram feed. Limit social media time. Take breaks or use apps that help you monitor your screen time. A short break from social media can significantly improve your mental health.

Engage authentically. Instead of scrolling passively, seek out meaningful interactions. Comment on posts with genuine interest. Or better yet, connect with people offline. Cultivate gratitude for your real life. And shift your focus from what you lack to what you have.

Gratitude isn't about pretending everything is perfect. But it is about appreciating the small authentic moments in your life. You don't have to achieve the happiness you see online. That kind of happiness, endless, effortless joy, is a fantasy.

It is not real. Real happiness is messy. It comes and it goes. And it coexists with sadness, anger, and frustration. Healing and growth don't happen in the spotlight. They happen in quiet, unglamorous moments. Crying when you need to.

Journaling late at night. Or sitting with a friend who lets you feel what you're feeling without trying to fix it. When we stop chasing the illusion of happiness and start embracing our full range of emotions, we free ourselves.

We stop living for likes and start living for ourselves. Your happiness doesn't need to look like anyone else's. You don't know the world a smile if you're not feeling it. And when you scroll through social media, remember it is okay to step away, to unfollow, to blog, and to take a break.

True well-being comes from accepting yourself as you are, emotions and all. And it is about showing up authentically, not for the algorithm, but for you. With love, maf besties, if you enjoyed today's episode, make sure to share with anyone that might need to listen.

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Long form
Published: 2025-04-29
Views: 106
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M88gu16N0XE
Runtime: 10 min 46 sec (1,730 words)

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to whoever this may impact. Sometimes our lives have to be completely shaken up, changed, and rearranged to relocate us where we're really meant to be. Sometimes change feels like loss. Transformation is scary. And sometimes to discover the best versions of ourselves, we must let go of absolutely everything that's holding us down.

Welcome to I Missed Me, your new safe space. I'm excited to form a part of your healing journey. If you've ever wondered what manifesting actually means, how it works, or if there's any truth behind it, think of this episode as manifestation for dummies.

What is manifesting? At its core, manifesting is the practice of using your thoughts, emotions, and actions to bring something you desire into your life. It is about aligning your mindset and energy with your goals so that you can create opportunities and take steps towards them.

Manifesting sometimes gets a bad reputation because some people think that it's just wishful thinking. Like sitting on your couch visualizing a pile of money and waiting for it to happen. That's not manifesting. Manifesting is actively shifting your mindset, clarifying your desires, and taking inspired action to make them a reality.

Ultimately, manifestation is a psychological principle called the reticular activating system or RA. This is a network of neurons in your brain that filters information. Your RA determines what you focus on and what you ignore.

For example, have you ever decided to buy a specific car and suddenly you start seeing that car everywhere? That's your working. It's filtering your reality to align with what you've told your brain is important. When you focus on a goal, whether it's a dream job, financial success, or improved relationships, you activate your RA.

It starts looking for opportunities, connections, and ideas that align with that goal. Manifestation also ties into the concept of neuroplasticity, which is your brain's ability to rewire itself. When you repeatedly think about a goal and visualize achieving it, you're literally creating new neural pathways over time.

This rewiring makes it easier for you to believe and work towards that goal. Emotions are powerful motivators. Positive emotions like excitement, gratitude, and joy signal your brain to release chemicals like dopamine and serotonin which enhance focus, creativity, and problem solving.

Fuels the action needed to manifest your desires. Manifesting isn't a bypass to hard work or ignoring challenges. And it is not about thinking happy thoughts and hoping everything magically falls into place. Wishful thinking is passive.

Manifesting is intentional. and it combines mental focus, emotional alignment, and deliberate action. Manifesting is about nurturing your goals, and staying consistent in your efforts. Get clear on what you want. You can't manifest something if you're unclear of what it is.

Be specific. And instead of saying, "I want to be happy," try something like, "I want to find a job I love," to then be happy. The clearer your goal, the easier it is to focus on it. Visualize it. Visualization isn't just about daydreaming, but it is a technique backed by neuroscience.

Spend a few minutes each day imagining what it would feel like to achieve your goal. What would your life look like? How would you feel? This primes your brain to look for opportunities that match that vision. Feel the emotion.

Emotions amplify your manifesting power. If you're visualizing success but feeling doubt or fear, you're sending mixed signals to the brain. Focus on gratitude, excitement, and confidence as if your goal has already happened.

And take inspired action. Manifesting isn't just thinking, it's doing. Ask yourself, what's one small step I can take today towards my goal? And then do it. Action creates momentum. And momentum attracts opportunities. Let go of the how.

One of the biggest mistakes people make is obsessing over how their goal is going to happen. Focus on the what and the why and trust the process. Be open to unexpected paths or opportunities. Practice gratitude. Gratitude shifts your mindset from lack to abundance.

When you're grateful for what you have, you attract more of what you want. Write down three things you're grateful for every single day. Because this simple habit has a great impact. Manifesting is not all about positive thinking.

Positive thinking helps, but it's not the whole story. You also need clarity, action, and consistency. Not because it's not happening quick means it's not happening. Manifestation takes time. Sometimes the process of manifesting reveals lessons or paths you didn't expect.

So trust the journey. Manifesting doesn't mean you'll never fail. Failure is part of growth. And every setback is an opportunity to learn, to pivot, and to try again. Manifesting isn't about magic. It's about mindset, focus, and action.

It's about taking control of your thoughts, aligning your emotions with your goals, and trusting that with effort and intention, you can create the life you desire. Your subconscious mind plays a huge role in manifesting, while your conscious mind sets the goal. Your subconscious beliefs determine whether you actually believe you can achieve it.

Think of your subconscious mind as the autopilot for your brain. It runs 90% of your daily thoughts, habits, and decisions. If your subconscious is carrying limiting beliefs like I'm not good enough, or I don't deserve success, you might unintentionally sabotage your own efforts.

Cognitive dissonance, a phenomenon where your brain resists anything that doesn't align with your internal beliefs. If you're consciously manifesting abundance, but subconsciously believe money is bad or hard to come, your actions will reflect that conflict. Use positive present tense statements that reinforce your belief and your goal like I am worthy of success.

Picture yourself living your dream, but also tune into how it feels. Emotions help imprint new beliefs in the subconscious. Write down your fears and limiting beliefs. Once they're on paper, challenge them and replace negative beliefs with empowering ones.

Whatever you focus on, you amplify. This is backed by the habian theory of learning which states that neurons fire together and wire together. When you repeatedly think about your goals, you're strengthening the neural pathways associated with those thoughts.

Over time, this rewiring makes your brain more adaptable at noticing opportunities and solving problems related to your desires. The brain doesn't distinguish between positive and negative focus. If you're constantly focused on fear, doubt, or lack, you're also strengthening those neural pathways.

This is why gratitude and mindfulness are so important because they shift your focus from what you don't have to what you do. Training your brain to look for solutions and abundance. Write down three things that went well. This simple practice can retrain your brain to focus on positivity, which directly supports your manifestation efforts.

At a quantum level, everything in the universe is made of energy, including you. The law of vibration states that everything vibrates at a certain frequency. When you manifest, you're essentially aligning your thoughts, emotions, and actions with the frequency of what you desire.

If you want to manifest love, but your thoughts are rooted in self-doubt or fear. Your vibration won't match the love you seek. To manifest effectively, you need to shift your vibration to align with what you want. This is where practices like meditation, gratitude, and self-care come in.

They raise your vibration, making it easier to attract what you desire. This doesn't necessarily mean that things will happen instantly, but it does mean that by aligning your energy, you'll be more attuned to opportunities and motivated to take action. Manifestation takes time.

Impatience can create resistance, which blocks progress. So remember it's not just about the destination but it is about who you become in the process. Fear often holds people back but failure is in the end. It is a feedback.

Treat setbacks as lessons and adjust your approach rather than giving up. It's easy to get discouraged when you see someone else achieving what you want. But comparison only lowers your vibration. Stay focused on your journey and trust your timing.

Manifesting requires consistency. Visualizing once a month won't cut it. Build up daily habits like a morning gratitude practice or a five-minute visualization session to keep your goals front and centered. Imagine yourself 5 or 10 years from now living the life you desire.

What decisions did the version of you make to get there. How do they carry themselves? Start embodying these traits now. Write a detailed story about your life as if you've already achieved your goals. For example, I wake up every morning feeling excited about my work, knowing I'm making an impact.

This helps you feel the energy of success in the present moment. Combine mindfulness with your manifestation practice. Focus on being fully present while visualizing and affirming. These deepens the emotional and energetic impact of your practice.

Choose a small object, a stone, a bracelet, a keychain that symbolizes your goal. Carry it with you and every time you see it or touch it, reconnect with your intention. One of the hardest parts of manifesting is trusting the process.

There will be times when your goals feel far away or when obstacles arise. Challenges often serve a purpose. They help you grow. Clarify your desires and prepare you for what's to come. When doubt creeps in, remind yourself you don't have to know exactly how your dream will unfold.

Your job is to stay aligned. Take inspired action and remain open to possibilities. Manifesting isn't a one-time event. It is a way of life. It is about continually aligning your thoughts, emotions, and actions with your vision.

Pick one goal. Use the techniques we've discussed today and commit to practicing them daily. Pay attention to what shifts in your mindset, energy, and reality. with love. Maf besties, if you enjoyed today's episode, make sure to share with anyone that might need to listen.

Don't forget that we have a membership where as soon as you sign up, you will receive an I missed me hoodie. Plus, you have access to an exclusive episode every single month, printable activities, meditations, monthly challenges, PDF guides, and behindthe-scenes content. Don't forget to follow I miss on social media.

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Long form
Published: 2025-04-07
Views: 97
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=66xByufxfQ0
Runtime: 9 min 13 sec (1,554 words)

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to whoever this may impact. Sometimes our lives have to be completely shaken up, changed, and rearranged to relocate us where we're really meant to be. Sometimes change feels like loss. Transformation is scary. And sometimes to discover the best versions of ourselves, we must let go of absolutely everything that's holding us down.

Welcome to I Missed Me, your new safe space. I'm excited to form a part of your healing journey. We live in a world where happiness is treated almost like a checkbox. Social media bombards us with highlight reels of smiling faces, vacations, and happy captions.

Self-help books promise the secret to eternal happiness, and even well-meaning friends might say things like, "Don't worry, just stay positive." But the truth is that making happiness your ultimate goal can set you up for disappointment. Life is full of ups and downs. Sadness, frustration, and even moments of hopelessness are natural, necessary parts of the human experience.

When we treat happiness as the only acceptable emotion, we end up rejecting or suppressing other emotions that might be trying to teach us something. And that suppression can leave us feeling stuck, confused, or even ashamed. Emotions are like waves in the ocean.

Some are calm and soothing, like happiness or contentment. Others might feel overwhelming, like sadness or anger, but all of them are temporary. They come and they go. The key is learning to ride those waves instead of trying to fight them or push them away.

One way to start welcoming all emotions is to stop labeling them as good or bad. Instead, think of them as messengers. Sadness, for example, might be telling you that you care deeply about something or someone you've lost. Anxiety might be signaling that you're stepping out of your comfort zone and into growth.

When you allow yourself to feel these emotions instead of resisting them, you open the door to understanding yourself better. Sadness is seen as something to avoid or fix. But what if we looked at it differently? Think about the times in your life when you've grown the most.

Maybe it was after a breakup or after losing a job or facing a personal challenge. Chances are those moments involved sadness. And yet they also shaped you, teaching you resilience, empathy, and clarity. Sadness is not a failure.

It is a sign that you're alive, that you're invested in your life and relationships. And sometimes allowing yourself to sit with sadness can lead to breakthroughs. The truth is, there is a social pressure to be always happy.

We've all seen it. a friend who insists everything's amazing even when they're clearly struggling or the people around you who might say it's fine, I'm fine even when you know they're not. This pressure doesn't just come from society.

It comes from within, too. Sometimes we're so focused on maintaining a happy facade that we lose touch with what we're really feeling. Pretending to be happy all the time isn't sustainable, and it is not honest. True connection, whether it's with friends, family, or yourself, comes from authenticity.

And authenticity means showing up as you are, not as who you think you should be. So, how can we break free from the happiness trap and start welcoming all emotions you're feeling a strong emotion? Name it out loud or write it down.

For example, I feel sad or I feel anxious. Naming emotions can take their power away. Remind yourself that it is okay to feel how you feel. Talk to yourself the way you would to a friend who's going through a tough time. Sit with your emotions without trying to change them.

This can be as simple as taking a few deep breaths and noticing how the emotional feels in your body. Reach out to someone you trust and let them know what you're going through. Sometimes just being heard can make all the difference.

Life isn't about being happy all the time, but it is about being human. And being human means experiencing the full range of emotions from joy to sorrow and everything in between. Next time that you feel sadness, don't push it away.

Instead, welcome it. Sit with it, learn from it, and remember you're not alone. Now, let's talk about something that often gets overshadowed in the chase for happiness. Peace. We live in a world that tells us happiness is the ultimate goal, the pinnacle for a successful life.

But what if I told you that happiness, as we've been taught to pursue it, can actually be a trap. Happiness is fleeting. It comes and goes, just like any other emotion. But peace is enduring. It is a state of being that isn't dependent on external circumstances.

Happiness is largely tied to dopamine, the feel-good neurotransmitter. Dopamine gets released when you achieve a goal, eat your favorite food, or experience something pleasurable. It is your brain's way to reward you. But the truth is, dopamine isn't designed to last.

It is a part of the cycle that motivates you to keep seeking out pleasurable or rewarding experiences. This is why the joy of buying new clothes, receiving a compliment, or hitting a milestone fades so quickly cuz your brain adapts to these highs, leaving you craving the next one. No matter how much happiness you achieve, you'll eventually return to a baseline level and start seeking more.

It is exhausting and it is why chasing happiness can feel like running a race you'll never win. Peace is rooted in a sense of acceptance and stability. It is not tied to external rewards or fleeting highs but comes from within.

Peace is when you're able to sit with yourself no matter what's happening around you. It is tied to practices like mindfulness, gratitude, and self-compassion. All of these habits that train your brain to stay grounded. When you prioritize peace over happiness, you're no longer caught in the cycle of chasing something external.

Peace allows you to ride the emotional way we talked about earlier without being thrown off course. One of the reasons peace lasts is because it doesn't depend on the dopamine cycle, but instead it engages other areas of your brain like the prefrontal cortex, which governs self-regulation and emotional stability. Happiness is the spark, but peace is the flame.

When you leave for happiness alone, you're constantly chasing the next spark, the next moment of joy. But when you prioritize peace, you cultivate a steady flame. How do you shift your focus from chasing happiness to cultivating peace?

Practice acceptance. Peace begins with accepting what is instead of resisting it. This doesn't mean that you have to like everything that happens, but acknowledging reality helps you respond rather than react. Let go of shoulds.

Replace thoughts like, "I should be happier with," I'm feeling what I'm feeling, and that is okay. This removes judgment and creates space for self-compassion. Embrace stillness. Take time each day to sit quietly, even if it's just for a few minutes.

Focus on your breath or the sound around you. Stillness invites peace. Seek meaning over pleasure. Instead of asking, "What will make me happy?" ask what will bring meaning. meaningful actions like helping others, creating or learning lead to deeper, more lasting fulfillment.

Reframe setbacks when life doesn't go as planned. Remind yourself that peace doesn't come from avoiding hardship, but from navigating it with grace. Contentment is the bridge between peace and happiness. It is the ability to appreciate what you have without constantly striving for more.

When you're content, you're not chasing the highs of happiness or avoiding the lows of sadness. You're grounded in the present. Contentment also creates resilience. People who cultivate gratitude and contentment are better able to cope with challenges and bounce back from setbacks.

So what if instead of happiness, you start looking for contentment? Appreciate the small, quiet joys of life. A warm meal, a kind word, or even a moment of stillness. These moments may not be dopamine fueled highs, but they're in the building blocks of a peaceful life.

Happiness is wonderful, but it is not the whole picture. It is a temporary emotion. It is one wave in the ocean of our experience. Peace, on the other hand, is the steady foundation beneath those waves. So, the next time that you find yourself chasing happiness, pause and ask yourself, what if I focused on finding peace instead?

Remember, peace doesn't mean the absence of difficulties, but it means finding your center in the middle of them. And when you make peace with your goals, happiness often becomes a natural byproduct, not something you have to chase. With love, mafies, if you enjoyed today's episode, make sure to share with anyone that might need to listen.

Don't forget that we have a membership where as soon as you sign up, you will receive an I missed me hoodie. Plus, you have access to an exclusive episode every single month. printable activities, meditations, monthly challenges, PDF guides, and behindthe-scenes content.

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Long form
Published: 2025-03-10
Views: 96
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PvkLl2J_qgM
Runtime: 7 min 52 sec (1,347 words)

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To whoever this may impact, sometimes our lives have to be completely shaken up, changed, and rearranged to relocate us where we're really meant to be. Sometimes change feels like loss, transformation is scary, and sometimes to discover the best versions of ourselves, we must let go of absolutely everything that's holding us down. Welcome to I Missed Me, your new safe space.

I'm excited to form a part of your healing journey. Imagine someone comes over to your house, and you spend the whole morning cleaning your house because as a good host, you want to receive your guest with a clean house. When the guest arrives, they ask for a cup of water, and of course you go, fill up a glass of water, and very genuinely you hand them the cup.

Unfortunately, and because accidents happen, they drop the cup, spill the water, and now there's a mess on the floor. The floor you spent the whole morning cleaning is now full of glass and water. Now again, accidents happen, and it is okay to spill water, but it is also necessary to clean it if we want the house to be clean again.

You go get a mop and kindly hand it to them so they can carefully clean the mess. However, when you go and give it, they refuse to take it. "Why would I clean it if it's your house?" to which you say, "Why would I clean it if you spilled it?" And you start going back and forth as to who should clean the drink.

You because you spilled it, you because it's your house, and eventually the conversation gets heated, and your guest decides to stand up, leave your house, and never speak to you again. Now, the mess is still on the floor, and it is still your house. And if you want your house to go back to normal and be clean again, unfortunately, and regardless of who made the mess, you will have to clean it.

It is not your fault, but it is your responsibility. Sometimes, people will walk into your life to make a mess. They will hurt, offend, and disrespect you without explaining why and without a reason behind it. And people will do things that are out of your control to which you're going to be left wondering if you will ever receive an apology or any type of closure.

But the truth is that regardless of the closure, the healing is your responsibility. And it does not require any closure or explanation, but it requires self-awareness. Life is full of moments like this. Someone hurts you, betrays your trust, or leaves you with wounds you didn't ask for.

And while it's easy and natural to want the person who caused the mess to fix it, the reality is they will not. Some people will walk away without a second thought, leaving you to pick up the pieces. And that's hard, and it's painful.

But the truth is the longer we wait for someone else to take responsibility for the mess they made, the longer we stay stuck in that pain. Healing isn't about them. It is about you. And it is about deciding, "I don't want to live in this mess anymore, even if I didn't create it." Responsibility does not equal blame.

Blame says, "It is your fault this happened." And responsibility says, "This is my life, and I have the power to take control of what happens next." When we shift from blame to responsibility, we take our power back. Because if you wait for someone else to fix things, you're giving them all of the control. You're saying, "My healing depends on you." But when you take responsibility, you're saying, "My healing depends on me, and I am in control of how I move forward." It is not about excusing what happened or pretending it didn't hurt, but it is about acknowledging the pain, honoring your emotions, and choosing to clean up the mess so that you can feel at peace again.

Healing is your responsibility because no one else can do it for you. You can get an apology. Maybe it's the most heartfelt, genuine apology in the world. But it won't take away the pain. Closure is an illusion. Healing doesn't come from someone else explaining why they hurt you or from them making peace with others.

It comes from you deciding, "I will no longer let this pain control my life." Healing is deeply personal. It is about looking inward, processing what happened, and finding ways to move forward. Even when the person who hurt you refuses to be accountable.

It is about choosing yourself. Acknowledge the pain. The first step is to allow yourself to feel what you're feeling. Denying or suppressing your emotions only postpones the healing process. Say to yourself, "This hurt me." And that's okay.

Let go of the why. One of the hardest parts of healing is letting go of the need to understand why someone hurt you. Sometimes, there isn't a clear answer. And even if there is, knowing the why won't erase the pain. Set boundaries.

If the person who hurt you is still in your life, it is okay to set boundaries to protect yourself. Boundaries are an act of self-love and a way of saying, "I deserve better." Seek support. Healing doesn't mean you have to do it all alone.

Talk to a trusted friend, join a support group, or seek therapy. Sometimes, sharing your story and having someone validate your experiences can be incredibly healing. Practice forgiveness. For yourself and for others. Forgiveness isn't about letting the other person get away with what they did.

But it is about freeing yourself from the grip of resentment. Forgiveness often starts with forgiving yourself for staying too long, for not seeing the red flags, for whatever guilt you might be holding on to. Forgive yourself and focus on your growth.

Pain, as much as it hurts, can be a very powerful teacher. Ask yourself, "What can I learn from this experience? How can I grow from this?" Turning your pain into purpose is one of the most empowering things that you can do.

And last but not least, create your own closure. Write a letter to the person who hurt you. Not to send, but to express everything you need to say. Or write a letter to yourself, giving yourself compassion and understanding.

Closure is something you can create for yourself. The truth is that healing is a choice. And it is a choice to prioritize your peace over your pain. To say, "I deserve to feel whole again, no matter what someone else did to me." It is not always easy.

Some days, it might feel impossible. But every small step you take, whether it's journaling, meditating, setting a boundary, or simply saying, "I am not okay, but I am working on it," is a step towards reclaiming your power. Healing doesn't happen overnight.

It is a journey. One that requires patience, self-compassion, and courage. Every time you choose to clean up the mess, even if it wasn't your fault, you're choosing yourself. And that is the most powerful thing you can do. It is not your fault, but it is your responsibility.

You didn't create the mess, but you have the responsibility to clean it up. Not for anyone else, but for you. With love, Maffy. Besties, if you enjoyed today's episode, make sure to share with anyone that might need to listen.

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Long form
Published: 2025-07-28
Views: 95
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tjVo51n-1kg
Runtime: 8 min 23 sec (1,464 words)

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to whoever this may impact. Sometimes our lives have to be completely shaken up, changed, and rearranged to relocate us where we're really meant to be. Sometimes change feels like loss. Transformation is scary. And sometimes to discover the best versions of ourselves, we must let go of absolutely everything that's holding us down.

Welcome to I Missed Me, your new safe space. I'm excited to form a part of your healing journey. People show what they want to show. That's true for social media, conversations, and life in general. What we see is often the highlight reel and not the behind the scenes.

When we see people laughing, traveling, achieving goals, and looking their best, it can make us feel like we're falling behind. That we're somehow failing because our own life doesn't look like that. But no one's life and no one's reality is perfect.

Those pictures, they're just moments. They don't show sleepless nights, the self-doubt, the struggles, or the healing journeys that are happening behind closed doors. Somewhere along the way, society has convinces that happiness is the ultimate goal.

Like, if we're not smiling 24/7, we're doing something wrong. But life is full of emotions. Joy, sadness, frustration, peace, anger, excitement. None of these emotions are bad. They're all a part of the human experience. It is okay to have days when you're not okay.

And it is okay to feel stuck, sad, or overwhelmed. Those moments don't mean you're failing. They mean you're living. Don't owe anyone your happiness. You don't have to plaster on a smile or pretend you're fine just to make others comfortable.

Healing isn't linear, and it is not a straight path where every day is better than the last. That's normal. Progress is messy. And instead of pressuring yourself to constantly be happy, focus on being honest with yourself and with others.

Ask yourself what you need and give yourself permission to rest, to feel, and to heal. When you scroll through your feed and see everyone living their best life, remind to yourself that you're seeing a filtered version of reality. Most people are imposing their arguments, their self-doubt, or their moments of loneliness.

They're sharing their wins, not their struggles. That doesn't make them fake. It just makes them human. But it also means that you can't use what you see online as your measuring stick for your own life. Comparison is a thief.

And it steals your joy by making you focus on what you think you're lacking instead of appreciating what you already have. Spend less time scrolling and more time engaging in activities that make you feel present and fulfilled. Each day, take a moment to reflect on three things you're grateful for, big or small.

Healing and growing aren't always grand gestures. Celebrate the little things. Getting out of bed, drinking water, or saying no when you need to. When you're feeling down or stuck, talk to yourself like you would to a friend.

Offer compassion instead of criticism. Surround yourself with people who support you, who are real about their struggles and who lift you up when you need it. Life isn't about always being happy or having all figured out. It's about showing up, being honest, and giving yourself permission to feel everything.

Joy, pain, hope, and everything in between. You are enough just as you are. Even on the days where you feel like you're not, we are all storytellers. Whether consciously or unconsciously, we craft the story of our lives for others to see.

The stories we tell aren't always complete. We highlight the moments we're proud of, the ones that make us feel good, and the ones that align with what we want to be perceived. That's not inherently wrong. But the problem arises when we start comparing someone else's story to your own reality.

When was the last time you saw someone post about their heartbreak, their insecurity, or moments where you feel like giving up? It's rare. And when they do share, it's often after they've already overcome it, wiped out neatly with a positive takeaway.

Life doesn't always come with a clean resolution. Why do we feel the need to resent this perfect image? For many of us, it stems from fear. Fear of judgment, fear of being seen as weak, or fear of not being enough. We crave validation.

So, we create what we think will earn it. But this need for approval can be exhausting. And it creates a cycle where everyone is trying to live up to a standard that doesn't actually exist. When you're scrolling through social media or even interacting with people in real life, it's easy to forget this.

You might find yourself thinking, "Why does everyone else have it together and I don't?" But here's the thing. No one has it all together. And even the people who seem the happiest or the most successful are dealing with challenges you don't see.

This isn't just about social media. It is about the mask we all wear in different parts of our lives. At work, we want to seem competent and competent. In relationships, we want to appear loving and secure. With friends, we want to be fun and reliable.

But underneath everything, we're complex. We're human beings. And complexity doesn't always fit neatly into the roles we try to play. A lot of us have been taught to suppress difficult emotions, to keep them hidden or fix them as quickly as possible.

Feeling sad, angry, or even lost isn't something to fix. It is something to feel. Those emotions are valid and deserve your attention just as much as the good ones do. When you allow yourself to feel your emotions without judgment, you create space for healing.

Healing isn't about pretending the hard times didn't happen. It is about acknowledging them, learning from them, and finding ways to move forward at your own pace. We're so quick to show compassion to others, and to say it is okay.

You're doing your best. You don't have to be perfect. But when it comes to ourselves, we're relentless. We hold ourselves to impossible standards, and when we don't meet them, we spiral into guilt and shame. Self-compassion isn't just about being kind to yourself, but it is about recognizing your humanity.

It is about understanding that everyone struggles, everyone makes mistakes, and everyone feels lost sometimes. You are not the exception. One practice that really helped me is to talk to myself like I would to a friend. When I'm feeling down, instead of beating myself up, I ask, "What do I need right now?" Sometimes the answer is rest.

Sometimes it's a good cry. And sometimes it is something just as simple as stepping outside and taking a deep breath. Here's another thing. Healing doesn't always look like the way you think it will. It's not always meditating in silence or journaling your thoughts.

Sometimes it's laughing with your friends until your stomach hurts. And sometimes it's just sitting with yourself in the quiet, letting the tears flow. The beauty of healing is that it's personal. There's no right way to do it and no timeline you have to follow.

We live in a world that equates worth with output. What you achieve, what you create, what you can check off your to-do list. But healing, growth, and even happiness aren't things you can force. They don't happen on a schedule.

Rest is in laziness. Taking time for yourself isn't selfish. And in fact, these moments of pause are often when the most profound growth happens. When you're not pushing or performing, you can actually listen to what your mind, body, and soul are asking for.

Life isn't a performance. It's messy, beautiful, unpredictable, and sometimes really hard. You don't have to believe everything you see. And you don't have to measure yourself against anyone else's highlight reel. Take the time to honor your own journey.

Feel what you need to feel. Rest when you need to rest. And celebrate the small moments that make your life worth living. Most importantly, be kind to yourself. With love, mafies, if you enjoyed today's episode, make sure to share with anyone that might need to listen.

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Long form
Published: 2025-11-25
Views: 91
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3DpQxRdu9QY
Runtime: 9 min 9 sec (1,679 words)

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to whoever this may impact. Sometimes our lives have to be completely shaken up, changed, and rearranged to relocate us where we're really meant to be. Sometimes change feels like loss. Transformation [music] is scary. And sometimes to discover the best versions of ourselves, we must let [music] go of absolutely everything that's holding us down.

Welcome to I Missed Me, your new safe space. I'm [music] excited to form a part of your healing journey. Today's episode is one that I've been waiting to talk about for a while because starting over has been such a huge theme in my own life lately.

And I know that a lot of you are in that season, too. The season where you can feel that something has ended or needs to end and you're too scared of what comes next. You're scared of change, scared of letting go, scared of rebuilding.

So, this episode is for anyone who feels like their life just fell apart or like it's about to, and you're terrified of having to start again. Let's talk about why starting over isn't something to fear, but something to honor. Endings are not failures.

Let's start here. Endings don't mean you failed. They mean you grew. But we live in a world that glorifies consistency. The same job for years, the same relationship forever, the same version of yourself until the end of time.

And so when something ends, when we outgrow something or someone, we feel guilty, we feel shame, we call it failure. But the truth is that starting over doesn't mean you're back at zero. You're not starting from scratch. You're starting from experience.

Every chapter that ends adds something to you. A lesson, a truth, a strength, a softness. You carry all of it forward. So when you start again, you're not who you were last time. You're wiser now. Stronger now, softer, but deeper.

You've seen that doesn't work. You've learned what matters. And that means this time you're building better. The fear of the unknown is a huge one. I get it. The hardest part about starting over is not knowing what comes next.

The in between, that empty, quiet space where the old is gone, but the new hasn't arrived yet. It's scary. It feels like falling without knowing if there's a net. And it feels like walking in the dark, hoping you're headed somewhere good.

But that's what faith is. Faith isn't knowing the plan. It's trusting that you'll figure it out as you go. And you always do. You've done it before. Think about it. Every new beginning in your life started with fear. Your first day of school, your first move, your first heartbreak, your first job.

And yet somehow you made it through every single one of them. Fear doesn't mean stop. It means unfamiliar. And everything unfamiliar feels scary until it feels safe. So give it time because one day what scares you will now be something to look back on with gratitude.

Starting over is prove you're brave. Starting over takes courage. It's not easy to walk away from what's known. Even if what's known isn't good for you anymore. But it's braver to rebuild and to settle. Anyone can stay where they're comfortable.

It takes strength to admit something no longer feels align. So if you're in that season, if you're ending something, moving somewhere new, reinventing yourself, and walking away from people or patterns, be proud of yourself. Most people never do.

Most people stay because starting again feels too hard. But not you. You're choosing yourself even when it's uncertain. And that's the kind of bravery that changes your entire life. The myth of starting from zero. We have this idea that when something ends, we lose everything.

But that's not true. When you start over, you don't lose the love that you gave. You don't lose the lessons that you learned. You don't lose the strength it took to get here. You take it all with you. You're not back at square one.

You're just standing somewhere new with more wisdom, more resilience, more clarity. You know yourself better now. You know what you want and more importantly, you know what you don't. And starting over isn't regression. It's evolution.

You're not going backwards. You're shifting directions. And sometimes the universe will close doors not because you failed, but because you were meant to walk through a better one. The beauty of becoming something new. Starting over gives you permission to redefine yourself, to let go of the labels, the identities, the roles you outgrew.

It gives you a blank canvas. And maybe that's the part that feels so scary because blank means unknown. But blank also means possibility. Blank means creation. Blank means you get to decide who you are now. You get to ask yourself, who am I when I'm not trying to be what everyone expects?

What actually makes me happy? What kind of life do I want to build this time? And that is the magic of starting over. You get to answer those questions for yourself. Release the timeline. We're so afraid to start over because we think it means we're behind like everyone else is moving forward.

And we're stuck rebuilding from the ground up. But timelines are fake. Life doesn't happen in straight lines. You're not late. You're right on time for your story. Comparison will kill your peace faster than failure ever will.

So stop comparing your chapter 1 to someone else chapter 10. Some people find their purpose at 20, others at 50. Some people fall in love young. And others fall in love with life first. And that's okay. You're not supposed to have it all figured out.

You're supposed to be learning, evolving, trying, breaking, rebuilding, [clears throat] becoming. So take that pressure off. You're not behind. You're just beginning again. Trust the process of rebuilding. Starting over is a process, and it's not linear.

Some days you'll feel unstoppable. Other days you'll question everything. You'll have moments of excitement followed by moments of doubt. And that is normal. That's growth. You're allowed to take it slow. You're allowed to rebuild one break at a time.

Not every new beginning has to look loud and confident. Sometimes it's quiet. Sometimes it's messy. And sometimes it's just showing up and saying, "I don't know what's next, but I am willing to find out. Trust that every small step counts.

Trust that every effort is planting something new. Trust that even when you can't see it yet, the foundation is forming. Let go of who you were. You can't start over if you keep holding on to old versions of yourself. The one who tolerated too much.

The one who settled. The one who was scared. You have to let her go. Thank her. She got you here. She did her best. But you don't have to keep being her. Starting over means choosing different. It means giving yourself permission to evolve.

You're allowed to change your mind. You're allowed to outrow people, dreams, habits, cities, and even versions of yourself. You're allowed to become someone new again and again. And every time you do, you're not losing yourself.

You're finding yourself more clearly. What if it works out? We spend so much time asking, "What if it doesn't work out? What if it does? What if the job you're scared to take becomes the one that changes your life? What if the city you're scared to move to ends up feeling like home?

What if the person you're becoming feels more like you than anyone you've ever been? Starting over isn't the end of something. It's the beginning of something new. And it might just be better than anything that you've ever known before.

Starting over is not a punishment. It is a privilege. It means you were brave enough to admit that something wasn't working anymore. It means you didn't settle. It means you choose truth over comfort. And that's not something everyone can do.

Most people stay. They stay where it's familiar. They stay in relationships that don't grow. They stay in jobs that drain them. They stay in verses of themselves that no longer fit just because starting over feels too hard, but you didn't.

You looked at your life and said, "This isn't it anymore." And that takes courage. That takes honesty. And that takes love. Real love. The kind that puts peace over performance. So if you're starting over right now, I want you to stop seeing it as an ending and start seeing it as evidence of your strength.

Because starting over, it's proof that you refused to lose yourself. You're not starting from zero. You're starting from every single thing you survived. Every heartbreak, every failure, every risk that didn't go the way that you thought it would.

You're starting with wisdom now, with clarity, with standards, and with boundaries. So, be grateful for yourself. It means you were brave enough to trust your future more than your past. It means you had the courage to believe that life still has more for you.

And it does. This is your reminder that nothing truly ends. [music] It just transforms and every transformation starts with a single decision to try again and the version of you that's waiting on the other side of this restart.

With love, Mafies, if you enjoyed today's episode, make sure to share with anyone that might need to listen. Don't forget that we have a membership where as soon as you sign up, you will receive an I missed me hoodie. Plus, you have access to an exclusive episode every single month, printable activities, meditations, monthly challenges, PDF guides, and behindthe-scenes content.

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Long form
Published: 2025-09-23
Views: 91
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4WUwLkBGTAI
Runtime: 9 min 12 sec (1,600 words)

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to whoever this may impact. Sometimes our lives have to be completely shaken up, changed, and rearranged to relocate us where we're really meant to be. Sometimes change feels like loss. Transformation is scary. And sometimes to discover the best versions of ourselves, we must let go of absolutely everything that's holding us down.

Welcome to I Missed Me, your new safe space. I'm excited to form a part of your healing journey. The idea of right person, wrong time suggests that you've met someone perfect for you. But the timing isn't just aligning. Maybe you're too busy with work, dealing with personal issues, or not ready for commitment.

Life is messy, and timing matters. But here's where the problem lies. If someone is truly the right person, wouldn't you make it work? Regardless of the timing, think about it. When something feels truly essential, don't we prioritize it?

Whether it's a dream job, a big opportunity, or even a concert, we really want to attend. We find a way. So why wouldn't we with the right person? Or could it be that right person wrong time is just an easy way to say we weren't right for each other?

But I don't want to admit it. Let's get into the psychology of why this phrase persists. For starters, it's comforting. Blaming timing gives us closure without admitting failure. It allows us to avoid this sting of rejection or the guilt of saying, "I'm just not that into you." Self-p protection is natural, but it also keeps us stuck.

If you're holding on to the belief that someone was the right person, at the wrong time, you're more likely to romanticize what could have been instead of focusing on what is. Cognitive dissonance is when we try to reconcile two conflicting truths. You feel like the relationship could have worked, but the reality is it didn't.

So, what's easier? Blame the timing. If timing was the only issue, why wouldn't the relationship find its way back together when circumstances improve? More often than not, the right person wrong time. Excuse just delays the inevitable realization that maybe they weren't the one for you.

Timing does matter, but not in the way that we think. Timing isn't an external force preventing you from being with someone. It's an internal indicator of readiness. If you're too busy to give a relationship your best, that doesn't mean that you've met the right person at the wrong time.

It means you're not ready for the kind of relationship that you think that you want. And that's okay. But let's call it what it is. Misalignment. You want the other person might have the potential, but potential doesn't always equal compatibility.

And waiting for the right time won't change that. Relationships thrive not because of perfect timing, but because of mutual effort and shared priorities. So instead of asking was this the right person at the wrong time ask what does this relationship teach me about what I want and need instead of right person wrong time try the relationship wasn't meant to last but it showed me what's possible when you stop fixating on what could have been you free yourself to appreciate the role that relationships played in your life.

Maybe it taught you how to communicate better. Maybe it helped you realize your own value. Or maybe it just showed you that you're capable of deep connection, even if it wasn't the forever kind. Every relationship, no matter how brief, is part of your journey.

But holding on to the right person, wrong time myth can keep you from moving forward. Let's stop romanticizing missed opportunities and start focusing on what's possible when two people are truly aligned. Timing isn't a barrier.

It's a filter. It shows us who's meant to stay in our lives and who's meant to teach us to move on. Human beings are wired for storytelling and how we make sense of chaos, find meaning in randomness, and sooththe the ache of disappointment.

The phrase right person wrong time is a perfect example of this. Think about it. When our relationship doesn't work out, we crave an explanation. It's too unsettling to say it just didn't work. That feels random, unresolved, and incomplete.

But if we say it was the right person at the wrong time, suddenly there's a reason. it softens a blow. The problem is these stories often trap us. Instead of learning, growing, and moving forward, we get stuck in a narrative that keeps us tied to the past.

We reread old messages, revisit memories, and tell ourselves, "If only the timing had been different." But life is in a movie. There's no alternate universe where everything lines up perfectly. Sometimes things just don't work out.

Not because of timing, but because of mismatched values, priorities, or readiness. And that's okay. It doesn't mean the relationship was a failure. If someone truly is the right person, wouldn't you or they do whatever it takes to make it work?

Relationships are built on effort, not circumstances. I've seen people juggle demanding careers, family, obligations, and personal challenges while still showing up for their partner. Why? Because when someone truly matters to you, you make room for them.

Here's the truth. The right time isn't something to wait for. It's something you create. It's about mutual willingness to show up even when life feels complicated or inconvenient. When we say that someone was the right person, we're often putting them on a pedestal.

We gloss over the arguments, the incompatibilities, the red flags, and instead we hyperfocus on their good qualities or their happiest moments, creating an idealized version of their relationship. This is dangerous because it distorts reality. You can't move on something if you're still clinging to an idealized memory.

And let's be honest, if their relationship was so perfect, why did it end in the first place? It's easy to say that timing was the reason, but in the most cases, the reasons are more complex. Maybe communication broke down and maybe there was a lack of emotional availability.

Maybe you both wanted different things and those issues won't magically disappear even if circumstances change. Holding on to the right person, wrong time narrative not only keeps you tied to the past, but also prevents you from seeing new opportunities for love. It's like trying to read the next chapter of a book while obsessively rereading the last one.

Scrolling through Instagram or Tik Tok. How many posts have you seen romanticizing the idea of the one that got away? Maybe it's a viral video of someone saying it. If it's meant to be, I'll come back or a dramatic caption about wanting the stars to align.

These narratives make heartbreak look poetic, almost glamorous. They frame failed relationships as unfinished love stories instead of what they usually are. Relationships that weren't meant to last. This messaging can make it harder to let go.

You start to wonder, "What if they're my soulmate and I'm giving up too soon?" But soulmates, if you believe in them, aren't people who slip through your fingers. They're the ones who stay, grow, and build a life with you. Social media has a way of romanticizing longing, but longing isn't love.

Don't let curated highlight reels or sentimental quotes convince you to hold on to something that's no longer serving you. What if instead of focusing on the idea of right person, wrong time, we focused on what that relationship taught us? Every connection, whether it lasts for 3 weeks or three decades, teaches us something about ourselves.

Maybe it showed you what kind of partner you want. Maybe it reveal patterns you need to break like avoiding vulnerability or over prioritizing work. And instead of seeing their relationship as a missed opportunity, see it as a stepping stone.

It's part of your growth, not your final destination. And the lessons you take from it will help you recognize a person who is right for you when the time comes. Not every relationship is meant to last forever. And that doesn't diminish its value.

Some people are here to teach us, challenge us, or help us heal. And when their role in our lives is complete, it is okay to let go. First, let go of the idea that timing is an external force working against you. Timing is simply a reflection of readiness and priorities.

Next, reframe your perspective. Instead of mourning that didn't work, celebrate what you learned. Use those lessons to build healthier, more aligned relationships in the future. And finally, trust that the right person, the one who truly aligns with your values, goals, and emotional readiness, won't slip away because of timing.

They'll stay. They'll work through their challenges with you. They'll choose you every day. The right person is someone you create alignment with, not someone you wait for when the stars finally align. With love, mafies, if you enjoyed today's episode, make sure to share with anyone that might need to listen.

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Long form
Published: 2025-08-22
Views: 88
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fyRSLWdnWIs
Runtime: 8 min 49 sec (1,456 words)

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to whoever this may impact. Sometimes our lives have to be completely shaken up, changed, and rearranged to relocate us where we're really meant to be. Sometimes change feels like loss. Transformation is scary. And sometimes to discover the best versions of ourselves, we must let go of absolutely everything that's holding us down.

Welcome to I Miss Me, your new safe space. I'm excited to form a part of your healing journey. How often do you feel drained after spending time with certain people? The ones who seem to bring their storm clouds wherever they go.

Toxic relationships, whether they're with friends, family, or the people around you, can weigh us down in ways we don't always realize. It's not just about the big dramatic moments. Sometimes it's a little things like constant negativity, feeling unsupported or unappreciated.

That nagging sense of obligation to keep giving even when you're running on empty, choosing to cut off toxic people. isn't about being mean, selfish, or unforgiving, but it is about protecting your energy and mental health. Think of your life as a garden.

If you let weeds grow unchecked, they'll choke out the flowers. Toxic relationships are like those weeds. They drain your resources, overshadow your growth, and make it harder for you to thrive. Cutting ties can feel uncomfortable, even scary.

But here's the truth. You are not obligated to keep people in your life just because of shared history, blood ties, or social expectations. You owe it to yourself to prioritize your well-being. Some of the signs that it's time to disconnect might be that you feel emotionally drained after interacting with someone.

Your boundaries are repeatedly disrespected. The relationship feels one-sided with you doing all they give in. You feel worse about yourself after spending time with them. And remember, it's okay to say, "This isn't working for me anymore.

It's not about blame, but it's about boundaries." Once you've identified the toxic relationships in your life, the next step is creating space to reconnect with yourself, your passions, and the people who genuinely uplift you. When was the last time you turned off your phone, shut up the noise, and just existed? In today's world, we're constantly bombarded with messages, notifications, and endless to-do lists.

It's no wonder why we feel disconnected from ourselves. Here's how to disconnect. Turn off your notifications. Set boundaries with your device. The world will keep spinning even if you don't respond immediately. Carve out quiet time.

Whether it's 10 minutes of meditation, a walk in nature, or journaling. Give yourself moments of stillness. Engage in meaningful activities. Read a book, cook a meal, or pick up a creative hobby. These things anchor you in the present moment.

The beauty of disconnecting is that it allows you to rediscover what truly matters. It helps you recharge so you can show up fully for the things and people that deserve your energy. Once you've cleared the toxic clutter, you make room for healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

Seek out connections that feel reciprocal when there's mutual respect, encouragement, and a genuine sense of joy in each other's company. Remember, it's okay to outgrow people. It's okay to need space. And it is okay to prioritize your peace.

Turn on your do not disturb mode, literally or metaphorically. Take a step back from what drains you and pour that energy into what lifts you up. Cutting ties and disconnecting can be terrifying because we're hardwired to seek connection, even if that connection isn't good for us.

The fear of being alone, the guilt of walking away, or the worry about how others will perceive us can keep us stuck in toxic situations. Letting go is an act of courage, not weakness. Sometimes we cling on to toxic relationships because they're familiar.

However, familiarity isn't the same as fulfillment. Holding on to what hurts us leaves no room for what could heal. Instead of asking, "What will I lose?" Start asking yourself, "What could I gain?" You might find more peace, joy, and freedom that you have ever imagined.

Once you've made the decision to let go, healing comes next. Healing is not linear. Some days you'll feel light and free, and other days you might second guessess yourself, and that is normal. Here are some tools to help you navigate this process.

Create a retro for closure. Write a letter to the person or situation you're leaving behind. You don't have to send it. It is for you. But write down everything that you wish you could say and let it go. Burn it, shred it, or talk it away somewhere.

The act of releasing those words can be incredibly freeing. Lean on a support system. Healing doesn't mean doing it alone. Share your journey with trusted friends, a therapist, or a support group. Sometimes just saying, "This is hard." can lighten the load.

Focus on self-compassion. Treat yourself the way that you would a close friend. Be kind, patient, and forgiving towards yourself. You're doing the best that you can, and that is enough. Replace. Don't just remove. When you let go of a toxic relationship, try filling that space with something positive.

Take a class, volunteer, or connect with people who inspire and uplift you. Replacing the void with healthy habits and relationships can help you move forward. Let's talk about silence. Something we often overlook in our busy lives.

Disconnecting doesn't always mean physically removing. Sometimes it's about creating mental and emotional space. When was the last time that you sat in silence? No music, no podcasts, no scrolling, just you and your thoughts.

Silence can be uncomfortable because it forces us to confront what's inside. Our fears, doubts, and unresolved emotions. But here's the thing. Silence is also where the clarity lives. When you allow yourself to sit with the discomfort, you often uncover truths you didn't know were there.

Spend five minutes in silence every day. No agenda, no expectations. Just listen. You might be surprised at what comes up. Guilt is one of the main feelings that keeps us from cutting people off. Saying no can feel like you're letting someone down, especially if you're a people pleaser.

But let me remind you, setting boundaries is an act of self-respect, not selfishness. Repeat this affirmation if you're feeling any guilt. I value our relationship, but I need to take some time for myself. I appreciate you reaching out, but I can't commit to that right now.

This doesn't feel right for me, and I need to take a step away from my own wellbeing. Boundaries don't have to come up with explanations or apologies. A simple no is a complete sentence. Prioritizing your peace creates a ripple effect.

When you choose to protect your energy, you inspire others to do the same. It's like giving them permission to set their own boundaries and prioritize their well-being. You also show up differently in your relationships. You're more present, more grounded, and more aligned with who you truly are.

That energy is contagious, and it draws the right people into your life. People who respect and celebrate the boundaries you've set. Let's take a moment to talk about reconnecting with something bigger than ourselves, nature.

Have you ever noticed how being in nature can instantly shift your perspective? The sound of the wind and feeling the earth beneath your feet. It's grounding in a way that nothing else is. If you're feeling overwhelmed, go outside.

You leave your phone behind. Walk, breathe, and let yourself be fully present. Nature has this way of reminding us that life is cyclical, that growth happens in its own time, that stillness is just as important as movement.

Disconnecting and letting go isn't about creating walls. It is about building bridges to a better version of yourself. It is about peace over drama, clarity over confusion, and selfrespect over guilt. You are allowed to protect your energy.

You are allowed to prioritize your joy and you are allowed to live a life that feels as good as it looks. With love, mafi besties, if you enjoyed today's episode, make sure to share with anyone that might need to listen. Don't forget that we have a membership where as soon as you sign up, you will receive an I missed me hoodie.

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Long form
Published: 2025-04-22
Views: 84
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vipMTimVns
Runtime: 7 min 34 sec (1,180 words)

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to whoever this may impact. Sometimes our lives have to be completely shaken up, changed, and rearranged to relocate us where we're really meant to be. Sometimes change feels like loss. Transformation is scary. And sometimes to discover the best versions of ourselves, we must let go of absolutely everything that's holding us down.

Welcome to I Missed Me, your new safe space. I'm excited to form a part of your healing journey. We've all heard phrases like, "Don't cry, push through it, or stay strong." But what if I told you that the real strength lies in allowing yourself to feel?

What if the only way to truly heal is to embrace and not avoid emotions? Let's start with a simple truth. Emotions are messengers. They're not meant to be ignored, suppressed, or shamed. But instead, they're there to tell us something about what's happening inside us.

Scientific studies show that suppressing emotions can lead to chronic stress, anxiety, and even physical health issues. Allowing yourself to feel and process emotions leads to clarity, peace, and resilience. Feeling emotions doesn't make you weak.

Feeling emotions actually makes you brave. It takes courage to sit with discomfort and explore it rather than running away. Emotions are temporary. What keeps them stuck is resisting them. When you allow yourself to feel them, you let the way move through and it eventually disappears.

Unprocessed emotions don't just go away. They show up in other ways like burnout, irritability, or even physical illness. And it is not about finding time to feel them. It is about making time to feel them because it is necessary.

Here are a few practical steps to help you feel and heal. One, create a safe space. Find a quiet moment where you won't be interrupted. Journaling, meditating, or simply sitting with your thoughts can help you create this space.

Two, name the emotion. Try to identify what you're feeling. Whether it's sadness, anger, or fear, giving your emotion a name can help you better understand it. Three, allow it to exist. This is the hard part to sit with your emotion without trying to fix it or push it away.

You might feel a wave of discomfort, but remember it will pass. Four, release the energy. Emotions are energy. Cry if you need to scream into a pillow. Go for a run, but find a healthy way to release what you're feeling. And five, reflect.

Once the intensity has passed, take a moment to reflect. What triggered this emotion? What can it teach you about yourself? Storing unprocessed emotions can manifest in a variety of ways. Physically, it can manifest as chronic headaches, stomach aches, or even out to immune issues.

Mentally, anxiety, depression, or emotional numbness, relationally, difficulty connecting with others or patterns of miscommunication. Healing doesn't mean never feeling pain again. It means developing the tools to process pain in a healthy way.

Healing isn't about avoiding pain, but it is about learning to navigate with compassion and courage. Remember, your emotions are not your enemy. They are your guides, pointing you towards the parts of yourselves that you need to love and care.

Emotions are not just intangible sensations floating around. They are deeply rooted in our biology. Emotions are the brain's way of processing stimuli and signaling what's important. and you experience an emotion, it activates your lyic system, a part of the brain responsible for emotional responses.

The amygdala, in particular, lights up, triggering a bunch of physical and psychological reactions. And these reactions are your body's way of communicating that something needs attention. Whether it's a threat to your safety, a need for connection, or an opportunity for growth, when we suppress emotions, we disrupt this natural process.

Unprocessed emotions can get stuck in the brain and body leading to increased activity in the stress response systems. And over time, this can contribute to chronic stress, heightened cortisol levels, and even physical illnesses. Allowing yourself to feel and process emotions, activates the prefrontal cortex, the part of the brain responsible for decision making, problem solving, and emotional regulation.

This creates a sense of clarity, helping you move through challenges with greater ease. One of the biggest myths about emotions is that avoiding them makes them go away. Unprocessed emotions don't disappear, they grow. When you suppress emotions, you're essentially pressing pause, not stop.

Those feelings linger in your subconscious, often manifesting in other ways. Maybe it's unexplained irritability. Maybe it's physical pain like tension, headaches, or backachche. Maybe it's burnout or emotional numbness. The body keeps the score.

This means that even if your mind avoids emotions, your body remembers. Healing requires more than just ignoring the pain. It demands that you turn towards it. Emotions are temporary. They're like waves. If you resist them, they grow stronger, crashing over you again and again.

But if you allow yourself to ride the wave, you feel the discomfort. it will eventually recede, leaving you stronger and more resilient. On the other side, healing doesn't mean you'll never feel the pain again. It means you'll have the tools to navigate pain without being consumed by it.

When you embrace your emotions, you reclaim your power. You become more in tune with yourself, more resilient in the face of challenges, and more compassionate towards others. In my personal healing journey, the store tears only left whenever I cried them.

The pain left when I felt it and the anger disappeared when I understood the reason behind it. Emotions mean energy and motion which mean that even though we can't get rid of them, we can transform them into something beautiful. Energy moves.

Therefore, emotions move too. You cannot heal something that isn't acknowledged. Which means that if you want to heal, your attention must go to the pain, not away from it. And you must focus on the hurt to understand what the hurt needs in order to pass.

Remember, your emotions are not your enemy. They're your guides, pointing you to the parts of yourself that need love and care. Next time you feel sadness, anger, or fear bubbling up, try something different. Instead of pushing it away, welcome it.

Sit with it. Feel it. And trust that like a wave, it will pass. Healing is not linear. It is not about perfection. It is about progress. And every time you allow yourself to feel, you're taking one step closer to freedom. With love, mafies, if you enjoyed today's episode, make sure to share with anyone that might need to listen.

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Long form
Published: 2025-05-13
Views: 75
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=caxh9PB_Wmg
Runtime: 11 min 32 sec (1,848 words)

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to whoever this may impact. Sometimes our lives have to be completely shaken up, changed, and rearranged to relocate us where we're really meant to be. Sometimes change feels like loss. Transformation is scary. And sometimes to discover the best versions of ourselves, we must let go of absolutely everything that's holding us down.

Welcome to I Missed Me, your new safe space. I'm excited to form a part of your healing journey. Manifestation isn't magic, it's science. Manifestation isn't just thinking about what you want and waiting for it to fall into your lap, but it is the process of aligning your thoughts, emotions, and actions with your desires.

At its core, manifestation is about harnessing the brain's natural mechanisms to focus on what matters most to you. The brain has something called the reticular activating system. This is a network of neurons that act like a filter, determining what you focus on.

Think of it as a spotlight that shines on certain experiences, ideas or opportunities. When you set a clear intention like I want to attract financial abundance or I want a meaningful relationship, your reticular activating system starts filtering your environment to highlight things that align with that intention. For example, have you ever noticed that when you decide you want a specific car, you suddenly start seeing it everywhere?

That's your reticular activating system. It is not that those cars weren't there before, but it is that your brain is now primed to notice them. When you focus on a goal or desire, you begin to shift your thoughts and behaviors to align with that focus.

This is called a confirmation bias. Your brain starts noticing evidence that supports your beliefs or intentions. But there's more to it than just noticing. When we visualize our goals and feel the emotions as if they've already happened, like joy, gratitude, or excitement, we're rewiring our brains.

When you combine visualization with elevated emotions, you strengthen the neural pathways associated with your desires, making them feel not just possible, but inevitable. Here are some manifestation hacks backed by science and psychology. Get clear on your goals.

Your brain needs clarity to focus instead of desires like I want to be successful. Define what success looks like to you. Is it a specific job, a financial milestone, a personal achievement? The clearer you are, the easier it is for your brain to spot opportunities that align with your vision.

Practice visualization daily. Spend 5 to 10 minutes every day visualizing your goals as if they already happened. Close your eyes and imagine yourself living the life you want. Engage all of your senses. What do you see, hear, feel, smell?

This activates your brain regions as actually experiencing the event, helping to reassure this belief and that it's possible. Use affirmations strategically. Affirmations work best when they're rooted in action and emotion.

Instead of saying, "I am wealthy," try, "I am attracting opportunities that build my wealth." Pair the words with feelings of gratitude and excitement for greater impact. Take aligned action. Manifestation isn't passive. The universe meets you halfway, but you have to take the step towards your goals.

Want to land your dream job? Update your resume, network, and apply for positions. The action shows your brain and the universe that you are serious about what you want. Gratitude amplifies abundance. Gratitude is a manifestation supercharger.

When you focus on what you already have, you shift into a state of abundance which attracts more of the same. Start a daily gratitude practice by writing down three things you're thankful for. Reprogram your limiting beliefs.

Sometimes what's blocking your manifestation isn't external. It is internal. If you believe deep down that you're not worthy of success or love, your subconscious will sabotage your efforts. Identify those beliefs and replace them with empowering ones.

Manifestation doesn't have to be a grand ritual. You can include it in your daily life with these meaning habits. Morning intentions. Start your day by setting a clear intention. For example, today I am open to opportunities that bring me closer to my goals.

Mindful reminders. Use visual cues to keep your goals top of mind. This could be a vision board, a sticky note on your mirror, or even your phone wallpaper. Gratitude breaks. Take a few moments during the day to reflect on what you're grateful for.

This keeps you in a positive high vibrational state, even in reflection. Before bed, review your day. Celebrate any small wins and visualize the next step towards your goals. Surround yourself with positive energy. The people you spend your time with and the content you consume matter.

Surround yourself with uplifting influences that inspire you and motivate you. Here's the real secret to manifestation. It is not just about attracting what you want, but it is about becoming the person who already has it. When you align your thoughts, emotions, and actions with the version of yourself who already achieved your goals, you shift your energy.

You stop chasing and start attracting. Manifestation isn't about getting lucky. But it is about stepping into your power, leveraging the science of the mind, and intentionally creating the life you desire. The secret to getting everything that you want is a combination of clarity, emotion, action, and belief.

When you align your inner world with your outer desires, the possibilities are endless. Remember, manifestation is a lifestyle. It is not something you do once and forget about. It is a daily practice, a way of thinking, and a commitment to growth.

One of the most overlooked aspects of manifestation is the role of your subconscious mind. While your conscious mind might be setting clear goals, it is your subconscious mind that determines your default thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors. This is where most people get stuck.

Think of your subconscious mind as a database. It holds all of your past experiences, memories, and learned behaviors. If your subconscious mind is programmed with limiting beliefs like I am not good enough, money is hard to earn or success is for other people but not me, it will override your conscious efforts to manifest your desires.

Subconscious mind is highly impressionable, especially when your brain is at a state. This brain wave states occur naturally when you're just waking up, falling asleep, or in a deeply relaxed state like during meditation. Use affirmations or positive statements when your brain is most receptive like in the morning or right before bed.

For example, I am worthy of abundance. Opportunities flow to me effortlessly where I am capable of achieving my dreams. Combine mental imagery with elevated emotions. Pairing visualizations with strong positive feelings strengthens your neural pathways in your brain, effectively rewiring your subconscious to believe in your potential.

Hypnosis or deep meditation designed for reprogramming limiting beliefs can be incredibly powerful. These tools guide your mind into relaxed state where you can plant empowering beliefs. At the quantum level, everything in the universe is energy, including your thoughts and emotions.

When you hold a specific thought or feeling, you emit a vibrational frequency that interacts with the energy around you. Raise your emotional baseline. Emotions like joy, gratitude, love, and excitement are high frequency states, while emotions like fear, anger, and doubt are low frequency emotions.

Make it a daily habit to engage in activities that bring you joy. Whether it's listening to music, spending time in nature, or laughing with your friends, detox your environment. Surround yourself with people that influence and match the energy you want to cultivate.

Negativity, gossip, and toxic environments can lower your vibration and block your manifestations. Surrender. Sometimes the key to manifesting is letting go. When you cling to a desire with desperation or fear, you're emitting a frequency of lack.

Instead, trust that what you want is already on its way. Focus on gratitude for the present moment while holding space for your future desires. At the start of each day, decide on one small thing you'd like to attract, like a meaningful conversation, a productive meeting, or a moment of inspiration.

When it happens, celebrate it. Keep a journal of every time something aligns with your desires, no matter how small. Found a dollar on the ground? Someone complimented your work? Write it down. This practice trains your brain to notice evidence of your manifestations.

When you're about to start something, like a meeting, a workout, or even a meal, pause and visualize it going perfectly. Feel the outcome as though it's already happened. Practicing gratitude increases dopamine and serotonin levels in the brain, which boosts feelings of happiness and well-being.

Most importantly, gratitude shifts your focus from what you lack to what you have, aligning you with a mindset of abundance. Instead of only being grateful for what you already have, express gratitude for what you're manifesting as if it's already yours. I'm so thankful for the amazing job offer coming my way.

Or I'm grateful for the love and joy in my life and my dream relationship. Take a walk and with each step, think of something you're grateful for. This combines physical movement, mindfulness, and positivity in a powerful way while visualizing your goals.

Pair the imagery with deep feelings of gratitude. This signals to your brain that what you desire is already real. Strengthen your belief and commitment. Manifestation takes time. Remember, just because you don't see results immediately doesn't mean it's not working.

Trust the process and stay consistent. One of the biggest mistakes is getting stuck on how your desires will come to you. Your job is to focus on the what and the why, and the universe will handle the rest. If you're not seeing progress, it might be the time to examine what's holding you back.

Are there fears, doubts, or limiting beliefs standing in your way? Trying to manifest too many things at once can dilute your focus. Prioritize your top desires and channel your energy into those. Manifestation isn't a quick fix or a one-time event, but it is a lifelong practice of aligning with your highest self.

And as you grow and evolve, so will your desires. The key is to stay curious, flexible, and open to possibilities you might not have imagined. Remember, the secret to getting everything you want is already within you. It's not about forcing or chasing, but it is about becoming, believing, and aligning with love.

Mafies, if you enjoyed today's episode, make sure to share with anyone that might need to listen. Don't forget that we have a membership where as soon as you sign up, you will receive an I missed me hoodie. Plus, you have access to an exclusive episode every single month, printable activities, meditations, monthly challenges, PDF guides, and behindthe-scenes content.

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Long form
Published: 2025-09-08
Views: 66
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=085a7ki-ebw
Runtime: 8 min 9 sec (1,359 words)

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to whoever this may impact. Sometimes our lives have to be completely shaken up, changed, and rearranged to relocate us where we're really meant to be. Sometimes change feels like loss. Transformation is scary. And sometimes to discover the best versions of ourselves, we must let go of absolutely everything that's holding us down.

Welcome to I Missed Me, your new safe space. I'm excited to form a part of your healing journey. Let's define heartbreak. Most of us think of it as something tied to romantic love, like when a relationship ends. But heartbreak comes in many forms.

It's that sharp, heavy feeling when you lose something or someone you deeply care about. It's betrayal, loss, rejection, and it is the moment you realize something isn't what you thought it would be. But here's the good news.

Heartbreak feels overwhelming. It's not permanent. The pain of heartbreak lights up the same parts of your brain as physical pain. So when you say, "My heart hurts," that's not just a metaphor. It's your body reacting as though you've been physically wounded.

And yet your heart doesn't actually break. What's really happening is your heart metaphorically at least is being reshaped. When something breaks, like a plate, we think of it as ruined. But what if we thought about heartbreak like pottery?

Like this beautiful Japanese art form called kitsugi. When a piece of pottery breaks, it's repaired with gold, highlighting the cracks instead of hiding them. The piece becomes more valuable because of its imperfections, not in spite of them.

Heartbreak works the same way. Every crack, every scar, and every moment you've been shattered is an opportunity to rebuild. And in rebuilding, you don't go back to the person you were before. You become someone stronger, wiser, and more attuned to what matters to you.

Heartbreak can actually rewire your brain. When you experience loss, your brain goes through a kind of withdrawal. You are used to a certain level of connection, dopamine, oxytocin, and all the feel-good chemicals. When that's taken away, your brain screams, "What's happening?" But over time, your brain adjusts.

It builds a new neuropathways. This is called neuroplasticity. The brain's ability to adapt and reshape itself. In this reshaping process, it mirrors what's happening emotionally. Every time you face heartbreak, your emotional resilience grows.

It's like a muscle. What if heartbreak wasn't the end of something, but the beginning of something new? Every great artist, writer, and thinker has probably experienced heartbreak in some sort of form. Heartbreak is a catalyst.

It's an alarm clock that wakes us up to where truly meant to be. Sometimes when you're in a dark place, you think you've been buried, but really you've been planted, heartbreak feels like the end, but it's actually the soil where new growth begins. How do we move through heartbreak without letting it break us?

Let yourself feel. Don't rush through the pain. Sit with it. Cry if you need to. And give yourself permission to grieve. Find the lesson. Every heartbreak teaches us something. Maybe it's about what you want in a partner, or maybe it's about the strength you didn't know that you had.

Trust the process. Healing isn't linear. Some days you'll feel fine, and others it'll feel like you're back to square one. That's okay. The important thing is to keep moving forward, one step at a time. Heartbreak isn't the end of the world.

It's the reshaping of it. It's not a break. It's a bend. a chance to turn your pain into something beautiful, meaningful, and uniquely yours. Heartbreak doesn't just feel like it's happening to you. It feels like it's consuming you.

When you form a deep connection with someone, romantic or otherwise, your brain creates a bond, like a super high of trust and intimacy. This connection releases all the those feel-good chemicals, dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin. It's like a cocktail of happiness.

When that bun is severed, your brain essentially goes into a withdrawal. It's the same process that happens with addiction. You crave what you've lost, and without it, your system spirals. That's why heartbreak can feel like a physical ache.

It's not just in your head. Your body is experiencing real symptoms. Their study where participants looked at photos of their exes while researchers scanned their brains. The regions activated were the same ones triggered by physical pain.

Imagine that. a breakup lighting up the same neural pathways as stabbing your toe or burning your hand. Just as your body heals from a bruise or a cut, your brain is wired to recover from this emotional pain as well. It's not easy, but it's possible.

Imagine for a moment that your heart is like clay. When you experience love, connection, and joy, the clay gets molded. It takes form. And when heartbreak happens, it feels like someone smashed it. But here's a beautiful part.

Clay can always be reshaved. A close friend of mine went through a devastating breakup a few years ago. They describe it as feeling like if they'd been shattered into pieces, but over time realize that those pieces weren't lost.

They were just waiting to be rearranged. Heartbreak doesn't destroy you. It chisels away the parts of you that no longer serve your growth. And while it's happening, it's uncomfortable. Just like shaping clay requires pressure, heartbreak requires us to endure moments of discomfort to become something new.

Heartbreak isn't limited to romantic relationships. That's something we don't talk about enough. We think about the heartbreak of losing a friendship or the heartbreak of outgrowing a version of yourself. Have you ever had to leave a job or a city that you loved?

That's heartbreak, too. Heartbeat can sneak into all kinds of corners in your life, but it always brings it up with an opportunity to rebuild. Here's something we don't often think about. Healing is a skill. It's not something that you're bone knowing how to do.

It's something that you learn. When you were a kid, you probably got frustrated trying to tie your shoe, but you practiced it until it became sick in nature. Healing works the same way. It's an active process that takes time and patience.

self-compassion. We're often our own worst critics, but when you're healing, you need to treat yourself with the same kindness you'd offer a friend. Letting go of timelines. Healing isn't linear, and it doesn't follow a schedule.

One of the best things that you can do is to stop comparing your progress to others, finding meaning. This is a big one. Ask yourself, what can I learn from this experience? How can this pain shape me into the person that I want to be?

Healing doesn't erase the pain, but it transforms it. Heartbreak is one of the most powerful drivers of creativity. Some of the greatest works of art, music, and literature were born from heartbreak. You don't have to be a professional artist to do the same.

Writing, painting, singing, and even journaling. These are all ways to process heartbreak and channel it into something meaningful. Heartbreak might take things away from us, but it also gives us something in return. the raw material for creation.

Heartbreak is not the end of the story. It's a chapter. Yes, but it's not the whole book. If you're in the middle of heartbreak right now, know this. You're not broken. You're being reshaped into something even stronger, even more beautiful.

Your heart is not breaking. It's expanding. With love, mafies, if you enjoyed today's episode, make sure to share with anyone that might need to listen. Don't forget that we have a membership where as soon as you sign up, you will receive an I missed me hoodie.

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Long form
Published: 2025-09-29
Views: 65
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nlhk2UULxY0
Runtime: 9 min 1 sec (1,501 words)

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to whoever this may impact. Sometimes our lives have to be completely shaken up, changed, and rearranged to relocate us where we're really meant to be. Sometimes change feels like loss. Transformation is scary. And sometimes to discover the best versions of ourselves, we must let go of absolutely everything that's holding us down.

Welcome to I Missed Me, your new safe space. I'm excited to form a part of your healing journey. We've all been there. Whether it's the slow fate of a friendship, a breakup that hits like a train, or even just realizing that you've outgrown someone, understanding what they happen can bring a sense of clarity and even growth.

A lot of relationships begin with excitement. You see potential, you feel connection, and you dive in. But as time goes on, you might realize that what you want or need isn't what the other person can offer. Take romantic relationships.

One partner might see marriage in the future while the other is happy keeping things casual. Or in friendships, one person might expect constant check-ins and deep conversations while the other prefers a low maintenance bond. When those expectations aren't met, or worse, when they're never discussed, it creates tension.

Misaligned expectations can turn into resentment, even if both people have good intentions. Having honest conversations about what you need and what you're able to give is crucial. And if you find you're fundamentally mismatched, it is okay to walk away.

Communication, the classic relationship buzzword. It's not just about talking, it's about understanding. Sometimes relationships end because people stop communicating effectively. Small misunderstandings pile up and before you know it, there's a wall between you.

This can happen in any relationship, whether it's with a partner, a friend, or even a coworker. One person feels unheard or undervalued but doesn't speak up because they've been worried about causing conflict. Meanwhile, the other person might be oblivious or even feeling the same way.

When these emotions go unressed, they face her. Being open about how you feel, even when it's uncomfortable, can save a relationship. But sometimes, despite our best efforts, the damage is too deep or the communication styles just are incompatible.

Sometimes relationships end not because something went wrong, but because people grow in different directions. Think about the friends that you had in high school or college. You might have been inseparable with them. But as you age, your priorities, interests, and values evolve, and that's normal.

In romantic relationships, personal growth can be even more complicated. One partner might embark on a journey of self-rediscovery, changing careers, moving cities, or even reassessing themselves. But if the other person isn't growing at the same pace or in the same direction, the relationship can feel like it's holding one or both of them down.

It's hard to let go of someone that you still care about. But growth sometimes requires making space for new connections and opportunities. Why do relationships end? Sometimes it's misalignment of expectations and other times it's poor communication and often it's just life growth change and the natural change of life and flow of human connection.

Endings aren't failures, they're transactions. They create space for you to better understand yourself and what you need. Relationships don't exist in a bubble. They're influenced by the world around us, our past experiences, and even our inner worlds.

Sometimes it's not just the people in the relationship who are the problem. It's the circumstances they're navigating. External stressors like financial struggles, demanding careers, or even the challenges of raising a family can take a toll.

So, people who genuinely love each other but are constantly exhausted and overwhelmed. Their limited emotional weight might mean less time to connect, more arguments, or even feelings of neglect. External stress doesn't just impact romantic relationships.

In friendships, for instance, if one person is going through a rough time, like grieving, dealing with burnout, or facing mental health challenges, it can create a temporary imbalance. The friend on the receiving might feel helpless, or even frustrated. They don't know how to support their loved one.

This doesn't mean that their relationships are doomed, but they do require resilience and patience. Recognizing when external pressures are driving the conflict and addressing them together can sometimes save the bond. Another factor is the role that evolving social dynamics plays in the lifespan of a relationship.

Think about how the digital age has changed the way we connect. Social media, texting, and even dating apps have made it easier than ever to meet new people, but they've also created new challenges. Comparison can creep in when you see threats seemingly perfect with relationships online, where you might notice how easy it is for miscommunication to arise over a text, or when someone's red receipt stays blue, but there's no reply.

There's also the fact that relationships now face a globalized world. Long-distance connections are more common than ever. While technology helps bridge the gap, physical distance can add strain, especially when there's no clear path to eventually being in the same place.

As our social landscape shift, relationships must adapt. Some make it, but others falter under the weight of these changes. Past experiences shaped who we are. And if those experiences involve pain, whether it's childhood neglect, betrayal, or past relationship failures, they can leave lasting scars.

Trauma often teaches us to protect ourselves, sometimes at the expense of building healthy connections. Someone with unresolved abandonment issues might cling too tightly to a partner, while another person might push people away before they can even get too close. These patterns can create tension, misunderstanding, and ultimately lead a relationship to end if they're not addressed.

Healing is possible. Therapy, self-awareness, and support can help break these cycles, but it takes time, and not all relationships will survive the process. Sometimes two people are perfect for each other, just not at the same time.

Maybe one person is focused on building their career while the other is ready to settle down. Or one friend might be in the face of self-discovery, needing space, while the other is craving closeness. Timing is one of those frustrating factors because it feels out of our control, but it teaches us an important lesson.

Not all relationships are meant to last forever, and that's okay. Some are there to teach us something in the moment, to help us grow, or to bring joy when we need it the most. Relationships don't end because you don't deserve love.

Relationships end because you deserve to be loved at the maximum capacity. And sometimes meeting and experiencing that love requires to let go as a first step. Relationships end because you deserve more, because you deserve different, and because not everyone is meant to go to where you are directed to.

Relationships end because sometimes taking different paths require separation. Because not everyone is capable enough to hold your growth and because even though they are exactly who you needed when you met them, they don't align with the person that you are becoming anymore. Relationships end as a form of protection.

Relationships end as an act of love from the universe and relationships end as a message to let you know that you are just one step closer to meeting the one. Take a moment to think about the relationships in your life. Are there any that feel fragile or strained right now?

Reflect and ask yourself what role you might be playing in the dynamic. Are you communicating openly? Are your expectations clear? Reach out and if it feels right, initiate a conversation. Approach it with curiosity and compassion rather than blame.

Assess, is this relationship adding value to your life or is it depleting you? It's okay to acknowledge when something is no longer serving you. And remember, endings aren't just losses. They're opportunities for transformation.

They make room for deeper connections with yourself and others. Relationships, like life, are dynamic. They're not static entitles to be preserved exactly as they are. They're living, breathing parts of our existence, constantly changing and evolving.

If a relationship ends, it doesn't erase the good times you shared. It doesn't diminish the love, joy, or growth that came from it. And instead, it becomes a chapter in your story and a stepping stone to the next phase of your journey.

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Long form
Published: 2025-05-29
Views: 65
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9iiZFO0wl1o
Runtime: 8 min 52 sec (1,509 words)

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to whoever this may impact. Sometimes our lives have to be completely shaken up, changed, and rearranged to relocate us where we're really meant to be. Sometimes change feels like loss. Transformation is scary. And sometimes to discover the best versions of ourselves, we must let go of absolutely everything that's holding us down.

Welcome to I Missed Me, your new safe space. I'm excited to form a part of your healing journey. Solitude and loneliness. While these words might seem interchangeable, they describe two very different experiences. Solitude is a state of being alone, but it doesn't carry a negative connotation.

It is a choice. It is a deliberate moment to step away from the noise and reconnect with yourself. It is empowering. Loneliness, on the other hand, is the emotional experience of feeling disconnected from others, even when surrounded by people.

Loneliness is not about physical isolation, but it is about perceived lack of meaningful connections. Solitude, however, is the opposite. It is about choosing to connect meaningfully with yourself. You can never feel lonely if you like the person that you're alone with.

This is the heart of learning to love your own company. But how do we get there? Self-acceptance is key. Being kind to yourself is a very transformative practice. When you embrace your imperfections and acknowledge your worth, spending time alone becomes an opportunity for reflection, growth, and even joy.

Mindfulness practices such as meditation can increase gray matter in the brain, particularly in areas associated with self-awareness and emotional regulation. This means that by spending intentional time alone, you're literally rewiring your brain to feel more at ease and resilient. Solitude is not just about enjoying your own company, but it is a powerful tool for healing.

When we're constantly surrounded by external stimuli, we don't give ourselves the space to process emotions or gain clarity. In solitude, your brain gets a break. The default mode network, a group of brain regions that activates when you're not focused on the outside world, kicks in.

This network is linked to introspection and self-reflection. And it allows you to process past experiences, make sense of your emotions, and even spark creativity. It is in these quiet moments that the mind can wander, innovate, and heal.

Loneliness is often seen as something to avoid at all costs. But what if we reframe loneliness as a teacher? When you feel lonely, your brain is signaling a need for connection, not just with others, but with yourself. Instead of resisting it, try asking, "What is this feeling trying to show me?" Maybe it's an opportunity to reconnect with forgotten hobbies.

Or to explore who you are beyond your relationship with others. Create rituals for yourself. Whether it's making your morning coffee, journaling, or going for a walk, these small acts can anchor your day and make solitude feel special.

Practice mindfulness. Sit with your thoughts without judgment. Meditation apps can guide you through the process. Limit distractions. Set boundaries with technology. Solitude isn't scrolling on your phone, but it is about being present with yourself.

Explore your passions. Rediscover old hobbies or try new ones like painting, gardening, writing. All of these activities allow you to tap into the flow states where time melts away. Journal your feelings. Writing down your thoughts can help you process emotions and see your growth over time.

Learning to love solitude is like building a muscle. It takes time and it takes practice. But once you embrace it, you'll find that being alone isn't lonely. It is liberating. You'll discover that the quiet moments hold the answers you've been looking for, and they'll help you show up more authentically in your relationships and the world.

Take that solo walk, enjoy that dinner for one, and lean into the beauty of your own company. Humans are social creatures. Thousands of years ago, being part of a group was essential for survival, for protection, for food, and reproduction all depend on staying connected with a community.

Our brains are hardwired to interpret social isolation as a threat. The amygdala, the brain's fear center, lights up when we feel lonely, triggering stress responses like increased heart rate and heightened alertness. It is the brain's way of saying, "You need your tribe." However, what once was a survival mechanism doesn't always serve us in today's world.

Solitude isn't dangerous. In fact, when we embrace it, it can become a very powerful space for growth and self-discovery. We live in an age where being constantly connected is the norm. Social media, instant messaging, and emailing have made it possible to stay in touch 24/7.

But these tools can leave us feeling even more isolated than ever. Online interactions often lack depth. While technology keeps us connected, it also diminishes the quality of our relationships. Solitude, intentional solitude has become rare.

Reclaiming solitude starts with setting boundaries. When you allow yourself to step away from constant stimulation, you make room for clarity, creativity, and a deeper connection to yourself. One of the most overlooked benefits of solitude is the ability to enhance creativity and problem solving.

When your brain is unfocused on external tasks, it activates your creativity. It starts to imagine future possibilities in connecting seemingly unrelated ideas. That's why so many great ideas come to us in the shower or doing a quiet walk.

A lot of successful people seek solitude, using it as a way to dive deep into their inner worlds. Solitude creates the mental space needed for innovation and breakthroughs. If you're facing a challenge or if you're feeling stuck, try stepping away from the noise and spending some intentional time alone.

Another powerful benefit of solitude is its ability to build emotional resilience. When you spend time alone, you're forced to sit with your thoughts and emotions. And while that can feel uncomfortable at first, it is one of the best ways to work on your emotional intelligence.

In solitude, you learn to identify and process your feelings without external distractions. This practice helps you develop a deeper understanding of yourself and a greater capacity to handle life's ups and downs. People who regularly engage in solitary activities like journaling, meditation, or effective walking report lower levels of anxiety and higher levels of self-esteem.

It is like building a foundation of inner strength that you can rely on no matter what life throws at you. While solitude is something we choose, loneliness often feels like something that happens to us. Loneliness can be a catalyst for change.

When you feel lonely, it is your mind's way of telling you that something needs attention. What do I need right now? And then take steps to meet that need. Whether it's through self-care or seeking support. Begin with just 10 minutes a day.

Sit quietly. Take a few deep breaths and notice what comes up. Don't judge your thoughts. Simply observe them. Designate a corner of your home for solitude. A place where you can retreat to read, meditate, or simply be. Surround yourself with things that make you feel calm and inspired.

Try activities you've always wanted to do but haven't. Go to a movie alone, visit a museum, or take yourself out on a date. These experiences can help you build confidence and independence. And at the end of each day, write down three things you're grateful for.

This practice can shift your focus from what you lack to what you have, helping you feel more content with your solitude. When you learn to love your own company, the benefits don't stop with you. They ripple outwards into your relationships and into your community.

Being comfortable alone allows you to show up more authentically in your interactions with others. You're not seeking connection out of neediness, but from a place of wholeness, and these creates healthier, more fulfilling relationships. Solitude also makes you more empathetic.

When you understand your own emotions, you're better equipped to understand and support others. It is a win for everyone around you. Learning to appreciate solitude is one of the most transformative gifts you can ever give to yourself.

It is not about escaping the world, but about stepping back to recharge, reflect, and reconnect with your true self. Remember, being alone doesn't mean being lonely. It is an opportunity to deeper your relationship with the one person you will always have for the rest of your life.

Yourself with love. Mafies, if you enjoyed today's episode, make sure to share with anyone that might need to listen. Don't forget that we have a membership where as soon as you sign up, you will receive an I missed me hoodie.

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Long form
Published: 2025-04-02
Views: 59
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bXWDWUvgQiU
Runtime: 8 min 30 sec (1,360 words)

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to whoever this may impact. Sometimes our lives have to be completely shaken up, changed, and rearranged to relocate us where we're really meant to be. Sometimes change feels like loss. Transformation is scary. And sometimes to discover the best versions of ourselves, we must let go of absolutely everything that's holding us down.

Welcome to I Missed Me, your new safe space. I'm excited to form a part of your healing journey. The obsession with happiness is making us miserable. It sounds harsh, but it's true. Everywhere we turn, we're overwhelmed with messages telling us to be positive and to choose joy.

It is literally everywhere on Instagram posts, self-help books, and even coffee mugs. When we chase happiness like it's a finish line, we end up running away from everything else. From sadness, from anger, disappointment, these emotions get shoved into a dark corner labeled bad vibes.

When we suppress those emotions, instead of disappearing, they linger and they eventually demand our attention in ways that are often more destructive. Let's talk about sadness. What if I told you that sadness isn't something to fix, but something to feel?

Sadness is like rain. It is uncomfortable, but it is also very cleansing. It washes over us, clears the air, and makes us room for growth. When I stopped fighting the sadness and I let myself fully feel it, I learned something very powerful.

Sadness isn't the enemy. It is a teacher. It slows us down. It makes us reflect. And often points us towards what really matters. Life isn't meant to be a constant state of happiness. Imagine a song that's only one note. Emotions are like music.

The lows make the highs more meaningful. Without contrast, happiness wouldn't even exist as a concept. When we stop pressuring ourselves to be happy all the time, we give ourselves permission to just be, to exist in whatever emotional state we're at the moment.

And that's liberating. When you allow yourself to feel sadness, you also unlock deeper empathy, richer connections, and a stronger selves of self-awareness. It is a gift. Healing happens when we stop labeling emotions as good or bad.

and instead we honor them all as a part of the human experience. Anger is just a boundary setter. Fear a survival mechanism in grief, a testament of love. One practice that really helped me was mindfulness. It is not about fixing emotions but witnessing them.

Sit with your sadness. Name it and ask it what is it here to teach you. Sometimes just acknowledging how you feel is enough to take the pain away. Another powerful tool is journaling. Write it all down. The raw, the unfiltered thoughts, no judgment.

The act of putting a pen on a paper is more healing than you think. Happiness really is overrated. At least the kind of happiness that sold as a permanent state of being. Because real happiness, the kind that feels fulfilling, comes from embracing life in all its messiness and beautiful complexity.

You don't need to be happy all the time. You just need to be honest with yourself, with your emotions, and with the people around you. The pursuit of happiness sounds counterintuitive, but this relentless chase for happiness, particularly the shined creative version we're sold, might be making us miserable.

Happiness as a concept has been idealized to the point where we believe anything else other than constant positivity is failure. But here's the truth. Life isn't designed to be a one long high. Happiness isn't meant to be permanent.

It is driven by a complex interplay of chemicals like dopamine, serotonin, and oxytocin. Sometimes they call them the feel-good neurotransmitters. Dopamine, for example, it is often linked to reward and pleasure, but it is also a driver for motivation.

Once we achieve something, our dopamine levels drop, encouraging us to seek out the next goal. This is why the feeling of happiness after a big win or accomplishment tends to fade quickly. It is not meant to last. This concept is called the hyonic tremill.

No matter how much happiness you achieve, your brain resets to a baseline level. You might buy a new car, land your dream job, or even fall in love. But over time, theoria slows down and your brain recalibrates. This isn't a flaw in your brain.

It is an evolutionary feature. It keeps us striving and growing. But it also means that tying your sense of worth to constant happiness sets you up for disappointment. When we suppress negative emotions like sadness, anger, or fear, they don't just go away, but they end up manifesting in unexpected ways like chronic stress, anxiety, or even physical health issues.

Suppressing emotions actually make them stronger. It's like trying to hold a beach ball underwater. The harder you push, the more forcefully it will pop back up. This is why allowing yourself to feel the full range of emotions is so important.

Emotional acceptance, not avoidance, leads to greater psychological resilience and overall well-being. Part of the answer as to why we're so obsessed with happiness lies in our culture. From self-help gurus to social media influencers, there is a multi-billion dollar industry built around selling us the idea that happiness is a constant state we can achieve if only we try hard enough, buy the right product, or follow the right steps.

This creates a very dangerous feedback loop. When we're not happy, we feel like we failed. And because we're taught to view sadness or anger as bad, we hide them, even from ourselves. But emotions don't work like that. They're not binary.

They're not good or bad. They're just information. They're your body and mind's way of telling you something is wrong. Ignoring them doesn't make them disappear. It just makes the message louder, often in ways that disrupt your life.

Instead of chasing happiness, what if we focus on cultivated meaning? People who pursue purpose, connection, and authenticity often experience greater life satisfaction than those who chase temporary moments of happiness. Enduring through grief can deepen our empathy.

Facing fear can lead us to courage, and even anger, when acknowledged, can be a catalyst for setting boundaries and sparking change. How do we step off the happiness treadmill and embrace the full range of our emotions? Practice emotional labeling.

When you label an emotion, I'm feeling sad or I'm feeling angry, you engage your brain's prefrontal cortex, which helps you process the emotion instead of being overwhelmed by it. Engage in gratitude beyond the surface. Gratitude isn't just about counting blessings.

It is also about appreciating life's lessons, even the hard ones. Write down what you're learning, not just about your success. Seek meaning over happiness. Reflect on what truly matters to you. What values do you want to live by?

Aligning your life with these values can bring a sense of fulfillment. Revisit your narrative. If you catch yourself thinking, I should be happy. Challenge that thought and ask yourself why do you believe that? Whether it's serving you, happiness as it sold to us is overrated.

The real treasure lies in embracing the full, messy, beautiful spectrum of human emotion. When we stop chasing happiness and start embracing meaning, we allow ourselves to fully experience life. Not just its highlights. Next time you feel sadness, anger, or disappointment.

Don't shove it aside, but invite it in. Listen to what it has to teach you. Life isn't about being happy all the time, but it is about feeling whole with love. Mafi besties. If you enjoyed today's episode, make sure to share with anyone that might need to listen.

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Short form
Published: 2026-01-23
Views: 2,042
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6gJ2TV5pzxc
Runtime: 19 sec (74 words)

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Your success is worth [music] more than any opinion. This is one of the biggest mistakes and one of the biggest things that sets people back. Opinions. What are they going to think about me? Are they going to think I'm embarrassing?

Are they [music] going to think I'm cringy? Are they going to judge me for doing this? your success and whatever you're going to experience [music] if you get over that fear.

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Short form
Published: 2026-01-22
Views: 1,654
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U_StVKEKhAg
Runtime: 43 sec (207 words)

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No one is going to do [music] it for you. Whatever it is you choose to put in that sentence, no one is going to go to the gym for you. No one is going to start that project [music] for you. No one is going to post for you if you want to start on social media.

No one is going to do that job interview for you. No one is going to do it [music] for you. If you want to grow, if you want to succeed, and if you want to put yourself in that experience or if you want to [music] be that future version of yourself that you dream about becoming, you have to stand up and put yourself in situations that will get you where you want to go.

You want to build muscle and become stronger, you have to start going to the gym. If you [music] want to work with brands and you want to receive PR packages, you have to start posting. You want your dream job and you want to work traveling the world or in this office or in this place, you have to do that job interview.

No one is going to do it for

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Short form
Published: 2026-01-29
Views: 1,204
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PJrZEPjs2Bk
Runtime: 20 sec (97 words)

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You are not for everyone, and you have to make peace with that, and the more that you try to be for everyone, the less that you're going to be for anyone. Not everyone is going to like you. You're not going to like everyone.

That is natural, and that's okay. And it's supposed to be like that because we all have different personalities. There are people that you're going to meet, and you're [music] going to completely and immediately click. There's people that you're going to meet, and your body is going to physically repel them.

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Short form
Published: 2026-01-20
Views: 1,170
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6Fj0FGbDor8
Runtime: 33 sec (132 words)

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God puts us through [music] hard times to get closer to him because when we're thriving and we're doing good, we don't. [music] We just enjoy and we just take advantage of being happy because it doesn't [music] happen quote unquote often and we just make sure to take every single opportunity that is presented in front of us. And again, we enjoy and we thrive and we have fun.

However, to learn and to grow and to be better, we wait until we're going through heartbreak. We wait until life defeats us and we have to get up and be like, "Maybe I do have to learn this. [music] Maybe I do have to reflect on this.

Maybe to get over the Spain I do have to go through this and

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Short form
Published: 2026-01-28
Views: 1,077
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FJeoawVUaq0
Runtime: 17 sec (74 words)

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Everyone and everything that you choose [music] to keep in your life should feel aligned. And if they don't, they're just simply not for you. It does not [music] have to mean that they're bad people, it does not have to mean that they're bad things or bad situations or bad relationships.

It [music] just means that they're not for you, and that is okay. Not everything and not everyone is supposed to be.

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Short form
Published: 2026-01-24
Views: 844
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KOJWVqqa32g
Runtime: 58 sec (229 words)

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It only has to make sense to you. Whatever it is that you know is going to make you happy, whatever it is that you know that is going to bring you peace and whatever it is that you and your gut is telling you that will make you the happiest, most joyful version of yourself, but other people don't necessarily understand [music] it or agree with you. It is your life.

They have their own individual lives and they are judging you based on their personal experiences which doesn't mean that will be your reality. A [music] lot of times we let ourselves be influenced by our family or our friends or our mentors or the people around us that want our highest good and want to see us thriving and want to see us do good. But the truth is that their opinions come from their personal experiences and their personal upbringing and they are judging you based on the things that they have gone through which doesn't mean that are the same things that you are going to go through.

So listen to your gut and listen to your instincts and listen to that part of yourself that knows that whatever it is that you're about to do will make you the happiest version of yourself because it only has to [music] make sense to You.

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Short form
Published: 2026-02-08
Views: 776
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KmIO_8R3_9I
Runtime: 40 sec (119 words)

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[singing] I want you to take [music] a pause. Give yourself a little bit of grace. Give yourself a little bit of patience and ask yourself, what if the issue isn't [music] actually me? What if the issue isn't you? What if the issue is the fact [music] that we are constantly surrounded by pressure and we are constantly surrounded by comparison of how the year starts for others.

And what if the issue is [music] believing that growth has a deadline. The truth is our real change doesn't require a change of calendar. [music] Real change doesn't require a January 1st. Real change doesn't follow months and real change [music] doesn't have a date.

Real change follows awareness.

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Short form
Published: 2026-01-21
Views: 771
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oGhAZC7YPGs
Runtime: 43 sec (165 words)

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Am I truly happy or am I just comfortable? And answer yourself honestly and answer yourself with a lot of love and compassion and grace. Also again a lot of honesty. Am I truly happy or am I just comfortable? Is there something that I could be doing right now that I am choosing not to do because I am already happy and I am already good.

There's no reason as to why I should push myself to do a hard thing or there's no reason as to why I should push myself to start something new or there is no reason as to why I should push myself to put myself in an uncomfortable situation. I am already doing good. And that is not how growth happens.

Growth doesn't happen when you feel comfortable. Growth happens when even when you're comfortable, you make the decision to push yourself to be in an uncomfortable situation because you know that that is going to make you

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Short form
Published: 2026-02-10
Views: 702
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BVVY3M5M3o4
Runtime: 35 sec (122 words)

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The moment and the day that you wake up with awareness that you want [music] to change and promising yourself that this time you're actually going to be disciplined. That is the day that your year is actually going to change. Most real restarts don't come with [music] announcements.

They don't come with vision boards and they don't come because they have to come because a calendar said so. They come quietly and they come after random days of you having enough, of procrastinating, and [music] of feeling lazy. And after honest moments with yourself where you finally admit that something isn't working for you anymore and that you actually want to change your life and that you actually want to feel

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Short form
Published: 2026-02-04
Views: 691
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RiJlQ8cFbrU
Runtime: 21 sec (50 words)

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The truth is that real change doesn't require a change of calendar. Real change doesn't require a January 1st. Real [music] change doesn't follow months and real change doesn't have a date. Real change [music] follows awareness.

And that is the only thing that real change and discipline requires. Awareness.

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Short form
Published: 2026-02-05
Views: 687
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q9nL2_kuvb4
Runtime: 21 sec (50 words)

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The truth is that real change doesn't require a change of calendar. Real change doesn't require a January [music] 1st. Real change doesn't follow months and real change doesn't have a date. Real change follows awareness. And that [music] is the only thing that real change and discipline requires awareness.

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Short form
Published: 2026-02-05
Views: 618
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8JpSbF1HwZY
Runtime: 39 sec (116 words)

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I want you to take a pause, give yourself a little bit of grace, give yourself a little bit of patience, and [music] ask yourself, what if the issue isn't actually me? What if the issue isn't you? What if the issue is the fact [music] that we are constantly surrounded by pressure and we are constantly surrounded by comparison [music] of how the year starts for others?

And what if the issue is believing that growth has a deadline? The truth is that real change doesn't require a [music] change of calendar. Real change doesn't require a January 1st. Real change doesn't follow months and real change doesn't have a date.

Rio chain follows awareness.

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Short form
Published: 2026-01-28
Views: 546
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AiT6AKu2rXw
Runtime: 21 sec (76 words)

The script, as delivered on camera

Please make time [music] for yourself. Make time for yourself before you hit a burnout state. Make time for yourself before you hit rock bottom and God forces you to make time [music] for yourself. Make time for yourself before you don't only feel it emotionally or spiritually, but before [music] you start feeling it physically.

Make time for yourself to think. Make time for yourself to reflect. Make [music] time for yourself to just be

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Client: Mafe Anzures
Format: Short form
Published: 2026-01-28
Views: 29
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-WYkN_fvmg4
Runtime: 17 sec (72 words)

The script, as delivered on camera

Everyone and everything that you choose [music] to keep in your life should feel aligned. And if they don't, they're just simply not for you. It does [music] not have to mean that they're bad people. Does not have to mean that they're bad things or bad situations or bad relationships.

It [music] just means that they're not for you. And that is okay. Not everything and not everyone is supposed to

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